The Thomas Connection

The Thomas Connection We help you let go of the pressure of perfection so you can live, love and work in a balanced way.

We offer therapy, courses, workshops and retreats for stressed high-striving individuals and couples.

21/09/2024

I am not immune to executive dysfunction... just because I am expert on it in others.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​As you know, I support female entrepreneurs to navigate the challenges of ADHD while balancing the demands of their busy businesses. It can be WILD, and full of chaos.

But what about the chaos I bring with my own ADHD brain?

In this episode of the Make More Money Online without Selling Your Soul podcast, I sit down with Polly Lavarello , my own business coach, to discuss all things ADHD and business:

✨ my own journey of recognising and managing ADHD as a business owner
✨ how it shapes my work with ADHD clients
✨ the relief and grief of assessment and diagnosis
✨ practical ways of working with your brain, rather than against it - using compassion

This is both vulnerable and vibey - so do tune in!

✨ To join my four day reset for ambitious ADHD business women who want their success to be sustainable, comment RESET and I'll DM it to you! ✨

In this week’s newsletter you’ll see screenshots from people whose work I’ve looked up to, from people whose work I’ve c...
07/06/2024

In this week’s newsletter you’ll see screenshots from people whose work I’ve looked up to, from people whose work I’ve connected with on Instagram over the years, who have hit burnout, and I want them to be a lesson for you 💕

Having watched these women admit their mistakes, their failures, their shortcomings, the cost that ignoring their energy and capacity has meant for them….

…I don’t want this for you.

I don’t want you to hit another burnout cycle because you didn’t listen.

You didn’t spot the signs 😔

To read more about this, sign up to this week’s edition of the F*ck It Friday - link is in the comments!

If you push through when your body says no, you’ll pay the price of burnout 🤯Take a mental health day from your business...
31/05/2024

If you push through when your body says no, you’ll pay the price of burnout 🤯

Take a mental health day from your business - nothing will implode if you step out for a day 🫶

Learn more about the Support, Systems and Self-Compassion I build into my business for myself in this week’s F*ck It Friday newsletter.

Sign up now to receive the full newsletter at 3pm and your very own permission slip every Friday.

Comment FRIDAY below and I will send the link to you! 💌

Working on perfectionism is not just an inside job, it is an outside job too.Addressing the societal structures which we...
17/05/2024

Working on perfectionism is not just an inside job, it is an outside job too.
Addressing the societal structures which weigh so heavily on women.

Let us have imperfections. Let us be human. Let us just BE.

That pesky patriarchal pressure of perfection…

Why do I keep banging on and on about it?

Because it is such a weight on our shoulders.

It sneaks in everywhere, even into our bathrooms.

We are washed with these pressurising messages that we aren’t good enough, that we need to change ourselves and that we also need to spend money on removing our imperfections.

I go into this in more depth in today’s F*ck It Friday newsletter - aptly covering why we need to say “f*ck that patriarchal pressure of perfection”.

Grab the newsletter by signing up in the link in the comments!

F*ck It Friday is BACK! 🚀Curious why I’m embracing the F word again? Part of the work that I’ve done on myself around gi...
10/05/2024

F*ck It Friday is BACK! 🚀

Curious why I’m embracing the F word again? Part of the work that I’ve done on myself around giving myself permission is to allow myself to be authentically who I am. 🤍

Sign up now to receive the full newsletter at 3pm and your very own permission slip every Friday. Link in my bio! 💌

F*ck It Friday is BACK! 🚀Curious why I'm embracing the F word again? Part of the work that I've done on myself around gi...
10/05/2024

F*ck It Friday is BACK! 🚀

Curious why I'm embracing the F word again? Part of the work that I've done on myself around giving myself permission is to allow myself to be authentically who I am. 🤍

Sign up now to receive the full newsletter at 3pm and your very own permission slip every Friday. Link in the comments! 💌

09/05/2024

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, I tackle the often-neglected concept of rest, especially for individuals with ADHD and perfectionists.

I present rest as the best-kept secret of high performance, crucial for achieving more and preventing burnout.

The episode explores the resistance many feel towards allowing themselves to rest, labelling rest as an act of rebellion against the pressures of a perfectionist, patriarchal society.

Through listener questions and personal insights, I discuss the importance of rest for both mental and physical well-being and introduce the Pause Purpose Play Mini Mastermind designed to help ambitious women find balance, meaning, and fun.

The episode emphasizes that resting and recovering are essential for achieving ambitious goals sustainably, without falling into the burnout trap.

Click the link in the comments to listen to the full episode. 🎧✨

Fancy a bit of rebellion to end your week? 🙈💬Your love for our cheeky 'F*ck It Friday' emails is loud and clear!But how ...
03/05/2024

Fancy a bit of rebellion to end your week? 🙈💬

Your love for our cheeky 'F*ck It Friday' emails is loud and clear!

But how do YOU really feel about swearing? Is it a thrilling escape or just unnecessary? 🤔

Your voice matters, so don't hold back—tell me how you really feel.

Want more unfiltered insights and raw talks straight to your inbox? 💌

Sign up to our newsletter today by clicking the link in the comments and let's keep the conversation going! ✨

⭐️ Here's today's reminder that it's time to put yourself back on the priority list.✨ This Free Up Friday, I talk about ...
26/04/2024

⭐️ Here's today's reminder that it's time to put yourself back on the priority list.

✨ This Free Up Friday, I talk about why it's completely okay — and absolutely necessary — to attend to your own emotional needs as fervently as you do for others.

💖 Because caring for yourself isn't just about feeling better; it's about being able to give more to those you care for.

💌 Ready for a little nudge towards self-compassion? Click the link in the comments to sign up for today’s Free Up Friday newsletter!

Peace... aaaah.🧘‍♀️That feeling when you're back to your favourite yoga class, with Natasha, the resident yoga expert of...
12/04/2024

Peace... aaaah.🧘‍♀️

That feeling when you're back to your favourite yoga class, with Natasha, the resident yoga expert of Burn Bright...
..and playfulness, strength and courage, managing to do a shoulder stand today!

I never "had the time" for this before, but now I MAKE the time.

Especially when I'm busy, like now, in the middle of enrolment for this round of Burn Bright, my transformational group coaching programme for high-striving women who want to achieve great things and have a positive impact in the world - without the negative impact on themselves.

That's why I go to a 90 min yoga even when I am busy - to bring in some ease and peace when full up.

Like an ambitious working woman said on a Burn Bright clarity call this week:

"I have so much I want to achieve, that I put self-care at the bottom of the pile."

I told her that we can work towards shifting that to:

"I have so much I want to achieve, that I make self-care a priority. "

Imagine what you could accomplish if you are well rested. 🔥

Imagine what it's costing you to NOT be...😵‍💫

Burn Bright is open for enrolment now, but only six spaces in total - so DM me to chat about it now!

(Did you know you can ask your employer to contribute, or put it on your own company?!)

When it is full, it's full!

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How do you meet yourself where you are at, as the person you are, with the energy you have in that moment? With kindness...
10/04/2024

How do you meet yourself where you are at, as the person you are, with the energy you have in that moment?

With kindness and compassion, or with pushing through?

I am tired today. 😴

🥳 I have spoken to a HR director about an upcoming talk I am delivering on mental health, stress and burnout...

🥳 I did an Instagram live today about my group coaching programme Burn Bright...

🥳 I did an hour with my PA about boring accounting things (thanks for the body doubling!) and sent some invoices.

This on the back of having solo parented two young kids on a trip to Sweden for the first week of the Easter holidays. 😵‍💫

I am tired. I am in launch mode, which is energetically taxing in itself.

So I reflected on what someone told me on a Burn Bright clarity call this week:

🤯 "I have so much to achieve, that I put self-care at the bottom of the pile".

Let's shift that, I told her.

🧘‍♀️"I have so much to achieve, that I make self-care a priority."

That new statement will feel alien and clunky at first, but acting AS IF it is true, choosing activities to replenish your energy after something stretchy, will feed back in to your self-worth.

You will act like someone who prioritises self-care, in a self-compassionate way, and with practice, it will become your truth. ❤️‍🩹

I have laid with eyes closed and taken deep breaths, I cooked and ate a nourishing lunch, read a new book and did somatic exercises afterwards. I have painted and checked in with my work wife .

How do you meet yourself when you're in a stretchy phase?

Tell me in the poll!

( DM me if you want to chat about Burn Bright, learning to treat yourself with more compassion and kindness rather than pushing through into burnout!)

I am going live today at 12.00, to talk about who I made Burn Bright for 💬If you’ve been wondering:👉 Is now the right ti...
10/04/2024

I am going live today at 12.00, to talk about who I made Burn Bright for 💬

If you’ve been wondering:

👉 Is now the right time?
👉 Is this another thing I’m going to invest in and not show up for?
👉 Is this another bustling group program I’ll get lost in?

Then come along to watch me talk about it!

Or if you don’t have time, but want MY eyes on YOUR life and business, send me a DM to book a free 1:1 call with me.

I have four slots left on Wednesday and three on Friday - that’s in for this week.

Enrolment for Burn Bright closes on the 19th of April, and I only open the doors once or twice a year.

I don’t want you to miss this! ✨

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At The Thomas Connection, the most important thing is how we relate to others. We focus on guiding you to create a healthier connection with yourself, to help you step into the best version of yourself. Helping you perform without the pressure of perfection, so you can build a more meaningful and fulfilling life, following your true desires. We guide you so you can form a deeper connection with your partner in your relationship. So you can be brave enough to foster a more authentic connection to your friends, daring to be vulnerable with them and asking for support when you need it rather than worrying about not being perfect. So you can melt into that connection with your child, allowing yourself to be an imperfect parent. A good enough parent. The Thomas Connection was born out of our human need for nurture and connection, as we believe that we can all be the best versions of ourselves with a little support from someone.