
26/09/2025
The last few weeks have been such a journey: from the corridor of eclipses and the fallouts through different communities, to holding space at our equinox circle, welcoming friends into my home for gathering, and sharing on IVF, pregnancy and birth at the birthkeepers group.
What stood out to me is how easily discord and the inability to really listen can lead to separation and entrenchment. When we second-guess ourselves or feel the need to censor our words, connection disappears. But in circles where we can speak freely, without filtering or fear, even the most controversial subjects can be explored with openness and respect.
That is where the magic happens: in spaces where all opinions matter, where we choose to meet each other with deep love and open receptivity. True listening is not finishing each other’s sentences or assuming we know what someone else is going to say. It is mindfulness in practice, a beginner’s mind that does not drag the poison of past hurts into the present moment.
Women’s gatherings often have the reputation of being toxic, full of comparison or subtle competition. Sometimes, in the misplaced desire to protect ourselves, we bring in a kind of masculine energy - to dominate, to push, to prove. But real feminine power does not need to dominate. It is not subservient either. It serves, it nurtures, it creates space without fear.
I was reminded of this so strongly this week. Sitting in a circles of women that were not toxic or overwhelming, but nurturing and alive. Even where opinions diverged, there was respect. Even where views were different, there was love. Discord can so quickly escalate into aggression, but it doesn’t have to.
In the past, I might have walked away when things felt too difficult. Now, I feel the importance of staying when it matters, of listening before cutting ties, of removing toxicity when it is truly necessary and giving space for words to be spoken.
Unity in diversity, not uniformity. This has never felt more relevant. We don’t need to be the same to belong together. We just need to keep choosing love.
We can heal the world, one step at a time💕