12/10/2025
Perimenopause & Menopause: How they affect your relationships and how to navigate with kindness.
If you’re going through perimenopause or menopause, you’ve probably noticed that it’s not just about hot flashes or night sweats. It can affect your emotions, energy, self-image and yes, your relationships too. This stage of life can feel like a rollercoaster some days, but with a bit of awareness and honest communication, it’s absolutely possible to stay connected to yourself and the people you love.
Emotions can run high
One minute you’re fine, the next minute you’re snapping over something small or feeling teary for no clear reason. Hormonal changes can make moods feel unpredictable, and that can affect how you communicate with your partner, friends, or family.
The key is to notice it and talk about it. Saying something like, “I’m having a bit of a wobbly day it’s not you,” can go a long way. It helps the people around you understand what’s happening instead of taking things personally.
Intimacy might feel different
This is a big one. Many women notice changes in libido, vaginal dryness, or just feeling “less in the mood” than before. These changes are completely normal, but if they’re not talked about, they can create distance or confusion in a relationship.
Try being honest with your partner about what you’re feeling. Intimacy doesn’t have to disappear it might just look a little different for a while. Slower moments, more cuddles, or exploring other forms of closeness can keep the connection strong. And if symptoms are affecting your comfort, your GP or a menopause specialist can offer real solutions.
Your sense of self might shift
Menopause can stir up big feelings about aging, identity, and self-worth. It’s common to feel a bit “lost” or unlike yourself at times. These feelings can spill over into how you relate to others, sometimes making you more withdrawn or less confident.
Be gentle with yourself. This isn’t a failure it’s a transition. Spend time doing things that make you feel good and remind you of who you are beyond the symptoms. Whether that’s walking with friends, picking up an old hobby, or just taking quiet time for yourself, little acts of self-kindness make a difference.
Self-Care and Support make a difference
The truth is, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Looking after your body, mind, and heart during this stage is essential not just for you, but for the health of your relationships too.
Moving your body, eating well, and finding ways to relax (think yoga, breathing exercises, journaling, or just saying “no” more often) can help you feel more balanced. And don’t be afraid to lean on your friends, family, or support groups. Talking to other women who “get it” can be incredibly comforting.
Perimenopause and menopause can definitely shake things up in your relationships, but they can also bring new layers of honesty and closeness if you let them. The most important thing is to be kind to yourself and keep the lines of communication open with the people who matter. This is a season of change but with a little care, it can also be a season of growth.
Happy Sunday☺️