What are the opening hours?

Monday 9am - 3pm Tuesday 9am - 3pm Wednesday 9am - 3pm Thursday 9am - 3pm Friday 9am - 2pm

Dr Kaur Therapy

Home
United Kingdom
London
Dr Kaur Therapy

Helping you Conquer your Inner Critic - Online Only - 1:1 Therapy & Group programme for work anxiety

I am a British born Punjabi Sikh female who specialises in helping people manage their hidden hurts. I work in a trauma informed way as I believe that our life experiences impact who we are and how we show up in the world. I see clients I work with being held in a certain point in their lives unable to move forward due to some unhelpful beliefs they have. So in a rapidly changing world, I want to help people move through those blocks so live life according to their values rather than limited by their past.

15/04/2026

Did therapy give you insight… but your body still reacts the same way?

You understand the pattern.
You can name the wound.
You know where it comes from.

But in real life?
You still overthink, shut down, people-please, avoid, or feel hijacked by feelings that seem bigger than the moment.

That is usually the difference between understanding your pain and actually healing it.

Because a lot of therapy stops at insight.
But real change happens when you start working at the root, the intergenerational trauma, survival roles, and old protective patterns your body is still carrying.

Not just talking about it.
Processing it.
So your system no longer has to keep reliving it.

Every week you spend managing symptoms is another week the root stays untouched.

DM me ROOT and I’ll send you the details of the Root Reset Package I am putting together to help you move forward.

01/04/2026

Follow for weekly Root Shift content that helps you catch the pattern while it’s happening, not six hours later when the shame kicks in and fades just enough for you to realise what has happened.
 Every post is designed to help you notice what your body does before your mind replays the old scripts.

You don’t need more insight.
 You need the moment where the pattern starts to lose its grip.

Save this for the next time that familiar ache hits and your hand reaches for the phone, the overthinking, or the urge to leave yourself again.

Follow

IFS-trained Clinical Psychologist & EMDR Practitioner

31/03/2026

Comment SEVEN and I will DM you calm in 7 minutes guide so break the collapse cycle.

It’s a step-by-step walkthrough you can open on your phone the moment everything starts to crack, so you stop losing entire days to one hard moment.

You’ve already proven you can read about healing.

This gets you doing it in real time.

Because knowing why you fall apart was never the problem.

Having something real to do in those first 20 minutes is.

30/03/2026

When your reaction feels bigger than the moment, ask yourself this:
Who taught my nervous system that this meant danger?

Sometimes the reaction is not just about now.
It is about what was modelled, absorbed, and passed down.

Trauma does not always look dramatic to others, which influences how we interpret it for ourselves.

Sometimes it looks like shrinking, over-explaining, people-pleasing, shutting down, or panicking when something feels emotionally risky.

Not everything you carry started with you, but it happened to you.

So you do get to notice it, question it, and stop passing it on unchanged.

Does this feel like you?

Ask any questions in the comments for more information on how to break this pattern.

27/03/2026

Breaking generational trauma does not always mean leaving your family.

For most people, it means learning to show up differently inside patterns that once ran automatically.
And to be clear, I’m not talking about people at risk of harm, abuse, coercion, or the smaller number of situations where safety genuinely means getting away and finding real protection.

I’m talking about the majority of people who are safe enough to do the deeper work.

One thing I’ve noticed over the years is this: people are getting better at talking about boundaries, autonomy, and cutting ties. And sometimes that is important. But many stop there.

They create distance without doing the self-work.
 Or they do the self-work at a distance.

But in trauma healing, we often meet the trigger again to see what has actually shifted. Healing is not just what you realise in safe spaces. It is also what holds when the old trigger shows up again.

Boundaries matter. Autonomy matters.
 But so does returning differently.

Because sometimes the relationship is exactly where the healing shows.

Follow if youre tired of advice that doesn’t relate and want to more relatable mental health posts coming up on your feed.
 

26/03/2026

The pattern came back. That doesn’t mean the cycle is unbroken.
I’ve been a psychologist for over 15 years.

I’ve sat with some of the most self-aware, hardworking, genuinely committed women you’ll ever meet — women who have read everything, tried everything, and still find themselves in the middle of a moment they promised they’d handle differently.
And I want to be honest with you about something.
This work is not a straight line.

There is no version of breaking a generational cycle where the old response never comes back. No programme, no therapist, no amount of insight that immunises you from hard weeks, hard seasons, and moments where the pattern shows up uninvited.
What changes is what happens next.

How quickly you catch it. How long it lasts. How much shame follows and how fast you find your way back.

That is what 15 years of clinical work actually looks like up close. Not transformation. Not arrival. A genuine, incremental, sometimes frustratingly quiet shift in the right direction that compounds over time in ways you and the people around you will feel before you can fully name it.

I’m not here to sell you a dramatic version of healing.

I’m here to tell you what it actually looks like.
What the research says. What I’ve seen work and what I’ve seen fail across more than a decade and a half of doing this properly.

Follow if you want the realistic version.

No performance. No false promises. Just 15 years of knowing what this work actually takes and what it’s genuinely capable of.

24/03/2026

Some stress patterns do not look dramatic.

They look like over-functioning.
 Carrying stress for hours.
 Staying in doing mode all day.
 Telling yourself you are fine because you are still getting things done.

They look like living in ways that do not actually reflect how you want to be.

That is why healing does not always begin with a massive life change.

Sometimes it begins with one small decision.
 One clearer boundary.
 One interrupted pattern.
 One moment where you stop calling survival normal.

Generational healing is not always loud.
 Sometimes it is quiet, deliberate, and repeated.
 A different choice, made often enough, becomes a different way of living.

You do not have to blow your life up to begin.
 But you do have to notice what keeps getting carried forward and decide whether it still belongs in your life.

Comment SEVEN and I’ll send you the guide.

23/03/2026

Comment seven and I’ll send you a free guide on what nervous system regulation actually looks like and why reaching that level is what understanding alone has never been able to do.

Most people trying to break a generational pattern are working at the wrong level.

The top down level - healing through intellect.

Not because they aren’t trying hard enough.

Because they were never told there was a deeper level to reach.

The pattern wasn’t formed in your thinking mind. It was formed in a nervous system learning what was safe, before you had words for any of it.

That’s exactly where the work has to go.

And that’s a completely different conversation from the one most approaches to this offer.

Check out my free guide and follow for more information about real bottom-up approaches to healing.

16/03/2026

People often hear about EMDR and imagine the eye movements part straight away.

But EMDR is much more than that.

It is a structured therapy approach with 8 phases, designed to help people process difficult or traumatic experiences safely and meaningfully, not just quickly.

Very simply, the phases include:

1. History-taking
Understanding your background, current difficulties, and whether EMDR is the right fit.

2. Preparation
Building stability, safety, and coping tools before any processing begins.

3. Assessment
Identifying the memory, belief, emotions, and body sensations linked to the issue.

4–7. Processing
This is the part people usually think of as “EMDR” , reprocessing what feels stuck, while your brain begins to update it.

8. Re-evaluation
Reviewing what has shifted and deciding what needs attention next.

Good EMDR is not rushed.
It is not about throwing someone into trauma work and hoping for the best.

It is about pacing, preparation, safety, and helping the nervous system process what has been held for too long.

That is why EMDR can be so powerful when it is done properly.

If you’d like the link to how I offer EMDR in an intensive format, comment INTENSIVE and I’ll send it to you.

13/03/2026

It’s heartbreaking how many people are living inside patterns they think are just their personality… when really, they are often adaptations.

They tell themselves their childhood was fine. They assume talking about it should have fixed it by now. They think therapy should be a quick fix for pain that has lived in them for years. They carry identities handed to them by family, culture, patriarchy, criticism, and survival.
 And they become so focused on managing other people that they lose sight of themselves.
But so much healing begins when the focus gently turns inward.

What am I feeling? What happens in me here? What pattern am I repeating? What do I need?

Those questions can change everything.
Because a lot of what people call “normal” is actually old learning. Old protection. Old pain. And change is possible.
Not overnight. Not as a perfect linear transformation.
 But over time, with the right kind of support, reflection, and deeper work, the way you think, feel, respond, and relate really can shift.

Tell me in the comments: what’s one thing that makes you sad that people don’t realise can change? 👇🏼

12/03/2026

A lot of people are curious about EMDR intensives… and still hesitate.

Honestly, that makes sense. And it’s a good thing because it shows boundaries and self-care

The reasons for some, it is the upfront investment. For others, it is the word intensive itself, the fear that it might not work, not fully understanding what it is, or wondering how on earth they would make the time.

These hesitations don’t automatically mean someone is not ready.

Very often, they mean they need more clarity, more reassurance, and a better sense of what they would actually be saying yes to.

EMDR intensives are not a magic wand 🪄

They are not an instant fix, and they are not the right fit for every person or every situation.

But when they are well-paced, thoughtfully planned, and clinically appropriate, they can absolutely help move therapy forward in a more focused and efficient way.

For some people, that concentrated format helps create therapeutic progress that might otherwise take much longer to build in weekly work.

That does not mean “quick fix.”
It means intentional, structured, deeper work.

If you have a thought, hesitation, or question about EMDR intensives, drop it in the comments. I’d love to know what comes up for you.

11/03/2026

Overthinking does not always respond well to affirmations.
Not because you are doing anything wrong.�Not because you are too negative.�But because when your system is stressed, pressured, or on alert, it usually will not fully take in words that feel too far from what is actually happening inside.

That is why “just think positively” can fall flat.
For many overthinkers, the real shift starts with something more honest:�naming the pressure, noticing the pattern, and giving your mind and body something more believable to work with.
You do not need prettier thoughts.�You may need more safety, more awareness, and a different way of responding to yourself.

If you know someone who looks calm on the outside but is mentally exhausted underneath, share my profile with them- it might help more than you realise.

Address

London

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 3pm
Tuesday	9am - 3pm
Wednesday	9am - 3pm
Thursday	9am - 3pm
Friday	9am - 2pm

Website

http://www.drkaurtherapy.com/

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Dr Kaur Therapy posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Contact The Practice

Send a message to Dr Kaur Therapy:

Shortcuts

Featured

Help Mind Body
Acorn Andrology
Enfield