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15/01/2026

Being liked isn’t the same as being fulfilled.

For years, I thought being the “nice one” was the goal.

The one who never ruffled feathers. The one everyone said was easy to work with.”

But behind the smiles and the praise, I felt… empty.

Because being liked doesn’t always mean being seen.

So many women are taught to make themselves smaller, quieter, more agreeable just to keep the peace.

But true lasting fulfilment doesn’t come from pleasing others while self abandoning . It comes from honouring yourself respecting yourself and choosing yourself first.

The moment I stopped chasing external approval and started chasing inner alignment, was the start of my journey back to me and everything changed.

I found my voice. My confidence. My joy. I began to remember that I mattered.

Lovely, if you’ve been dimming your light to make others comfortable, this is your reminder:

You don’t need to be liked by everyone to live a life you love.

You just need to be you.

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14/01/2026

Awareness is the first step in transformation and healing.

This is an exploration. Not a conclusion.
Awareness is the beginning not the demand.

13/01/2026

I used to think being the “good girl” was the key to success.

If I just worked harder, smiled more, and kept everyone happy, everything would fall into place.

I believed that if I over functioned put everyone else first then I would feel seen validated and worthy.

But the truth

It was keeping me small, overwhelmed and out of alignment with my true self and my own needs,

If I just worked harder, smiled more, and kept everyone happy, everything would fall into place.

I was exhausted from trying to be everything for everyone, and somewhere along the way, I lost touch with what I actually wanted.

The day I realised that being “good” was costing me my peace, my voice, and my energy… everything changed.

Now, I’m rewriting the rules.
No more shrinking. No more over-giving. No more apologising for taking up space.

Now I'm on a journey of choosing myself first

If this hits home, you’ll love my free guide “5 Signs You’ve Outgrown the Good Girl Role.”

It’s your gentle nudge to start reclaiming your power and stepping into the woman you’re meant to be.

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10/01/2026

Awareness is Queen 👑

08/01/2026

Can we talk about January for a moment…The pretend New Year

We’ve barely exhaled from Christmas.
The lights have come down.
The gatherings are over.
The calendar declares: New Year. New cycle. Back to normal.

And yet…
outside, the earth is still sleeping.

The trees are bare.
The days are short.
The light is soft and scarce.
The Solstice which marks the middle of winter was only weeks ago.

Nothing in nature is rushing.
Nothing is “starting again.”

And if you’re honest… your body isn’t either.

This is where the quiet misalignment creeps in.

Where we’re told to get up get ready let’s go, while our nervous system is whispering rest, slow down, go within.

Where motivation feels flat, energy feels low, and we wonder what’s wrong with us.

Nothing is wrong with you.

You are responding intelligently and instinctively to winter in a world that treats humans like machines.

January, despite what productivity culture says, is not a time of full bloom.
It’s a threshold month.
A liminal space.
A gentle inward tide.

And yes we still have responsibilities.
Bills, work, children, commitments.
We can’t disappear into a cave (tempting though it is).

So the question isn’t “How do I hibernate?”
It’s “How do I soften?”

Here are a few small, human ways to move through this month with kindness:

✨ Lower the bar without lowering your self-worth

January is not the month for reinvention. Let it be a month for maintenance, reflection .and review.

Showing up counts.

✨ Create micro-retreats
Five minutes of quiet before the day begins. A slower cup of tea. One evening a week with no output, no fixing, no becoming.

✨ Work with the light
Earlier nights. Gentler mornings. If your energy dips, listen don’t bully yourself through it.

✨ Warm the body, soothe the nervous system
Warm foods. Baths. Layers. Touch. Soft music. Your system needs safety more than stimulation right now.

✨ Review, don’t resolve
This is a beautiful time to reflect, not to force clarity. Let insights arrive organically rather than demanding answers.

✨ Name what you’re feeling
Seasonal heaviness isn’t weakness. It’s sensitivity.

And sensitivity is wisdom in a culture that’s forgotten how to feel.

If January feels heavy, slow, tender or foggy…
you are not behind.
You are in season.
Honour this

The “new year” will come when the light returns not when the calendar says so.

Until then, move gently.
Your body remembers the truth, even if the world has forgotten it. 🤍

06/01/2026

Capacity to feel

In a culture that numbs, dissociates, distracts feeling is revolutionary.
Grief, tenderness, anger, joy, awe… all of it. When we allow ourselves to feel, we stop outsourcing harm onto others unconsciously.

03/01/2026

"I must be a mermaid, Rango. I have no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living."

Anais Nin…

31/12/2025

A refreshing approach for this time of the year💜

24/12/2025

Wishing you all Love , peace, presence,moments of calm and connection. This is a time where there is enormous pressure to perform, to paint on a mask of universal happiness, when the reality is thus time of year can be extremely challenging for many people for a multitude of different reasons.

However you choose to celebrate this season or not, I invite you reclaim your personal power, choose yourself first in even the smallest of ways and be the Love to yourself that you would choose to receive.

With Love
Tonia💜💜💜

19/12/2025

18/12/2025

Fall fully inLive with yourself First and watch how the world mirrors more back to you.