KirstenDahlerup.com

07/10/2025

Do you struggle to say no without feeling guilty?
You’re not selfish - your nervous system just learnt that pleasing equals safety.
For many of us, people-pleasing started as a protection pattern.�When we sensed disapproval, distance, or tension growing up, our body learnt that being “good” or keeping others happy kept us safe and connected.
But as adults, that same pattern can leave us feeling anxious, resentful, and disconnected from ourselves.

The good news?�Our body always knows when something isn’t right - a tight chest, a knot in the stomach, that quiet feeling of “off.”�That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.
In this video, I share:�🌿 Why people-pleasing is a nervous system response�🌿 How to recognise when you’re in “please mode”�🌿 Small, gentle ways to start setting boundaries that feel safe
It’s not about pushing people away - it’s about coming home to yourself. 💓

If you’ve ever found it hard to say no - or you worry that setting boundaries makes you selfish - this video is for you.Many of us learnt early on that love and safety depended on keeping others happy. So as adults, saying “this doesn’t feel right for me” can feel confusing, even scary.But o...

20/08/2025

Reconnect with Your Inner Child and Heal from Within

Your inner child holds the key to joy, creativity, and emotional freedom.

Inside each of us lives a part that’s curious, playful, present, brave, and full of joy - our inner child.
But over time, life experiences, trauma, and the pressure to 'fit in' can cause that light to dim. We may hide it, silence it, or numb it away… and in doing so, lose touch with one of the most vital parts of who we are.

Your inner child isn’t just a memory - it’s the source of creativity, spontaneity, and emotional truth. When we reconnect with it, healing and transformation become possible.

That’s exactly what I help clients to do through hypnotherapy.
- Heal old emotional wounds
- Restore joy and creativity
- Feel whole, present, and truly alive

In my latest video, I share more about how we lose touch with our inner child - and how you can begin to reconnect with yours.

If you feel that spark calling to you, I’d love to support you. You don’t have to do it alone.

Get in touch to hear more about how I can help.

Warmest wishes

Kirsten

inner child healing, reconnect with inner child, hypnotherapy for trauma, emotional healing, healing inner child hypnotherapy, inner child work, personal growth

13/05/2025

Are you in love - or caught in a trauma bond?

Sometimes what feels like intense love is actually something deeper - and more painful. If you've ever felt hooked on someone, yet constantly anxious, walking on eggshells, or losing your sense of self in the process… this message is for you.

In my latest blog and video, I explore how unresolved childhood wounds can shape the relationships we’re drawn to — and how to break free from confusing chaos for real connection.

💔 Learn the signs of trauma bonding
💡 Discover what healthy love actually feels like
🛠️ Explore how hypnotherapy can help shift deep emotional patterns

Because love shouldn’t feel like losing yourself — it should feel like coming home to who you truly are.

Discover the difference between true love and trauma bonding. Learn how your childhood patterns may be shaping your relationships - and how to begin healing.

26/03/2025

Childhood trauma may not only be what you think it is.

I’ve just written a blogpost on my website about this - if you’re interested go to www.kirstendahlerup.com for a two minute read💓

If however you are a busy bee or can’t be bothered to head on over to the website then you might be interested in reading some examples of the effects of childhood trauma below

Unresolved childhood trauma can manifest in various ways, including:
* Emotional Dysregulation – Difficulty managing emotions, leading to anxiety, depression, or mood swings.
* Low Self-Esteem – Deep-seated beliefs of unworthiness, guilt, or shame.
* Trust Issues – Struggles with forming healthy relationships due to fear of abandonment or betrayal.
* Physical Symptoms – Chronic pain, fatigue, digestive issues, or autoimmune disorders linked to suppressed trauma.
* Self-Sabotage – Patterns of procrastination, fear of success, or staying in toxic situations due to subconscious programming.
* Addictive Behaviors – Coping mechanisms such as substance abuse, overeating, or workaholism.

The good news is that I have 25 years of experience helping clients rewire unhelpful childhood programming - my London Hypnotherapy practice has been online for the last few years, so you can experience deep healing from the comfort of your own home.
Let me know if I can be of any help💓
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13/02/2024

Today is International SELF-LOVE day!💓

To me, self love is not about spa days or new purchases. However, it’s about how we speak to ourselves in our internal dialogue and how we treat ourselves.

Is your internal dialogue fear based or friendly?
Do you remember to put your needs before the wants of others?
Are you adding a narrative to life that puts your nervous system on edge or do you allow yourself to appreciate what is and view your life from a positive perspective?

You always have a choice in how you relate to yourself and the world - and Self-love is not selfish, it’s necessary for the health and well-being of your amazing mind, body and soul💓
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04/02/2024

Meditation, Silence and Presence are the portals to your inner Calm and sense of safety.

The more you practice these states, the better you become at Self regulation i.e helping your nervous system feel safe.

In order to be our authentic selves, we need to feel safe. When our nervous system feels safe, then:
- Our Inner Adult can better make decisions and take actions that serve us long-term.
- Our Inner Child feels free, playful and creative.
- The aspect of our psyche, that knows that we are part of something beyond ourselves is switched on and we can feel that powerful bliss this wisdom evokes..which can help us see things in their true proportions, as well as be more kind and compassionate to ourselves and others🙏

So when you practice Meditation, Silence and Presence you are investing in yourself as well as enriching the world 🧘‍♀️🧘💓

12/01/2024

Beautiful talk by Rupert Spira on non-duality at Alternatives💓
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