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Counselling Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy
Regain Control of your life

12/02/2022

In the early 90s, the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” was incredibly successful. It depicted the psychological differences between men and women. Studies about differences, whether social or cultural, tend to dismiss the similarities. However, they help to make a point and stimulate thinking and discussion. One such difference that needs to be highlighted is that between mind and body, or brain and guts, or thinking and feeling.
What we think is happening and what we feel is happening is often different, in the same way that what constitutes showing loving and caring may be different between 2 individuals. Thinking, as in analysing, rationalising, or justifying, can take a life of its own and becomes disconnected from what is bothering you, what you are feeling bad or unclear about. Making plans and coming up with a solution may feel good but may be at the detriment of reconciling the outer and inner worlds.
Thinking values speed and production. Understanding feeling takes time and reflection. That is why in meditation deep truths can emerge.

19/01/2022

Insidious habits that don’t serve you.

What is happening in your life is the result of the interaction between what you think, what you feel and what you do.
Your feelings are related to what is happening. What is happening is determine by what you do, and how you think. Which causes what you feel, which in turn drives what you do, and reflecting on it, gives you the thoughts that you have. You can look at it from any of those 3 perspectives and see how it affects the other 2.
So for example, you feel bad, you have two ways to go about it. One is to address your thinking, looking for how what you think could be more productive, and what actions you can take to get what you want.
The second is what a lot of people do, they do things to change the way they feel. That can be comfort eating, doing something useful but ultimately not getting them closer to what they really want to do, for example cleaning or decluttering. What could be called procrastination. So in a way you have thought about what to do to feel better, but the problem is that you are no closer to what you want to do.
So what do you have to do then?
Just become aware of what is happening. See what is described here is happening in your life. There is no point saying what to do next, otherwise there would be a tendency to bypass or rush this initial pausing and reflecting on what is happening.

29/12/2021

I was looking at music on Youtube, and noticed a new phenomenon. Many young people post the impressions they have whilst listening to a song for the first time. I was surprised by how emotionally moved they were by some old classics from Queen or 80s hits.
There are two ways in which we can use our mind. In a reactive mode, that means we react to whatever stimuli is being presented, like playing a game on the computer, or watching tv. It is mainly passive. Most of what is being presented on TV is meant to make us react, especially the news... It can also be reacting to the dominating thoughts we present ourselves with. The concerns, worries, or shoulds that our minds go on and on about.
The other mode is being creative. That is when we use our mind thinking new thoughts, using our imagination, when we create something that wasn't there before. As in everything that we do, there is always a bit of both going on, and it depends where the emphasis is. Like you can watch a movie, and you would react, but it may get you to think somehow, because the movie is evocative. The same story could be in a book that you read. You would react to what you read but you would use your mind much more creatively to visualise, feel, and even hear dialogues. Watching those young people being moved by what they were listening to is an interesting mixture of both. They react to the music but they also manage the reaction in a creative way, in the same way that we can be moved and inspired by a painting or a beautiful sunset. Many people I have talked to, and I am guilty of it too, have watched too much TV over Christmas. So it is a good thing to find some balance and do something a bit more creative for the brain. Let's do some creative writing or read a book. Think about how it would be good for you...

08/12/2021

Accepting what is

If I was in front of you and asked you to follow my moving finger in front of your eyes, you would do it without any other thoughts. You would be absorbed by the movement, you would be completely with what is.
Yet, too often, we are judging, commenting in our head. There would be a comparison between what is - your experience of what someone is saying - and your judgement about it, whether you thought it was right or wrong, whether you agree or not, whether you know about it or not, whether you find it interesting or not.

We are either in one of these modes or the other, being with what is, or split.
When we are present, when we are in what is, or accepting, our state, or energy, is harmonious, steady, flowing.
Even if what is happening is not positive, like the sadness of losing something dear, the sadness is appropriate and accepted. We would not want to feel something else. Whereas the erratic energy or state of being constantly split between what is and what should be is discordant, dissonant, disharmonious. Regardless of what is happening to create that about-turn of "is" and "should be", being constantly in that state is stressful and energy draining.
In the case of clients, who are in a situation they don't like, it can be chronically moaning, complaining, criticising, or blaming self and others. It’s like hearing a constant irritating sound, or watching a jumpy picture.

A friend regularly says "It is what it is". That is a good formula to accept what is happening, even though you don’t like what is happening. When you think like that, you reduce the comparison, the tension, the friction. If you manage to do that congruently, you would be at peace and wise.

If you found this helpful, share the post. And comment below any other ways that help you to accept, be in the moment/stay focused, so we can all learn other strategies.

24/11/2021

I don’t know if it happened to you recently, but for almost everyone, at some points in their life, people would experience this: Something they were good at, something they enjoyed, found energising, is not the case anymore.
It could be a hobby that you had, a relationship that you had, or still have, or a job. The sparks are gone. You didn’t question it. You knew you were good at it. It may have been a challenge at times, but you looked forward to the challenge. Now, no more. You may have doubts, uncertainties, fears.
One thing that may have happened is that you may have been in a phase of what I would call capability. You were finding the situation challenging and exciting, because you could show your capability. You could show you were good and take on what was thrown at you, with confidence.
Now somehow, without you knowing it, or noticing it, you have shifted to what I would call the phase of meaning. It is not about demonstrating your capability anymore, but about what your involvement means. How you perceive yourself or how others perceive you. What is left when you don’t have to prove to yourself, or others, that you are competent or confident?
What does this job mean to you? What does spending long hours in the office means? What does it mean that you are not promoted or promoted?
What does this relationship mean to you? What is the point of it? If you remove the habitual stuff that you have got used to, or taken for granted anyway, what is it all about?
You did not have those issues before and now it happens. Doubts, uncertainties, fears, concerns, lack of confidence.
In life we usually go from capability to meaning, as we grow older and wiser, but it is also cyclical. We are mainly in a phase but encounter meaning issues when we are in capability phase and capability issues when we are in the meaning phase. It is well represented in the yin yang figure.
So, if you experience this happening in your life, consider the phases of capability and meaning in the situation. Maybe you have nothing to prove anymore, but are concerned about meanings.

23/11/2021

Clients, and other people who are anxious, are stuck in thinking same type of thoughts, as they are in what is technically called a neuro muscular lock. That means that if the body is tense, it generates tense thoughts.

Yet, when the body is squeezed, maintained externally in center-track restrainer system, as in the system Dr. Temple Grandin developed for cows at the slaughterhouses, the body relaxes. I have experienced it with other animals. It is also what you would experience when someone hugs thightly a person who would be in a distressed state. That person would let go of the tension, as they are now safe.
Food for thoughts, for how you could do that if you were feeling anxious...

22/11/2021

I'm relaunching my professional page. Lots of exciting content coming up. Please like and follow for regular articles and updates. Also, my new book will be coming soon! Stay tuned for more.

23/08/2021

There will soon be some updates and exciting information coming this way...

28/09/2014

The Being Confident Workshop

We will learn together, in a relaxed atmosphere
• How to discover what is stopping you in life
• How to have inner and outer confidence
• How to boost your Social confidence
• How to be more together

The Workshop is facilitated by Patrick Baron, an experienced highly recommended Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist. Patrick has over 20 years counselling experience behind him.

Saturday 4 October 2014 - 2pm to 5pm in Kensington,

Book in advance, patrickbaron@gmail.com or 07957 661 887

Workshop price: £10 Feel free to bring a friend!

"A good and simple way to relax and create space with oneself. I will come back. I found this workshop very helpful" Djati Roebijanti

09/09/2014

Conquer your fears - Regain control of your life

• Fear of a future event for instance public speaking, exams, or an interview
• A physical fear for instance a fear of heights or closed spaces
• A fear of objects or animals for example needles, spiders or dogs.
In the workshop you will learn to: Manage your reaction to fear Demystify the various types of fear
Explore and resolve your fears

Sunday 14 September 2014 - 3pm to 5pm
Workshop price: Only £15

At: Jean's café, 236 Upper Richmond Road, Putney, London, SW15 6TG
Book in advance, patrickbaron@gmail.com or 07957 661 887
Feel free to bring a friend and be prepared to leave without fear!

29/08/2014

Hi all, I am running a workshop on Self-Hypnosis tomorrow,
SATURDAY 30th AUGUST 2014 - 2pm to 4pm

Come and learn a way to manage the power of your mind to produce
• How to control your thinking, feelings and behaviours
• How to relax deeply or dissolve stress
• How to change your perspective on things, get unstuck, plan, change your automatic reactions, learn, etc

Book in advance: patrickbaron@gmail.com or 07957 661 887

Location: Jean's café, 236 Upper Richmond Road, Putney, SW15 6TG

Feel free to bring a friend!

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