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Many people think boundaries are something you either have or don’t have.But boundaries show up in the body long before ...
22/01/2026

Many people think boundaries are something you either have or don’t have.

But boundaries show up in the body long before they show up in words.

Resentment. Exhaustion. Guilt. Anger that feels out of proportion.

These are often signs that something is being asked of you that doesn’t sit right, even if you can’t yet articulate what that is.

Boundary work isn’t about becoming rigid, cold, or uncaring. It’s about noticing when you’re stretching beyond yourself, and learning how to respond confidently and with self-respect.

Awareness is the first step. Reach out if this resonated and you would like support with your boundaries in 2026.

20/01/2026

One of the most common themes that comes up again and again in the therapy room is 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴.

Clients who don’t know what boundaries are.
Clients who know they need them, but don’t know how to set them.
Clients who put a boundary in place, and then feel unsure, guilty, or anxious when it’s challenged or crossed.

Boundary work is a 𝘩𝘶𝘨𝘦 area. In fact, I can sometimes spend up to six months working with clients on boundaries alone.

Not because they’re doing it wrong, but because most of us were never taught how to do this in the first place.

Over the next couple of weeks, I’ll be sharing a series of posts exploring boundaries in more depth, how they form, why they feel so uncomfortable, and what to do when they’re tested.

But for now, here’s a simple starting point:
𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀.

They help you protect your time, energy, emotions, body, and sense of self, without needing to justify, explain, or over-function for others.

If the word 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴. already makes you feel uneasy, conflicted, or selfish, this reaction is normal and tells us there’s something important to explore.
And we’ll do that together.

So many women arrive in this stage of life still functioning, still showing up, still holding it all together…but doing ...
15/01/2026

So many women arrive in this stage of life still functioning, still showing up, still holding it all together…but doing so with a body and nervous system that feel completely unfamiliar.

Perimenopause doesn’t always announce itself loudly.
Sometimes it whispers.

And because you’re still “managing”, still working, still parenting, still getting on with things, it’s easy to tell yourself you should just push through. But coping isn’t the same as being okay.

You’re not weak.
You’re not dramatic.
And you’re not making it up..

Your body is changing, and it deserves understanding, support, and care, not dismissal.

Therapy can’t stop the hormonal shifts, but it can offer:
• a calm, steady space to land
• support regulating a nervous system that feels constantly on edge
• compassion instead of minimising
• help making sense of what’s happening, emotionally and psychologically

If any of this resonates, my door is open. 💛 Send me a message if you’d like to talk.

13/01/2026

For centuries, women have been valued primarily for what their bodies can produce. And when the childbearing chapter closes, many women are left feeling less visible, less desirable, less useful.

That loss can be deeply unsettling.

But there is another side to this transition, one we don’t talk about enough.

Menopause is not the end of something. It’s a profound reorientation. A shedding. A recalibration. A move away from who the world needed you to be… and back towards who you are.

And to the men reading this, this isn’t about blame. This isn’t about fault, or failure, or “what you’re doing wrong”. It’s not about you at all.It’s about understanding what is happening in a woman’s body, mind, and nervous system. About navigating change together. About patience, curiosity, and compassion, for her, and for yourself.

Menopause changes relationships. But it doesn’t have to break them.

With understanding, support, and the right conversations, this stage can become not a loss, but a powerful new beginning.

If you’re trying to make sense of these changes, therapy can be a place to do that safely, honestly, and without judgement.

We spend so much time hearing about what menopause takes away, sleep, energy, calm, confidence, libido…But there’s anoth...
08/01/2026

We spend so much time hearing about what menopause takes away, sleep, energy, calm, confidence, libido…

But there’s another side to this story.

As oestrogen (our nurturing, accommodating, people-pleasing hormone) declines…testosterone begins to rise.

And something NEW happens:

🖤 We stop tolerating what we once swallowed
🖤 Our patience for nonsense drops
🖤 We care less about what people think
🖤 We find our voice again

For many women, this feels uncomfortable at first. Not because it’s wrong…but because saying no is so new!

For years, your boundaries may have been blurred, stretched, or never truly allowed to exist. Now, your body and brain are saying:

“No more.”
“This doesn’t work for me.”
“My needs matter too.”

And that can feel, in equal parts, frightening, liberating and deeply unfamiliar.

This season of life can be:
- a reckoning
- a re-orientation
- a return to yourself

It’s also the perfect time to explore boundaries in therapy, gently, safely, and with support.

Because learning to say “no” after a lifetime of saying “yes” is a powerful emotional shift… and you don’t have to figure this out by yourself.

If you’re moving through perimenopause or menopause and want a space to make sense of these changes, I’m here, and I’d love to support you. Just send me a DM to get the conversation started.

For so many women, this stage of life has been minimised, dismissed, and packaged as:“Just hormones.”“Part of being a wo...
06/01/2026

For so many women, this stage of life has been minimised, dismissed, and packaged as:

“Just hormones.”
“Part of being a woman.”
“Something you just have to get on with.”

But there is nothing “small” about what you’re going through.
Perimenopause can feel like:

Your body changing faster than you can keep up with.
Your emotions sitting right at the surface.
Your nervous system stuck on high alert, even when nothing is wrong.

And it can feel frightening, destabilising, and isolating… especially if nobody ever prepared you for it.

The good news is, we’re no longer silent about this.
We are finally talking about it.

Naming it.
Understanding it.

Therapy can’t stop the physical changes your body is moving through…
…but it can give you:

🖤 A safe and nurturing space to process how it feels
🖤 Support regulating your nervous system when everything feels heightened
🖤 A place to be heard, believed, and understood
🖤 Compassion instead of dismissal
🖤 Grounding when everything feels out of control

You don’t have to explain it away or “just get on with it.”
And you don’t have to suffer in silence.

If you’re moving through perimenopause and need a calm, steady space to land with professional support and someone who (really!) truly gets it, my door is open. 🖤

Send me a message if you’d like to talk.

Every January, we’re encouraged to make big, sweeping resolutions about who we should become by the end of the year. But...
01/01/2026

Every January, we’re encouraged to make big, sweeping resolutions about who we should become by the end of the year. But…

What happens if you don’t achieve it by 2026?
What happens if you do achieve it, and then feel lost afterwards?
And what happens if what you want, or what you need, changes along the way?

Traditional resolutions are fixed. They don’t adapt to context, circumstance, illness, grief, burnout, parenting demands or life transitions. And life… always changes.
Changes don’t happen in giant leaps, they happen in small, compassionate increments.

So instead of rigid “all-or-nothing” resolutions this year, try choosing gentle shifts you can adapt, scale, or pause when you need to.

Tiny steps.
Realistic expectations.
Progress you can sustain.

Because meaningful change isn’t about becoming a new person in January, it’s about supporting the person you already are, all year long.

For the first time in 25 years, I’m hosting a family Christmas.Fourteen of us.Under one roof.How do I do this without co...
23/12/2025

For the first time in 25 years, I’m hosting a family Christmas.
Fourteen of us.
Under one roof.

How do I do this without completely overwhelming myself and spending Christmas rushed off my feet and absolutely miserable?

I have banned “perfect” this year and instead opted for “manageable.”

Christmas isn’t measured by centrepieces, 3 perfect courses, or colour-coordinated clothes and gifts.

It’s measured by connection. By people being together in the same space for the first time in over two decades.

The food will be good enough.
The day will unfold as it does.
And I’m allowed to enjoy it too.

If you’re the one who always holds Christmas together, year after year after year, don’t let yourself disappear just to make Christmas magical. You’re allowed to be part of it too.

If you’re struggling to navigate this season, know that you don’t have to do it alone. Whether you need help setting bou...
18/12/2025

If you’re struggling to navigate this season, know that you don’t have to do it alone. Whether you need help setting boundaries, processing emotions, or finding your way through the chaos, professional support can be the gift you give yourself this year.

And if January feels like the right time to begin, now is the time to start exploring your options so you can enter 2026 with certainty, balance, and a renewed sense of self.

💙 Let’s work together to unpack the weight you’ve been carrying and build a path forward. Reach out today to schedule a consultation and take the first step toward healing.

You deserve to feel supported, not just during the holidays, but every day.

This season can be heavy, emotionally, mentally, financially, and sometimes the pressure to “feel festive” only makes it...
16/12/2025

This season can be heavy, emotionally, mentally, financially, and sometimes the pressure to “feel festive” only makes it harder.

So instead of forcing joy, try gently inviting it in.

Here are the 4 S’s: small, comforting, (a little silly!), mood-boosters that can genuinely lift your spirits when everything feels a bit flat:

✨ Sip
Wrap your hands around something warm, tea, hot chocolate, mulled wine. Slow down. Sip. Breathe. Let the warmth do its thing.

✨ Sing
You don’t need a good voice. You just need a song. Car karaoke counts. Shower concerts count. Music has a powerful effect on the nervous system, let it move you.

✨ Sparkle
Fairy lights, glittery jumpers, or simply opening the curtains to let winter sun in. We’re not built for these dark months, we need light wherever we can find it.

✨ Snack
Go for the mood-boosters: dark chocolate, popcorn, nuts, bananas. Not because you “should,” but because your body deserves nourishment.

This season doesn’t have to be perfect to feel a little better.

Nurture yourself in tiny, gentle ways, they add up more than you think. 💙

Look after yourself this week. You matter.

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