14/04/2026
And I keep thinking about how wildly different this is to how we approach the birth bit.
We don’t go:
“haven’t done it yet, but I will.”
We go straight to:
what if I panic
what if I can’t cope
what if it all goes wrong
From the sofa. In our pyjamas.
With absolutely nothing real other than our imaginations and other people’s stories, to base it on…
Meanwhile… she didn’t sit there questioning whether she could do it.
Even when it felt impossible.
Soo what if that’s the bit we’re missing?
Not more prep.
Not more information.
Not another “just breathe” tip.
Just the willingness to say: “This feels hard because I haven’t done it yet.”
It’s not that you can’t cope.
It’s not that you won’t be able to do it.
You’re just trying to pre-live something you haven’t experienced yet… and your brain is doing what brains do - filling in the gaps with worst-case scenarios and what-ifs.
If the birth bit feels big this week, let’s borrow this energy from her:
“I haven’t done it yet… but I will.”
And then… maybe get out of your own way a tiny bit.
👉🏻 Save this for your next 10pm “what if I can’t cope” wobble.
Rach ❤️
