Be Kind To Yourself Therapy

Be Kind To Yourself Therapy A CBT Therapist specialising in Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) working with individual's to identify and challenge unhelpful thinking patterns.

Helping you to become your own therapist.

Each week I volunteer at a school as a reading helper to Year 2. It's great. As we started a new year I got some new ki...
08/10/2025

Each week I volunteer at a school as a reading helper to Year 2. It's great. As we started a new year I got some new kids and I am having such a laugh with them. I see 4 kids each time and every one of them choose this book that day.

We had so much fun with it because basically the book was saying don't turn the page but of course they did. Their reactions to me reading it to them was just adorable.

It reminded me so much of how curious our minds are. We are told not to do something yet we do the very thing we are told not to.

In our adult world this can vary from:
* Don't drink too much alcohol!
* Don't eat the biscuits!
* Don't do drugs because they don't help!
* Don't spend all your money on clothing because money is a bit tight this month!
* Don't say the thing you are about to say because it won't be nice!

If we can learn to just notice our thoughts without reacting to them or judging them then we will be doing really well in supporting our overall mental and emotional well-being.

What do you do or not do ehrn temptation arises?

Recently I changed my logo and I love it. It represents what it's like working with me in therapy. My practice is call...
06/10/2025

Recently I changed my logo and I love it. It represents what it's like working with me in therapy. My practice is called Be Kind To Yourself Therapy because in a nutshell I needed to have therapy so that I could learn how to be kind to myself. For that reason, I wanted it to be a reminder to anyone who chose to work with me that this was an important part of the work - being kind to yourself.

We live with too much self-criticism in our minds and I work with individuals, and couples, to help them change this. I don't promise an easy ride but I promise a worthwhile one. Helping you change your thinking and behaviour so you can live a more fulfilled and contented life is one of my superpowers.

Burnout doesn’t just stay at work, it can spill over into our relationships too.When you’re running on empty, it’s tough...
03/10/2025

Burnout doesn’t just stay at work, it can spill over into our relationships too.
When you’re running on empty, it’s tough to have much left to give at home. You might notice yourself:

• Being snappy or irritable with your partner over little things.
• Pulling away even when you don’t want or mean to.
• Zoning out in conversations.
• Less present in intimacy.
• Feeling like you’re just “getting through the day”

It doesn’t mean you don’t love or care for your partner, it's just that you’re exhausted. Burnout depletes the important things like patience, empathy and energy which is what healthy relationships rely on.

Here’s the good news: things can get better. With the right support and a few small changes, you can:
• Protect your energy so you’re not always running on empty.
• Spot the early signs of burnout before it takes over.
• Reconnect with yourself and then with your partner.
• Learn tools to manage stress and protect your well-being so you have more capacity to show up in your relationship.

Burnout doesn’t have to break your relationship. With the right support, small changes, and a willingness to take care of yourself, there’s a path back to closeness, patience, and joy together.

If you think your relationship might benefit from a bit of a health check, help is available. Drop me a message.

One of the things that lights me up in life is sitting across from my clients and listening to how much they have grown,...
28/09/2025

One of the things that lights me up in life is sitting across from my clients and listening to how much they have grown, changed, become more authentic, are kind to themselves and are curious about themselves and their reactions.

My heart feels warm when I witness them being the best version of themselves and watching them keep making decisions that move them towards the person they want to show up as. It's truly beautiful.

If you've never tried therapy and are curious about how it can help, reach out. It could me the best decision you ever make.

Autumn is my favourite time of year. I love getting outdoors and watching all the leafs changing colours, the crispness ...
24/09/2025

Autumn is my favourite time of year. I love getting outdoors and watching all the leafs changing colours, the crispness of the chilly air, the sun that still manages to sneak through (some of the time) and I'm always so amazed at how the trees shed their leafs to make way for new ones in Spring.

Autumn really represents change and letting go of what no longer works for me and I tend to view this time as the beginning of a new year. When I think of change happening, my mind always go to Autumn.

Do you have a favourite time of year? If so, when is it and why do you love it?

Is there a time of year you prefer for change to happen?

Let me know in the comments.

The other morning my son and I paused to watch a spider weaving its web. This was a big deal because the little fella do...
21/09/2025

The other morning my son and I paused to watch a spider weaving its web. This was a big deal because the little fella doesn't like spiders. We watched tiny, deliberate movements, one thread at a time as the spider connected, strengthened and created their web. What struck me was the slowness, the patience, and the quiet determination of this tiny creature even though it was quite windy out.

My son was fascinated, asking questions, noticing details. I felt grounded, calm, and grateful to simply be present with him, sharing something so simple yet so rich.

What could have been just another crazy rushing around moment in the house, suddenly became something bigger. It was a reminder to slow down, notice, and really be present.

For me, it was mindfulness in its simplest form. Sitting side by side, watching nature at work, feeling grounded in that quiet connection as I looked out the with my favourite little person. We had full admiration for the little spider and I had full admiration for my little boy. These are the moments I want to hold onto.

Watching that spider reminded me that life isn’t built in one big leap. Like the web, it’s created thread by thread, moment by moment. And those moments, especially when shared with someone we love, are worth cherishing.

Sometimes mindfulness isn’t about meditating or doing something big; it’s just about paying attention and appreciating the beauty that’s right in front of us.

What’s a small, mindful moment you’ve noticed lately?

If you haven't noticed one, what could you do to notice something?

So I did something really cool. Ticking things of the list of my Adventure to 50!!! 50 things I want to do in the coming...
19/09/2025

So I did something really cool. Ticking things of the list of my Adventure to 50!!! 50 things I want to do in the coming months on thr lead up to my birthday and the year of my birthday. I'm making good progress and I'm taking my friends and family along with me.

So my lovely friend Mel and I did the fastest zipline jn the world and the longest zipline in the UK and it was awesome. The zipline was amazing and we travelled 60 miles per hour in 55 seconds. Bonkers!!

This was fun, exhilarating, scary, exciting and a lovely weekend away with friends.

What have you been thinking of doin for a long time but have not given yourself permission to do?

Let me know in the comments.

If you are curious about whether therapy is something that would help you, reach out. I'm happy to answer any questions ...
19/09/2025

If you are curious about whether therapy is something that would help you, reach out. I'm happy to answer any questions you have.

This is me having ear acupuncture, something I didn't even know existed until that day. I was curious so I sat down and...
17/09/2025

This is me having ear acupuncture, something I didn't even know existed until that day. I was curious so I sat down and let the lovely lady .k.acupuncture work her magic on me.

Initially my thoughts were "Crap that's a lot of needles", "What if it hurts?", "Wouldn't it be so embarrassing if I whimpered like a baby", and on and on my mind went in a matter of seconds.

I sat down anyway, I trusted .k.acupuncture and I walked away feeling braver than before, no harm came to me, I felt calm and relaxed and while I was waiting I got chatting with a lovely fellow therapist who is looking to do some really great work with schools.

I took a chance on something new and walked away with a new connection or two and a lovely experience.

When is the last time you did something you were a bit nervous to do but did it anyway?

The 12th attempt at packing the bag for climbing Snowdon!!!!! The biggest decision was which t-shirt to pack that would ...
13/09/2025

The 12th attempt at packing the bag for climbing Snowdon!!!!! The biggest decision was which t-shirt to pack that would help me feel focused, proud and get motivated :-)

Did you know that motivation is fleeting because it’s closely tied to our emotional state, our energy levels, and our environment, all of which naturally goes up and down throughout the day. So if you are waiting to feel motivated before doing something don't because waiting often leads to procrastination, because our brains are wired to avoid effort and seek comfort.

What WILL actually help is taking action. Research shows that when people engage in meaningful activities (even without feeling motivated), their mood improves, and motivation follows. Dopamine (the brains reward chemical) gets released when we not only anticipate a reward but ALSO when we make progress towards them. So in other words taking small steps towards what we want creates a feedback loop in our brain that builds motivation over time.

Think of it like starting a fire: motivation is the spark, but action is the wood and oxygen that keep it burning. If you wait for the spark, you’ll struggle. But if you start stacking the wood (by showing up, moving your body, writing one sentence, or making one call), you create the opportunity for motivation to grow.

Now which t-shirt should I bring? Let me know what you think.

Today I am starting the weekend off with much excitement and nervousness. (did you know that inside your body, anxiety a...
12/09/2025

Today I am starting the weekend off with much excitement and nervousness. (did you know that inside your body, anxiety and excitement activate the same system: the sympathetic nervous system (the “fight, flight, freeze” response). Both can cause: faster heart rate, shallow or fast breathing, sweaty palms, muscle tension and a surge of adrenaline and cortisol)

Anyway back to my update... so this weekend I am doing the longest in the world and fastest in the UK zipwire with my walking friend. We are then meeting up with two other friends to climb Snowdon. I am nervous, excited, feel challenged physically (climb) and mentally (zipwire) and feel so thankful to have friends to go on these adventures with. Wish me luck.

Comment below and let me know what you have done recently to challenge and scare yourself.

One of the times that I am at my most content is right here, cooking a BBQ for people I love and care for. BBQ's are ver...
10/09/2025

One of the times that I am at my most content is right here, cooking a BBQ for people I love and care for.

BBQ's are very common in our home each year however this year I have only managed to have ONE!!!!! This is quite unheard of.

We had some of our dear friends over for one recently and I was in my element cooking this up. The kids were playing, my and friends partner were both putting the tree cuttings through the wood chipper, the dogs were chilling, the cats were lazing around and my friend and I were chatting while I cooked. It was really lovely.

These moments in life really matter to me. These are moments that are important to me. These are moments I treasure.

Let me know what you like to do to connect with your inner peace and calm.

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