06/12/2025
Ever cared about someone more than they cared about helping themselves? Exhausting, isn’t it?
It is one of the most draining things in life.
Caring dearly about someone, seeing exactly what they’re capable of… yet knowing they’re not ready to take the step you know would change everything for them.
You can give advice, shine a light, open the door…
But if they don’t walk through it?
Nothing changes. Not really.
Because change can’t be pushed, dragged, or negotiated.
It only works when it comes from inside.
If you’re in that space right now, here are a few reminders I’ve learned the hard way:
1. Lead with your actions, not your arguments.
People aren’t moved by lectures, they’re moved by seeing what’s possible. Live your truth. Let them watch your results.
2. Detach with love. Let go.
Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care.
It means you respect their timing, their capacity, and their journey, even when it doesn’t match yours.
3. Protect your energy.
Trying to “fix” people is the fastest path to emotional bankruptcy. Your peace matters. Fill your own cup first.
4. Control what’s yours, release what’s not.
You can support someone. You cannot choose for them. Their timing, their readiness, their decisions? Not your job. Let that weight go.
5. Stay compassionate but stay grounded.
Empathy is powerful. Just make sure your kindness includes you, not just everyone else.
6. Celebrate the small wins, theirs and yours.
Awareness is progress. A single step is progress. But their transformation is not your identity.
If this resonates, it’s because you have a big heart like me, just remember it’s allowed to beat for you too. 💙
Have a great Friday everyone!
And if you are at the stage of your journey where a big change is needed but you don’t know where to start, just reach out. I ll do my best to guide you.