Jodie Dilliway Piece of Mind Counselling

Jodie Dilliway Piece of Mind Counselling Helping busy professionals navigate work/life challenges: www.pieceofmindcounselling.co.uk

23/09/2025

Sometimes we get stuck in our feelings.
Grief. Sadness. Anger. Frustration.
The heaviness that won’t shift or move on.

It might feel uncomfortable to hear this, but sometimes our feelings are a choice, let me explain:

✨ Pain happens to us. It’s the loss, the event, the thing we can’t control. It’s real, it’s genuine, it’s unavoidable.
✨ Suffering is what we do with it afterwards. It’s scrolling through old texts, replaying memories, smelling the aftershave left behind. It’s a choice, sometimes conscious, sometimes not.

And I get it. Choosing suffering isn’t always wrong. Sometimes we need to lean into it, to cry with the photos, to curl up with ice cream and a blanket, to help us process. That’s human. You’re only human.

But when you feel stuck, ask yourself:
💛 Am I choosing this?
💛 Is it helping me right now, or am I re-wounding myself?

Pain we don’t get to choose.
Suffering? We do.

And remembering that choice can be a small but powerful step towards healing.

All couples argue. All families clash. All friends fall out. It’s not the presence of conflict that breaks relationships...
18/09/2025

All couples argue. All families clash. All friends fall out. It’s not the presence of conflict that breaks relationships… it’s the absence of repair.

Repair looks like:
- Saying, “I overreacted, I’m sorry.”
- Owning your part without blaming.
- Checking in, “Are we okay?”
- Choosing connection over being right.

Therapy isn’t about removing conflict. It’s about teaching you how to repair, rebuild, and reconnect when conflict happens.

Strong relationships aren’t about avoiding the storm, they’re about learning how to come back together when the storm passes.

16/09/2025

Arguments in relationships can look a lot like a fruit salad…

🥥 Coconut — Strong, silent, tough, immovable… but they’ll hurt you if not handled with care.
🥭 Passionfruit — Fiery and intense, anger bubbling with passion.
🍓 Raspberry / Blackberry — Soft, no fight at all; apply pressure and they burst.
🍋 Lemon — Sharp-tongued, spiteful, says things they’ll later regret and can’t take back.
🍇 Grapes — a tough exterior but soft and sweet inside
🍌🍏 Banana / Apple — The people-pleasers; won’t argue back, agree with everything for an easy life.
🥒 Cucumber/Tomato — Unpredictable; you never quite know what they’ll say or do, is it a fruit, is it a veg? Does it even belong here?

We all have different “fighting styles.” Some withdraw. Some erupt. Some stew quietly. And often, our partner’s style is the opposite of ours, which can leave both people feeling misunderstood.

Therapy helps you understand not just your style, but how it interacts with someone else’s. It’s not about deciding who’s “right.” It’s about learning how to fight fair, repair, and reconnect.

Because when you know the recipe, even the sharpest fruit can make something delicious. 🥗💛

These are three roles within the Drama Triangle that can quietly trap us in unhealthy cycles:THE RESCUERTHE VICTIMTHE PE...
09/09/2025

These are three roles within the Drama Triangle that can quietly trap us in unhealthy cycles:

THE RESCUER
THE VICTIM
THE PERSECUTOR

We can all slip into these roles at different times and with different people.

The problem is when they become the only way we know how to relate to others.

Therapy is about recognising these patterns, understanding where they came from, and learning healthier, freer ways of relating.

You don’t have to stay stuck in a role that drains you.
There is another way forward.

Message me to find out how I can support you with this.

The school gates this week will be full of all the emotions.😅 Relief (finally, some peace and routine again).😬 Nerves (w...
02/09/2025

The school gates this week will be full of all the emotions.

😅 Relief (finally, some peace and routine again).
😬 Nerves (will they settle? will they make friends? will they be okay?).
🥹 Sadness (time really is flying, weren’t they just in Reception?).
💛 Pride (look at them go, growing into their next chapter).

It’s completely normal to feel a mix of it all. The joy and the worry. The relief and the ache. Parenting is a constant cycle of holding on and letting go, and days like the first day back at school remind us just how big those little steps can feel.

So if you’re feeling wrung out this week, know you’re not alone. Be gentle with yourself, and maybe even celebrate making it through another milestone. 🌱

One of the quietest, most profound parts of being a therapist is this:You don’t always know the seeds that were planted,...
26/08/2025

One of the quietest, most profound parts of being a therapist is this:

You don’t always know the seeds that were planted, or the ways you might continue to live in someone’s mind long after sessions have ended.

Recently, a client I hadn’t seen in over a year, someone who moved abroad after navigating unimaginable loss and fertility challenges with me, reached out. She wanted to share her news with me. She has recently given birth to a baby boy. 🌱

There is something deeply humbling about being held in mind like that. Therapy is often spoken about in terms of “endings,” but the truth is… the relationship doesn’t just vanish. When it’s genuine, when it’s honest, when it’s built on trust and connection, it stays. For the client. And for the therapist too.

Healing isn’t a closed chapter. It’s a living, breathing story that will go on.

Two weeks to go until the school bell rings again- and for some children, that’s a huge relief.For others, it’s a knot i...
21/08/2025

Two weeks to go until the school bell rings again- and for some children, that’s a huge relief.

For others, it’s a knot in their stomach that’s already starting to grow.

There are things you can do to support!

Talk early: Don’t wait until the night before. Give space for them to voice their worries.

Rehearse routines: Try small steps like getting up at “school time” again, or walking past the school.

Anchor with positives: Remind them of friends, favourite subjects, or things they enjoy about school.

Normalise nerves: Let them know lots of people feel wobbly about change, even adults.

The return to school is a transition, for them, and for you. It’s okay to meet it with patience, not pressure.

We’re over halfway through the school holidays.How are you doing?For some, the past few weeks have been full of memories...
19/08/2025

We’re over halfway through the school holidays.
How are you doing?

For some, the past few weeks have been full of memories, slower mornings, and days that feel like they’re made of sunshine.

For others, it’s been loud, chaotic, expensive, exhausting… or a messy mixture of all of the above.

If you’re feeling:

- Tired from the constant planning and refereeing
- Guilty you haven’t “made the most of it”
- Counting the days until you get some headspace again
…you’re not the only one.

This isn’t about being ungrateful or “wishing the time away.” It’s about recognising that school holidays aren’t just a holiday for parents, they’re often more work.

It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to need space. And it’s okay to say so.

If you need a reset before September, even 15 minutes of quiet can help you come back to yourself.

You can be someone who’s “doing well.”Who’s survived the darkest places.Who knows the tools.Who’s functioning again, smi...
14/08/2025

You can be someone who’s “doing well.”
Who’s survived the darkest places.
Who knows the tools.
Who’s functioning again, smiling again, thriving again, and still struggling.

This is the quiet truth for so many:
Even when the storm seems over, life can throw another wave.
And those old patterns? They don’t just disappear.
They lie dormant until something shakes the ground again.

This beautiful, honest client testimonial reminds us:
You don’t “fix” your mental health and never need help again.
You don’t get one cold and never get sick again.
You don’t need to wait until crisis hits to reach out.

Therapy isn’t just about surviving.
It’s about maintaining, sustaining, and anchoring, especially through life’s big, painful unknowns.

If you're functioning on the outside but carrying too much on the inside... I see you.

Let’s lighten the load together.

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- Support for overwhelm, exhaustion, grief & family dynamics

Message me to see how I can support you.

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