Soma Shakti Healing

24/07/2025

7 Signs You're Carrying All the Emotional Weight — and Your Body Knows It

By Gia | Soma Shakti Healing

There’s a kind of tiredness that doesn’t show up on your face. It settles quietly in the nervous system.

You might be smiling, managing, holding space, or holding back.
Underneath it all, your body is whispering... this is too much.

If you’re the one who always senses the energy, the one who initiates repair, the one who feels deeply but rarely feels met — this is for you.

Let’s name it gently.

1. You feel everything — before words are ever spoken
You sense tension before it arrives.
You notice shifts in tone, silence, energy, and expression.
This is not overthinking. It is the sensitivity of someone who has learned to tune in for survival.

2. You start the hard conversations, even when they hurt
You speak up with love. You reflect with intention.
It often feels one-sided.
You bring your heart to the table and leave carrying both your own and theirs.

3. You express a need… and then end up comforting them
You try to be clear. You try to be honest.
Your words are often met with shutdown or deflection.
You find yourself soothing their emotions instead of receiving what you need.

4. You hold space for their triggers — but yours stay invisible
You tiptoe. You consider their moods. You pause when you want to speak.
Your emotions are rarely asked about.
You notice the difference — not in words, but in your body.

5. You are the grounded one, the strong one, the healer — but rarely the held one
Your depth is admired. Your insight is appreciated.
When your nervous system begins to fray, there is no hand reaching back.
The one who nurtures begins to feel unseen.

6. You are becoming their therapist, not their partner
You understand. You make space. You help them grow.
At some point, the energy became imbalanced.
There is no shared softness, only one-sided tending.

7. You feel resentment — then shame for feeling it
The resentment shows up in your body before your mind has words for it.
Tight jaw. Shallow breath. Fatigue.
The guilt follows quickly. You ask yourself if you're being too much.

You are not too much. You are simply tired of holding what was never yours.
Resentment is wisdom. It is your body saying this is not balance.
You are allowed to feel it. You are allowed to change what no longer nourishes you.

What now?

Start by coming back to your breath.
Place one hand on your heart and the other on your belly.
Ask yourself gently — what am I holding that I do not need to carry?

You don’t need to fix everything today.
You only need to start hearing yourself again.

When you begin to listen to your own system, everything starts to shift.
Not always overnight. Not always neatly.
But always toward healing.

When you're ready, there’s a way out and you don’t have to do it alone.

🌹 Inside Soma Shakti Healing, we offer spaces that are gentle, intuitive, and sacred.
Together we unwind the old patterns, soften the nervous system, and call your energy back home.

🌀 DM or email contact@somashaktihealing.com to book a 1:1 session, join our next Root to Rise retreat in Italy , or explore the work in a way that feels safe for you.

23/07/2025

The Invisible Line

I recently watched a short video that stayed with me.
In it, someone draws a circle around an ant.
The ant doesn’t try to leave.
It stays trapped inside the boundary, even though the line isn’t real.

Next comes a spider. It pauses at the edge but eventually steps over. Once it realises nothing bad happens, it no longer falls for the trick.
The spider keeps going, even when more lines are drawn.

This visual reminded me of a client I’ll call M.
She came to me feeling stuck.
She had all the skills, training, and insight, but couldn’t seem to step forward in her life or business.
Every time she tried, something in her pulled back.
She described it as a wall she couldn’t see, but always felt.

Together, we explored her nervous system responses.
Her body believed the past was still happening.
Memories of burnout, betrayal, spiritual gaslighting, and rejection had drawn invisible lines in her mind.

We didn’t just talk about it.
We met the freeze.
We worked with breath, body, sound, and energy.
We guided her system to feel safe enough to move again.

Session by session, she began to test the edge.
First with small decisions.
Then with her voice.
Eventually, she crossed the line.
And it didn’t hurt.
In fact, it gave her strength.

Today, M is no longer stuck.
She runs her own circles.
She earns with integrity.
She trusts herself.
That stuckness wasn’t who she was. It was a protective pattern waiting for release.

This is the heart of trauma-informed spiritual work.
Not pushing through.
Remembering how to cross, gently, fully, in your own time.

If something in you keeps pulling back even when you want to move forward, you’re not broken.
Your body may just need help remembering how to trust the step.

I help clients do exactly that.

If you're ready to release the invisible line and meet the power on the other side, DM me or book a clarity call via email

contact@somashaktihealing.com

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🙏🏼Gia🌼

21/07/2025

🧠 When Baby Girls Push Mummy Away: What’s Really Going On?

You may have seen those popular videos, little girls pushing their mothers off their fathers and taking their place in his arms. The comments are usually full of laughs. “She’s already territorial.” “Daddy’s girl activated.” People find it cute, even funny.

I see something else. I look beyond the surface. These moments are emotionally rich. What might look like a toddler’s cheeky play can also offer a glimpse into early attachment, boundary testing, and identity formation.

This isn’t about judging or worrying. It’s about understanding. When we understand, we can guide more consciously.

👧 What’s Actually Happening?
Between 18 months and 3 years, toddlers begin to experiment with identity. They notice affection, observe social roles, and begin placing themselves in the emotional map of their caregivers.

When a child sees one parent hugging the other, they often want to join in or take over. This is called triangulation. It’s a healthy part of social development, where the child interacts not only with individuals, but with the bond between others.

They are not trying to steal love. They are trying to understand where they belong within it.

British psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott once said, “There is no such thing as a baby, there is only a baby and someone.” That someone is usually the mother or a primary caregiver. Later, the child starts to explore how love works between other people and how they can fit into it.

🔍 This Is Emotional Mapping, Not Just Possessiveness
What some label as jealousy is often a developing sense of self and relational power. Children may:

Assert their connection to a parent

Test emotional boundaries

Mimic behaviours they associate with love and safety

At this age, children learn through mirroring. If a child sees that love involves physical closeness and touch, they naturally want to take part.

This becomes even more layered for girls. In many cultures, young girls are praised for being attached to their fathers, and subtly encouraged to see their mothers as emotional rivals. While this may seem harmless, it can plant early seeds of emotional competition.

💬 What We Should Avoid

Laughing it off with comments that imply rivalry

Praising behaviour that excludes or displaces another parent

Reinforcing the idea that love is a prize to be won or defended

These moments teach children about emotional dynamics. They begin forming beliefs about love, value, and self-worth.

🛠️ What Helps:

Conscious, Simple Responses

Model inclusive love.

Invite the child in. “There’s room for all of us here. We’re a family.” This teaches that love expands rather than excludes.

Name the feeling.
“You really wanted Daddy’s attention, didn’t you? That’s okay.” Emotional literacy grows when children feel seen and safe.

Hold your ground gently.
“Daddy and I are having a moment. You’ll get your cuddle in just a second.” Boundaries don’t need to feel like rejection.

Don’t validate emotional rivalry.

Avoid celebrating behaviours that create competition or reward displacement. It may look cute but in the future, trust me, it won’t be!

Offer quality one-on-one time.
Each parent can make space for solo bonding with the child. When they know their needs will be met, they feel safer in shared space too.

👩‍👧 These Are the Early Lessons
When toddlers are allowed or encouraged to displace others for affection, it can create unconscious patterns that last. A child might begin to believe:

Love is limited

You must compete to be seen

There is more safety in exclusivity than connection

Writer and activist bell hooks reminds us that “love and abuse cannot coexist.” She also reminds us that love must include justice and respect. Even at the youngest ages, children benefit from experiencing love that is grounded, inclusive, and emotionally honest.

This isn’t about overanalyzing a sweet moment. It’s about noticing what’s really being learned underneath the laughter.

🌱 Let’s Teach Something Different
Love is not a triangle. It is a circle. There is space for everyone inside it.

These moments are not problems to fix, but invitations to lead with awareness. They offer a chance to teach boundaries without blame, and affection without exclusion.

Children are watching. They are learning how love feels, how safety is created, and what relationships mean.

We don’t need to be perfect. We just need to be present and conscious of the stories we allow to take root.

If you are a Mommy and navigating this, finding it difficult and/or feeling triggered, I’m here to help you.

Please connect with me via DM or email contact@somashaktihealing.com for a FREE consultation.

🙏🏼Gia😊

19/07/2025

The Mother Wound - Part Two:
What they don’t understand about mother wounds

“Yeah, but she’s your mum.”
That sentence has silenced more women than it’s helped.

As if being a mother erases accountability.
As if giving birth is a free pass to harm you.
As if biology means you owe her your silence, your loyalty, your forgiveness — no matter what she did.

Here’s the truth:
Being someone’s mum doesn’t mean they were kind.
It doesn’t mean they were stable.
It doesn’t mean they were safe.

And being someone’s daughter doesn’t mean you have to keep swallowing the pain just to keep the peace.

“It’s not her fault, she didn’t know better.”
Maybe.
Maybe she didn’t have the tools.
Maybe she was drowning in her own trauma.
But that doesn’t mean your wounds disappear.
That doesn’t mean the damage didn’t happen.

You can hold compassion and still honour your truth.
You can understand her story and still choose boundaries.
You can see her as a wounded woman and still feel the impact of her words in your nervous system.

Your healing doesn’t need the world’s permission.
It doesn’t need everyone to understand.
And it definitely doesn’t need to be wrapped in guilt or sugarcoated in “but she’s your mum.”

She may be your mother.
But you are your home now.
And you get to make it a safe one.

💬 If this speaks to something you’ve never said out loud, you can say it here. You’re not alone.

contact@somashaktihealing.com

When you’re ready, there’s a way out — and you don’t have to do it alone.
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19/07/2025

When betrayal goes viral…

The internet is quick to turn heartbreak into entertainment.
The recent clip of Andy Byron caught at a concert has blown up, shared, mocked, analysed.

But behind every “gotcha” moment is a woman.

Someone who once trusted.
Someone who maybe stayed up late waiting for him to come home.
Who believed his promises.
Who never imagined this would be how the truth came out, on camera, for strangers to dissect.

AND maybe, children.
Now witnessing their father’s apology… written not from the heart, but from a PR lens.

This isn’t about one man.
It’s about a pattern.

When someone cheats, especially publicly, it doesn’t just break a relationship.
It breaks the nervous system of the person betrayed.
It shatters their sense of safety, of identity, of what was real.

When the world shrugs it off or says “people make mistakes”… it deepens the trauma.

So here’s a reminder:

If you’ve been betrayed l, whether in public or private,
you’re not dramatic for hurting.
You’re not too sensitive for needing time.
And you DO NOT have to make it okay for anyone else’s comfort!

Healing from betrayal is a sacred journey.
You’re allowed to take as long as you need.
You’re allowed to rage, grieve, collapse, rebuild.

There’s no deadline for your restoration.

💬 Have you ever had to rebuild yourself after betrayal?

What helped you reclaim your peace?

If this incident triggered things for you and you think it’s time to get some help for your own experiences and healing, email me contact@somashaktiheaking.com or DM for a Free Chat

🙏🏼Gia🌼

Disclaimer:
This post is for reflection and conversation, not personal attack.
I’ve referenced a widely shared public incident to explore the emotional impact of infidelity and betrayal — something many people experience in silence.
All opinions are my own, and my focus is on healing, not blame.















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19/07/2025

Trigger Warning-The Mother Wound Part 1

Did your mother ever call you names?

Not just the obvious ones.
Not just the screaming, swearing, or slaps.

What about the “harmless” ones?
The sugary-sounding ones said with a smirk:
“Oh you’re so dramatic.”
“Here she goes again, the little princess.”
“No man will ever want someone like you.”
“Why can’t you be more like your sister?”
“You always ruin everything.”
“Look at you — who do you think you are?”

Sometimes the most painful words are the quiet ones.
The sarcastic ones.
The sweet-but-cutting comments that stay with you for years.
They don’t leave bruises, but they leave a blueprint.

So many women were raised in homes where the mother was angry, tired, emotionally unavailable, or projecting her own wounds.
She may have said she loved you.
She may have tucked you into bed at night.
But in between, she shattered your confidence with a thousand tiny knives.

It’s time we stop normalising this.
A mother calling her daughter names is not just “what mums do.”
It’s not “how we were raised.”
It’s not culture. It’s not discipline. It’s not love.

It’s emotional abuse.
It’s humiliation.
And it teaches girls to accept mistreatment from others… and from themselves.

You don’t need to excuse it just because she “had it worse.”
You don’t need to bury it just because others won’t understand.
Your pain is valid. Your story matters.

You get to rewrite the script.
You get to learn gentleness.
You get to be safe in your own presence, even if she never made you feel that way.

This is the work. This is the healing.
And it’s fierce, holy, hard — and possible.

When you’re ready, there’s a way out, and you don’t have to do it alone.

connect with me via DM or email contact@somashaktihealing.com
for a Free Discovery call.

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🙏🏼Gia🌼

17/07/2025

Not all abuse looks loud.

Sometimes it’s a quiet kind of war. The kind where you’re being watched, timed, and tested in ways nobody else can see. Where even your breath feels too big.

They don’t have to raise their voice. All it takes is a look, a sigh, or a silence that freezes your insides. A shift in tone that makes your stomach drop. A simple sentence that makes you doubt yourself completely.

Victims of narcissistic abuse often live in survival mode. They are constantly second-guessing, walking on eggshells, trying to stay one step ahead so they don’t trigger the next punishment. Sometimes the punishment is just being ignored, criticised, or made to feel like they are the problem.

This is not love. It’s control dressed up as care. It leaves people feeling powerless, ashamed, and scared to move. They don’t run because they’re weak. They stay because their nervous system has been trained to freeze.

When someone tells you their partner seems amazing on the outside but is harming them behind closed doors, take them seriously. The charm, the generosity, the perfect smile — it’s all part of the mask.

What they need is not judgment or pressure. They need to know there’s a safe space waiting for them. Somewhere they can land softly when they finally gather the strength to leave.

If you are someone who has been there, or you’re still there now, I want you to know this.

You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. You’re not broken.

You’re surviving something designed to confuse and contain you.

When you’re ready to rise, there will be people like me waiting to help you walk out of the cage and never look back.

DM or email me for a free and confidential consultation.

Gia 🙏🏼🌼

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17/07/2025

Hi Everyone! 🌸
I’ve created a new little sister space, a dedicated group chat called Soma Shakti Retreat HQ, for all updates on future retreats in the UK, Europe, and the USA 🌍

If you're curious about joining future retreats (whether it’s next season or next year), this space will have:
✨ Dates & early bird prices
✨ Itineraries & behind-the-scenes planning
✨ Sneak peeks, travel tips & sacred ceremony ideas
✨ Space to ask questions or message me privately

It’s more of a gentle updates hub so you’re the first to know when something beautiful is coming 🌿

You can join here:
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Drop a ❤️ if you're in or message me anytime 🫶
Can’t wait to share what’s next 🌹

Now, back to venue finalisation for a root to Rise!!Can’t wait to share!! Be back soon with deets!

Love Gia

Sacred space for future Soma Shakti retreats. Updates, sneak peeks, sisterhood, and soul-led magic as we rise together. 🌹✨

16/07/2025

🕊️Not every battle is worth your energy.

Especially the ones you’ve had on repeat.
The ones where you already know how it ends. Who’ll twist it. Who’ll guilt you. Who’ll make it your fault.

Whether it’s family stuff, a toxic colleague, or someone who’s been trying to chip away at your self-worth for years, there comes a point where you stop showing up to prove anything.

That’s not weakness. That’s growth.

You’re not here to convince people who don’t want to understand you.
You don’t need to keep explaining yourself to someone who’s committed to misunderstanding you.

This doesn’t mean you roll over or stay quiet forever.
It means you pick your moments.
You protect your nervous system.
You decide who gets access to your energy.

You get to choose when to speak and when to walk away.
You don’t owe anyone your peace just to keep things calm for them.

It’s not about bottling things up.
It’s about learning when silence is protection, not submission.
When not reacting is the wisest move in the room.

You’re allowed to stay soft and still hold your boundary.
You’re allowed to leave the room.
You’re allowed to say, “Not today. Not anymore.”

That’s not passive.
That’s powerful.
That’s you taking your energy back.

🙏🏼Gia🌼
Soma Shakti Healing
London Talk Therapy

15/07/2025

You Don’t Need to Break Down to Break Through!

Let’s clear something up.

Healing doesn’t have to look DRAMATIC to be real!

You don’t have to cry, shake, scream, or collapse for it to “count.”

Real trauma release can be subtle.
A deep breath you didn’t know you were holding.
A wave of calm. A moment of stillness where your body feels just a little bit safer.

Some people have big emotional releases. Others don’t.
Both are valid. Both are healing.

Trauma lives in the body, in your muscles, your breath, your gut, your skin.
So it makes sense that healing also happens through the body.
Not always loud. Not always visible. Often quiet. Always meaningful.

If you’ve ever wondered,
"Did that session work if I didn’t cry?"
or
"Why didn’t I feel something huge?"
Please know this, your body might already be doing the work, in its own time, in its own way.

You don’t need to perform your pain to be worthy of healing.

You just need to feel safe enough to begin.

📩 DM me or email contact@somashaktihealing.com to book a free discovery call to find out more about holistic healing and how I can help!

We’ll take it at your pace.

Gia | Soma Shakti Healing
Somatic Therapy • Energy Work • Trauma-Informed Support,
Therapeutic Talk