14/01/2026
At this time of year, there are so many messages about renewal, fresh starts, & setting intentions for the year ahead.
They’re well-meant — & for some people, genuinely helpful.
But we’ve also been noticing something quieter that often sits underneath.
As the weeks go by, the energy of “new beginnings” can fade, & many people are left feeling tired, overwhelmed, or wondering why they’re not feeling the way they think they should.
Not because they’ve failed — but because they’re human.
Many of the conversations I’ve had recently circle around quietly holding things together, caring for others, or carrying worries that don’t easily fit into a resolution or a plan.
Over the past few weeks, a number of conversations — including those sparked by the TV show 'Live Well with the Drug-Free Doctor' — have shone a light on how lifestyle changes can support health & wellbeing.
What struck me most wasn’t just the changes themselves, but how often improvement seemed to follow when people felt listened to, supported, & safe enough to change.
Through the work we do at Person-Centred Neurosciences Society (P-CNS) we've come to believe that much of what we call “emotional” or “mental” difficulty isn’t a fault, a weakness, or a lack of motivation. It’s often a very understandable response to experiences, environments, and pressures that have built up over time — especially when people don’t feel properly heard.
That’s why we keep returning to a simple idea:
Change tends to happen more easily when people feel safe — not when they feel pushed, judged, or fixed.
Lifestyle changes, coping strategies, even treatment plans work best when they reduce pressure rather than add to it.
When people feel listened to, understood, & taken seriously, capacity for change often follows naturally. So as this new year continues, it felt important to start less with advice — but with listening.
If you’d like a quiet way to add your voice, I’m sharing two surveys below.
They’re not about labels or right & wrong answers. They’re simply an invitation to share lived experience, so that health & wellbeing services can be shaped in ways that meet emotional health needs more humanely & more wisely.
If this feels relevant to you, you’re very welcome to take part.
And if it doesn’t, that’s completely okay too.
Survey links:
My Diagnosis Survey - questions related to a diagnosis of non-neuro longterm conditions e.g. diabetes, asthma, Arthritis, Crohn's disease, PCOS
https://uk.surveymonkey.com/r/FRLSQDW
My Neuro-Mental Health Diagnosis Survey - same questions relating to conditions seen as either dysregulated brain function, such as ADHD, Epilepsy, MS, Parkinson's, Migraine, Brain Tumours, Parkinson's or generally labelled as mental health condition e.g. depression, schizophrenia....
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/GMKTKPP
Sometimes the most important first step toward better health
isn’t trying to fix ourselves — but feeling properly heard.