The Therapy Lounge

16/10/2025

For many of us, people-pleasing started as a protection pattern.�When we sensed disapproval, distance, or tension growing up, our body learnt that being “good” or keeping others happy kept us safe and connected.

But as adults, that same pattern can leave us feeling anxious, resentful, and disconnected from ourselves.

The good news?�Our body always knows when something isn’t right - a tight chest, a knot in the stomach, that quiet feeling of “off.”�That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.

In the full vlog post on our website (link in bio) I share:�🌿 Why people-pleasing is a nervous system response�🌿 How to recognise when you’re in “pleaser mode”�🌿 Small, gentle ways to start setting boundaries that feel safe

It’s not about pushing people away - it’s about coming home to yourself. 💓

Kirsten x

How to say no without guilt explained by Kirsten Dahlerup hypnotherapist

21/09/2025

NEW VLOG POST link in bio.

“Yep, 57 years later, I’ve finally got some ink on my body – the permanent kind!

As I explain in the video, this wasn’t some mid-life crisis, a box-ticking exercise, or a desperate attempt to look edgy and cool. It’s part of my ongoing commitment to emotional health and wellbeing.

The words Acceptance and Gratitude are now permanently etched into my arm as a constant reminder of two of the most valuable resources I have for living something close to my best life..”

Click the link in our bio to learn more about what acceptance and gratitude mean to Steve - and why bringing awareness to these values can help you in your everyday life.
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10/09/2025

In Support Of my Emotional Health -
I just Got My First Ever Tattoo!

Yep, 57 years later, I’ve finally got some ink on my body – the permanent kind!

As I explain in the video, this wasn’t some mid-life crisis, a box-ticking exercise, or a desperate attempt to look edgy and cool. It’s part of my ongoing commitment to emotional health and wellbeing.

The words Acceptance and Gratitude are now permanently etched into my arm as a constant reminder of two of the most valuable resources I have for living something close to my best life!
Steve Burns Very First Tattoo
Read blogpost or watch video

So there you have it - an old man with a new Tattoo!

If I can help you better understand the value of Acceptance and Gratitude and how you might choose to integrate these resources into your mind (without a tattoo!) and therefore your life, please do let me know - it will be a pleasure to help.

My very best wishes,

Steve

Steve Burns

Emotional Coach, Therapist & Clinical Hypnotherapist

Acceptance & Gratitude Explained by Steve Burns, Emotional Coach

20/08/2025

Inside each of us lives a part that’s curious, playful, present, brave, and full of joy - our inner child.
But over time, life experiences, trauma, and the pressure to 'fit in' can cause that light to dim. We may hide it, silence it, or numb it away… and in doing so, lose touch with one of the most vital parts of who we are.

Your inner child isn’t just a memory - it’s the source of creativity, spontaneity, and emotional truth. When we reconnect with it, healing and transformation become possible.

That’s exactly what I help clients to do through hypnotherapy.
- Heal old emotional wounds
- Restore joy and creativity
- Feel whole, present, and truly alive

In my latest video, I share more about how we lose touch with our inner child - and how you can begin to reconnect with yours.

If you feel that spark calling to you, I’d love to support you. You don’t have to do it alone.

Get in touch to hear more about how I can help.

Warmest wishes

Kirsten

inner child healing, reconnect with inner child, hypnotherapy for trauma, emotional healing, healing inner child hypnotherapy, inner child work, personal growth