Fertility Support

Fertility Support Fertility Support is the only psychotherapy practice focused on fertility and gynaecological issues.

Our team includes specialised psychotherapists who have ample experience working on issues such as: assessing fertility options (including IVF, surrogacy, donors or adoption), pregnancy-related issues (including high risk-pregnancies or birth trauma), exploring a “child-free” or ”child-less” lifestyle, considering a termination, coping with medical issues such as endometriosis, PCOS or adenomyosis, and dealing with erectile dysfunction, among other issues. Fertility Support offers individual therapy and couples therapy as well as group therapy and one-day retreats. Our aim is to offer individuals a space where they can find compassionate care, understanding and a new way forward.

Marilyn Monroe lived for much of her adult life with significant gynaecological illness. Medical records and biographica...
12/01/2026

Marilyn Monroe lived for much of her adult life with significant gynaecological illness. Medical records and biographical accounts describe multiple hospital admissions, and surgeries for endometriosis. She experienced miscarriages during her marriage to Arthur Miller and was hospitalised during a complicated pregnancy, as well as an ectopic pregnancy later on. Much of this unfolded while she was working intensively, filming, travelling, and remaining publicly composed.

Those close to her have noted how frequently she was unwell and how pain shaped her daily life. At times she required extended bed rest and was prescribed strong medication. Yet these experiences were rarely named publicly, and when they were, they were often minimised or treated as interruptions rather than realities that demanded care.

Marilyn spoke privately about wanting children and about the grief she felt when pregnancies ended. In an era with limited medical understanding and little emotional language for reproductive loss, there was no framework for acknowledging what repeated illness and loss might do to a person’s sense of safety, continuity, or self.

Unprocessed gynaecological trauma does not remain contained in the body alone. Recurrent pain and unacknowledged loss can leave a lasting psychological imprint, particularly when silence becomes the only available response. Marilyn Monroe’s story is not only about fame or fragility. It also shows how reproductive suffering, when left unnamed and untreated, can quietly shape the course of a life.

Even now, many hold experiences that are never spoken aloud or properly recognised. This raises a necessary question: what are you carrying privately, without language or witness, and how might things shift if that experience were finally allowed to be recognised and held with care?

The  has opened a new Members’ Support Service for its professional membership.  members include clinicians, embryologis...
11/01/2026

The has opened a new Members’ Support Service for its professional membership. members include clinicians, embryologists, fertility nurses, counsellors, psychologists, scientists and researchers working in reproductive medicine and fertility care in the UK.

Eligible members can access up to two complimentary sessions with a professionally trained counsellor. The service is designed for those wishing to discuss work-related pressures, personal concerns or mental health challenges arising in the course of fertility practice.

Referrals are self-initiated and confidential. All sessions are provided by experienced fertility counsellors, including .

This initiative is an important addition for those working in a field that carries both clinical and emotional demands, helping members access specialist space to reflect on the pressures of fertility work. It also continues the BFS’s commitment to supporting the professional wellbeing of its membership alongside its wider educational and scientific aims.

Difficulties conceiving are often treated as a problem of attitude. “Relax and it will happen.” “Stop stressing.” “Try n...
08/01/2026

Difficulties conceiving are often treated as a problem of attitude. “Relax and it will happen.” “Stop stressing.” “Try not to think about it so much.” “Stay positive.” Pregnancy is positioned as something that will arrive once the right attitude is achieved.

Just as no one would claim contraception works through attitude alone, pregnancy cannot be produced through mindset either. Assigning responsibility for pregnancy to the individual’s mindset does not improve fertility outcomes. It creates confusion, relentless self-monitoring, and an internalised sense of failure.

Infertility arises from identifiable biological mechanisms: ovulatory dysfunction, tubal pathology, s***m parameters, implantation failure, among other biological factors. None of these can be altered solely by positive thinking, stress reduction, or mindset work.

What is psychological is the impact of infertility. Repeated negative pregnancy tests, miscarriages, and prolonged uncertainty shape emotional life in specific ways: anticipatory anxiety grounded in prior loss, grief without social recognition, erosion of bodily trust, and a narrowing sense of future. Distress in this context is not evidence of poor coping. It is a proportionate response to sustained biological disappointment.

What might shift in how you feel if the conversations around you named infertility as a medical condition, rather than an attitude problem?

Hope becomes complicated during a fertility journey. Each time things don’t go according to plan, the part of you that o...
05/01/2026

Hope becomes complicated during a fertility journey. Each time things don’t go according to plan, the part of you that once reached toward possibility starts to hesitate. The mind remembers what it felt like to be hopeful and then hurt, and it uses those memories to protect you from being caught off guard again.

This is why opening yourself to hope can feel risky. When hope has been followed by pain more than once, the instinct to hold back becomes a way of managing the emotional cost of trying again. Avoiding feeling hopeful is your mind creating enough distance to make the next steps emotionally manageable.

This avoidance of hope sits uneasily alongside the idea of “staying positive” or “manifesting,” messages that suggest anything but constant optimism is somehow unhelpful or disloyal to the fertility process. This can leave people caught between two uncomfortable states: hoping feels dangerous and not hoping feels disloyal. It creates an emotional double bind where any position appears flawed.

Pushing yourself toward hope or pushing yourself away from it only increases strain when it doesn’t match your internal reality. You are allowed to meet this experience in the way that feels authentic, to protect yourself when you need to, and to let hope take a form that feels tolerable. Your responses are your own, shaped by what you have lived, and they deserve to be recognised.

When hope feels risky, what do you notice yourself doing to make it emotionally safer to move forward?

31/12/2025

May 2026 ask less of you.
May it demand fewer explanations, fewer justifications.

May it make room for truth rather than forced optimism,
and for a sense of self that is not shaped by outcomes.

May it bring moments of calm, thoughts that do not hurt,
and connections that feel meaningful and sustaining.

May there be joy and laughter that arrive without effort,
and hope that feels light enough to carry.

May you step into the year ahead carrying less weight than you did this time last year.

Thank you for allowing us to accompany you through 2025.


With warm wishes from Fertility Support.

During a fertility journey, the mind often rushes ahead to what could go wrong. It scans for danger, rehearses worst-cas...
22/12/2025

During a fertility journey, the mind often rushes ahead to what could go wrong. It scans for danger, rehearses worst-case scenarios and prepares for outcomes that may never come. This is what anxious minds do when the future feels unstable. In moments like these, even the smallest ritual can create a brief but meaningful pause.

A ritual introduces calm because it anchors you in what is happening right now. The warmth of a candle, the feel of your hands around a mug, the few breaths you take before bed remind your nervous system that this moment is safe enough to settle into. It interrupts the pull toward imagined futures and brings you back into your body, even if only for a short while.

Less discussed, but just as important, is that rituals also offer orientation. Fertility treatment can make time feel flattened, organised around blood tests, medication schedules and two-week waits. Days blur. A ritual marks a point in the day that is yours. It creates a rhythm that does not depend on outcomes or results. It helps you hold steady when everything else feels in flux.

Rituals do not eliminate uncertainty. But they give you a way to meet it with a little more presence and a little more steadiness than before.

What small ritual could you weave into your day to create a moment of stillness?

17/12/2025

A difficult fertility journey is one of the most demanding life experiences an individual can face. For partners, parents, siblings, and friends, it can also feel daunting, with no clear roadmap for how to be alongside someone going through treatment. You may want to make things better, to find the right words, to stay composed for their sake. Yet over time, that effort can bring its own difficulty and uncertainty.

This 3-hour online workshop is for family members and friends of people going through infertility. It offers a reflective space to think about what it means to accompany someone through this experience and to make sense of your own emotions within it. Together we will explore how to remain connected, steady and compassionate, both towards yourself and the person you love.

👥 Groups are offered separately for non-carrying partners and close family members of those trying to conceive

💻 Online, interactive workshop with discussion and practical exercises

⏰ 3 hours

🔗 Learn more or book your place – link in bio

Pema Chödrön, an American Buddhist nun, teaches that compassion requires courage. During a fertility journey, compassion...
16/12/2025

Pema Chödrön, an American Buddhist nun, teaches that compassion requires courage. During a fertility journey, compassion begins when we stop attacking ourselves for what is already painful. It means not blaming ourselves for not being able to conceive, not criticising ourselves for small lapses in nutrition or discipline, not demanding perfection in a process that is full of uncertainty.

This kind of compassion is daring because it asks us to soften in the face of fear. When we stop punishing ourselves, we come closer to what feels most frightening: that we are not in control, that outcomes cannot be guaranteed, that effort does not always bring results. To stay gentle in that truth takes more bravery than constant striving ever could.

Compassion allows us to live honestly within uncertainty rather than fighting against it. It lets us turn toward what is difficult, not to fix it, but to remain present with it.

What would it be like to meet your fear of not being in control with compassion instead of criticism?

 , Marchioness of Bath,  has spoken candidly about her decision to welcome her second child via surrogacy. After her fir...
10/12/2025

, Marchioness of Bath, has spoken candidly about her decision to welcome her second child via surrogacy. After her first pregnancy ended in a life-threatening condition involving inflammation of her pituitary gland and a brain bleed, medical professionals advised that carrying another child could place her life at serious risk.

She described the decision to use a surrogate as “a massive decision,” saying she “felt guilty and … confused,” and that it was only through sharing with other women who had reached the same decision that she was able to arrive at her own.

Guilt in surrogacy often sits at the intersection of medical necessity, social judgement and internalised ideas about what a mother is supposed to do with her body. What Emma names here is not ambivalence about wanting her child, but the psychological cost of reaching motherhood by a route that was not freely chosen. Surrogacy, in this sense, is not a solution without loss. It is a reconfiguration of how loss and parenthood coexist.

Surrogacy reshapes how pregnancy is emotionally inhabited. The relationship to the baby is formed through intention, imagination, and steady commitment rather than through physical sensation. What is missing physically is often held psychologically, in thought, vigilance and care.

07/12/2025

Few months present as many multicultural celebrations as December; Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Christmas, New Year, Omisoka, and many more.

Navigating these holidays can be difficult when dealing with fertility issues due to the emphasis on family and children. Additionally, remarks or questions from relatives and friends can add to the emotional stress during this time.

Please consider the following as you navigate the holiday season:

1. Communicate your needs: Share your feelings with your loved ones, especially those you trust and feel comfortable confiding in. Let them know if you need support, understanding, or space during the holiday gatherings.

2 Establish boundaries: It’s okay to decline invitations or choose which events to attend based on your emotional well-being. Prioritize self-care and do what feels right for you, whether it means attending smaller gatherings or taking time for yourself.

3. Seek support: Consider joining a support group or seeking psychotherapy. Sharing your journey with others who understand can provide comfort and validation.

4. Plan self-care activities: Engage in activities that bring you joy and help reduce stress. This can include practicing relaxation techniques, pursuing hobbies, exercise, or spending quality time with your partner.

5. Practice self-compassion: Remember to be kind to yourself and acknowledge that fertility struggles are not your fault. Give yourself permission to feel and acknowledge your emotions.

Everyone’s journey is unique, so it’s essential to find what works best for you during this time. Reach out for support when needed, and remember to be gentle with yourself as you navigate the holiday season.

04/12/2025

In November 2025, the World Health Organization (WHO) issued its first global guideline on infertility, recognising it as a major public health and equity issue rather than a private problem. Around 1 in 6 people of reproductive age will experience infertility, and in many countries care is either unavailable or only reachable through catastrophic out-of-pocket costs.

The guideline sets out 40 evidence based recommendations across prevention, diagnosis and treatment, covering male, female and unexplained infertility. It promotes cost-effective options at each step of care, from information on fertility and timing of in*******se, through lifestyle and STI prevention, to structured pathways for investigations, IUI and IVF where appropriate.

World Health Organization (WHO) is clear that infertility care should sit within universal health coverage: available in national health systems, integrated into health strategies and financing, and provided without discrimination. It also explicitly acknowledges the emotional impact of infertility, highlighting distress, stigma and financial strain, and calls for ongoing access to psychosocial and mental health support as a core part of fertility care, not an optional extra.

Anxiety in fertility treatment often arises from the strain of wanting something deeply while having so little control o...
03/12/2025

Anxiety in fertility treatment often arises from the strain of wanting something deeply while having so little control over how it unfolds. It can be a tightness that settles in the chest on the way to an appointment, or a restless alertness that appears at night when the house is quiet. It can be a sudden rush when something unexpected shifts a plan, or a slow unease that comes from not knowing what the next stage will ask of them. However it shows itself, the feeling is usually tied to how much has been invested and how much remains uncertain.

What often unsettles people most is the fear that their anxiety says something about them, or about how treatment will go. It can be easy to assume that feeling this much means they are not coping well, or that the body is responding “incorrectly” to stress. But anxiety in this context is usually a sign of how strongly the longing is held, and how carefully hope has been stitched together after earlier disappointments. It marks the weight of what matters, not a flaw in the person living through it.

Meeting the feeling with a bit of gentleness can widen the emotional space around it. Not to make it disappear, but to understand what it is speaking to. Sometimes it reveals where previous cycles still ache. Sometimes it shows where expectations have been quietly adjusted in order to stay hopeful. Sometimes it simply reflects the human cost of navigating repeated uncertainty. When anxiety is seen in this light, it becomes possible to hold it without letting it define the journey or predict its outcome.

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