Be Kind To Yourself Therapy

14/01/2026

Sometimes couples don’t need to have a big dramatic moment in their relationship to know something’s off. It often comes quieter than that.

It’s the feeling of talking at each other instead of with each other.
It might be the same argument looping… with no resolution again and again.
The distance that creeps in even though you still care deeply about each other.

And often, it’s not about love being gone.
It’s about feeling unheard, misunderstood, or not quite knowing how to get back to each other.

Creating a little space, with the right support, can be a really kind thing to do for your relationship.

Not space to pull away… but space to slow things down, soften the edges, and learn how to communicate differently.

Couples work isn’t about deciding who’s right or wrong. It’s about understanding what’s happening underneath the arguments, the silence, or the tension and finding a new way forward together.

If you’re both willing to be curious, to listen, and to try something different, there is so much possibility for reconnection.

You don’t have to be at breaking point to reach out. Sometimes it’s enough to say, “We care about this, and we’d like a bit of help finding our way back.”

And that’s a really hopeful place to start 💛
If you would like to find out if couples therapy would be helpful, download this guide to work through with your partner.

A guide to help you decide if you would benefit from Couples Therapy.

11/01/2026

Sunday Journal Week 2

10/01/2026

Four years ago, I made one of the best decisions ever and one that quietly changed my life. At the time, I was asking a lot of myself. I was working hard, seeing lots of clients and carrying a full mental and emotional load. I knew I wanted to do this with the best possible head on my shoulders.

I started to notice something simple but super important to me. On the nights I had a drink, you know the nice glass of red wine because “I’ve worked hard today”, or because “I deserved a drink at the end of the day” or because “I wanted to relax”, well I started to not feel like myself the next day. My energy was lower, my focus was off, my patience was thinner and my cravings for rubbish food was greater.

So I decided to try a 90-day challenge. No alcohol. Just curiosity. Those 90 days passed and I kept going. In the coming months, what followed was interesting. Some people found my decision a bit uncomfortable. Some relationships changed a little and that wasn’t always easy. I went from being the one always up for a drink to wanting something different. At times I was referred to as ‘boring’ and that didn’t feel great. This did not put me off.

What became really clear to me, and still is 4 years later is this: My life is so much better without alcohol. I feel clearer, more grounded, more present and more myself. I continue to be alcohol free, not from restriction but from a place of deep respect for myself.

I would love to hear any other similar stories out there, drop me a note or a comment.

09/01/2026

Do you plan your week or month out?
I do.
In my diary is scheduled time for exercise, meeting friends, runs, school stuff for the little fella, things for us to do as a family, dog grooms. You name it, it's in there. It helps me stay on track each week.

What do you do to help yourself stay on track?

I really like this new planner I got from
thank you.

04/01/2026

Sunday Journal Week 1
Today is the first of the weekly Sunday Journal prompts for 2026. I hope you enjoy the journey.

27/12/2025

As the year begins to slow, many of us often start asking,
“Did I do enough?”
“Should I be further along?”
"Should I have tried harder?"

With this in mind I’ve created an End of Year Reflection should you wish to have a look. Here's the link: https://bekindtoyourselftherapy.com/end-of-year-reflection-2025/26-guide

This is an invitation to pause, take a breath, and gently notice what this year has been like for you. It's about helping you notice not just what you achieved in the last year, but also what you carried, learned, and where you grew.

It’s not about goals or resolutions.
It’s about listening in to yourself and closing the year with intention.

You can take it slowly, come back to it, or just notice what comes up during the reflection. Most important to remember is that and you don’t need to do it perfectly.

Save it, come back to it, or share it with someone who might need a softer way to end the year.

24/12/2025

A little something I wrote about The One Who Holds A Lot.
This therapist is signing off for Christmas to spend time with my most precious people. To chill around the house, go for walks, catch up on the household bits we've been too busy to attend to all year (there's a lot!!!) and to process all that's happened this year.

There's been loss, frustration, growth, fun, adventure, pride, juggling ... lots of juggling, connection, disconnection, courage, discomfort, love, anxiety, the list goes on (and that's before ever I see a client).

I wish you all a very happy Christmas and hope it is filled with all that you need at this time of year. Lots of love.

17/12/2025

Rub two dogs with one hand .....
This is something we have had to learn in our house. When I put my shoes on each morning, I usually sit on one of our son's Ikea chairs. Frankie (apricot) usually comes and plonks herself between my legs making this very simple task more difficult. No sooner is she there when Jess (red) comes along and squishes right next to her. This is when both of them wish to be rubbed.

It is easy for me to get flustered and frustrated with these two but the reality is that dogs have a magical way of helping you stay present.

To connect to the present and be with them just for a brief moment. I love it.

What teeny tiny thing do you do on a daily basis that helps you stay present?

12/12/2025

At this time of year our relationships can feel under a lot of strain. We face time away from work and more time with each other. This can lead to more pressure which can lead to further breakdowns.

If you are struggling with your relationship and woukd like to see if therapy might help, download the free guide.

12/12/2025

When you work for yourself Christmas parties are non-existent unless ..... you are part of of a great group like The Kind Vibe. So I finished with a client, put some sparkle on and went to have our Christmas get together last week and it was so lovely to be around a group of fun, ambitious and successful women.

How are you celebrating Christmas get togethers this year? Let me know in the comments.

08/12/2025

When 3 become 2 ......
First picture is of me and my 2 sisters and the second picture is of me and my remaining sister. Grief is messy as hell.

Just when we think we are moving through it, something happens, like a Facebook memory, a smell, a place, an object and it reminds us of lots of things and times.

Times of connection and also disconnection. Times of great laughs and also great sadness. Times of sharing and times of distancing. Sometimes what's left behind is painful, hurtful and sad and as time goes on we can try to hold on to the good memories. Other times what's left behind is great memories, fun times and love and we are mindful of some bad times too.

Whatever is left is left and we have to choose how we respond to it. One thing we know is that as time goes on we move more into a place of acceptance. Acceptance that this is now our reality and that this now is life without our loved ones.

Whatever stage of grief you are in, know you are not alone. Reach out for support if you need it.

Comment with a ❤️ if you can relate to this.

30/11/2025

So we went to Amsterdam for my partners 'special' birthday. Booked accommodation well in advance, because hey I'm organised. Less than 1 hour before we were taking flights I received a message to say the accommodation we booked was no longer available. Imagine my horror.

The accommodation they offered was like a matchbox and not somewhere to spend a special birthday. Time was not on our side, we had a young child with us so I had some choices to make and quickly.

Here's how I dealt with it:
* I took 2 rounds of deep breaths, out breath was longer. This helped me move out of my fight (with the agency) or flight (and ignore the situation) system.
* I asked my partner to give me some time to think and keep our little fella distracted for a bit. This helped me put our options on the table.

After this I was able to make a new choice and we ended up going for staying on a boat which was really cool. Happy partner, happy child, happy me.

Somethings crap things happen to make space for great things.

Tell me about a time when you've had something crap happen so that a new thing could be brought in.