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Welcome! I'm self-development coach, speaker, writer and founder of The Priorities Method.

Lily Silverton is a self-development coach, speaker, writer and founder of The Priorities Method. Her commitment to helping individuals and organisations realign their priorities and transform their lives has made her a leading figure in the wellness world.

23/12/2025

‼️You can’t control what other people are going to do. Or think.‼️

It’s annoying, but true.

All you can control is how you respond to them, what you consider acceptable and what you know crosses that line.

That’s your boundary, and as someone who has had to use that boundary myself on a family member at christmas all I can say is I’m sorry if you need to use it, cause it’s not fun for anyone.

But it’s most likely vital for you ♥️

20/12/2025

Instead of losing the plot with your whole family this Christmas, try this ✌🏼

It’s a simple way to release tension from your neck, shoulders and upper back - the places that carry IT ALL.

By letting your head hang slightly off the edge of the bed, you’re allowing gravity to decompress your spine, increase blood flow to your brain and release fascia that tightens from staring at screens, holding stress all day or holding space for everyone else whilst holding none for yourself!

Here’s how to do it:

(But first, ‼️ If you suffer from low blood pressure, general dizziness or are pregnant, I don’t recommend this practice - if unsure always ask your GP first).

Lie on your bed and slowly scoot back until your head and neck are just off the edge. Unclench your jaw and breathe deeply. Stay like this or to make it spicier, let your arms fall back and open (if it’s too much, put them back!) Try just 20 seconds to start with. Once you’re used to it, you can build up to a few minutes as long as it still feels good. To come out, scoot your way back onto the bed, supporting your head if needed and stay lying flat before slowly making your way back up to seated (or just lie down and go to sleep!) The blood in your body will have rushed to your head, so if you feel dizzy go slow 🐌

Save to try whenever you need a break from the festive drama. See if it ends up becoming one of those weird tiny things that makes a big difference 🙏

18/12/2025

There’s a version of self-care that has become so normalised online that it’s really easy to feel guilty for not being able to keep up with it (esp at this time of year!)

The perfectly curated routines, the expensive treatments, the idea that rest has to be earned and then scheduled by squeezing it into an already overloaded week.

But, if your wellbeing practices require more time, money or emotional energy than they give back, they stop being restorative and become just another source of pressure. (And we all know you don’t need that…)

Real self-care is isn’t found through some complicated wellness routine.

It looks like protecting your sleep, feeding yourself properly, asking for help when you need it, looking after your mind, supporting others the best you can while also choosing the options that support you, rather than the ones that look impressive.

My book, Prioritise This, focuses this very topic - it’s an uplifting and deeply practical guide to navigating the challenges of modern life with greater clarity, compassion and purpose. It teaches methods that truly work, guiding you through essential shifts in focus, energy, and habits to serve your wellbeing rather than leading to burnout.

Comment BOOK and I’ll send you a pre-order link.

Sending festive strength, we’re nearly there!

13/12/2025

Most people feel a shift the moment they’re back in the family dynamics they grew up around…

No matter how regulated and/or brilliantly you might be doing in your adult life, you can still find yourself suddenly slipping into old roles, communication patterns or emotional responses (often very much unconsciously!)

This is because your nervous system remembers environments, and reacts accordingly.

So, if you notice yourself shrinking or becoming more anxious/reactive/meltdown-prone when you’re home for the holidays, it doesn’t mean you’re regressing or falling apart. It’s most likely a familiar (familial) pattern being activated.

Keep bringing yourself back to the person you are now, rather than the one you used to be. Give yourself some extra space when needed, as well as permission to duck out for a solo walk - perhaps even multiple times a day…

Comment STRESS to be sent my free worksheet that’ll help you navigate and reframe your thoughts in tricky situations such as these ♥️

09/12/2025

Advent calendars aren’t just about chocolate 🍫

They’re actually doing something quite specific to your brain, and this ‘thing’ can be applied anytime as a useful mindset tool to help lift mood/improve motivation.

Watch to find out why, skip to about 30 secs if you want to get to the point quicker 🙏

07/12/2025

If you feel like December comes with a second full-time job, you’re not imagining it. The invisible load gets heavier this month, and most of it lands squarely on women’s plates.

Here are the things you’re probably keeping track of without even realising:

1. Coordinating everyone’s Christmas schedules, school events, work socials, festive jumper days, class parties and general end-of-term chaos.

2. Being the designated problem-solver when the tree lights stop working, someone forgets Secret Santa or plans change last minute.

3. Keeping mental stock of wrapping paper, tape, gift bags, batteries, stocking fillers and the twenty tiny but essential bits of crap that disappear every year.

4. Planning meals, food shops, nativities, “just bring a dish” and what on earth everyone is eating between Christmas and New Year.

5. Managing life admin before everything shuts down: bills, renewals, prescriptions, appointments, school forms, childcare logistics.

6. Holding space for everyone else’s moods, tiredness, overstimulation, excitement and meltdowns (big or small). (As well as your own…)

7. Organising social life on all sides: family visits, drinks with friends, kids’ playdates, travel plans, who’s staying where and who’s bringing what.

8. Keeping track of gifts for teachers, doctors, neighbours, colleagues… and the cards that annoyingly never write themselves.

9. Making Christmas “magical” while quietly holding the emotional temperature of the whole house.

Have I missed anything?

If December already feels like a lot, you’re not failing - you’re carrying more than most people can see.

I’m Lily, mindset coach, wellness myth-debunker and mother of two, helping you feel less stressed and actually prioritise your priorities. Follow for more.

04/12/2025

A bubble bath is fine and all that, but have you tried a fork!?

Honestly, and I say this as a mindset coach… sometimes, when your mind is in complete chaos, the best way to find a bit of peace is through your body instead.

Let’s go:

Grab a (clean!) fork and add a little oil or lotion to your neck (I use coconut oil).

Gently glide the back and sides of the fork along the sides of your neck and around the base of your skull.

Move slowly, applying light pressure.

That’s it.

It might look weird, but it helps release layers of tight fascia in your neck – easing stiffness, reducing tension and even relieving headaches and stress. You’ll also find that just by doing it for a few mins you’ll start to breathe deeper and soften.

Save for later and share with someone who needs more fork action in their life🍴

20/11/2025

F**k it’s cold out there 🥶 Here’s a few ideas to keep your mind warm…

1. Get outside in daylight hours
Even on grey days, natural light helps. Get off the tube/bus a stop earlier, do a lunchtime walk w a pal, morning coffee outside – just make sure you’re getting out, your brain will thank you.

2. Make plans you’ll look forward to
The brain loves nothing more than anticipation – plan something + it’ll reward you with dopamine. Just ensure it’s the kind of thing that supports rather than drains. Think: dinner, excercise class, weekend away if you can.

3. Embrace the season
Easier said than done, but try not to fight the darker months. They’re gonna happen whether you stress about them or not! Resistence makes everything harder, and the more you think about how much you hate winter, the more your brain will believe it should hate it. Try to shift your routines instead – earlier nights, slower mornings, more warmth, rest etc.

4. Lean into comfort
Speaking of which! Comfort is your friend. Hot baths, soft clothes, blankets, fire - coocoon as much as possible. It’ll all help signal to your brain that you are safe, which’ll help settle your nervous system.

5. Use a SAD lamp daily
Ten to twenty minutes of light exposure in the morning has been shown to lift mood + help regulate your body clock. If it’s within your means, the evidence around their effectiveness is fairly robust.

6. Eat with the season
This isn’t rocket science – nourishing, hot food when you are cold + it’s dark helps regulate both energy + mood. Think soups, stews, one pot or pan stuff, meals that physically (+ psychosomatically) warm you up.

7. Try small daily rituals
Light a candle when you wake up, pop on a fave playlist while you cook, create a bedtime routine that signals rest. These obvious routines serve as comforting anchors that remind your brain life can feel good, even in the darker months.

~ You don’t have to love winter to get through it well. Prioritise consistent, small routines that support your system + brain. None of these habits reinvent the wheel, but taken together, they work!

Save this for the next grey morning when everything feels heavier than usual 🤍

18/11/2025

1. Understanding when self-help is unhelpful:
In retrospect, 10 years ago my self-help stuff was a bit more performative and aesthetic, now I’m more attuned to what actually works for me (as well as when it stops working and starts stressing me instead!)

2. Daily movement:
Boring yet true. I do it a bit for aesthetics, but more for sanity, health and longevity. Mostly yoga and Pilates, sometimes just a minute of bouncing. All I know is I never regret moving.

3. Boundaries with technology:
I do have my phone in the bedroom overnight, but it’s on do not disturb and stays that way in the morning until I feel ready for the world. We all deserve a moment of our own lives before diving into other people’s! (It also goes back on DND when I’m working.)

4. Morning meditation + red light mask:
Meditation is not for everyone, but it’s worked magic for me. It’s time just for me before the day hits (combining it w/ my red light mask ticks some skin self-care off too)

5. No coffee:
I’ve accepted that caffeine just doesn’t suit me. I still love the taste though, so am committed to decaf. (FYI: this is a very personal one, you might thrive after an espresso!)

6. Early wake-up:
I aim for 6am, or at least before the kids get up. It sets me up to be a better person for the day. (I can really feel/notice the difference when I miss it.)

7. Prioritising rest:
At 31 I equated business with self-worth. Now I’m much better at knowing when I’m nearing my breaking point and getting some rest in before I hit zero.

8. Not stressing the small stuff:
Life is too demanding and too short to be worrying about the things that don’t really matter. And the amazing thing is that the more you do this, the more your brain recognises that they don’t actually matter and does it for you automatically.

9. Weekly reflection:
Either journaling, a short walk without headphones or just talking to myself - basically a moment to run through my thoughts/feelings/random comments I made in 2005 that my brain won’t let me forget, and so on.

None of these are glamorous, most are free and what works for me might not be right for you. Find what is, do it consistently, see how you feel…

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I am a mindset coach, speaker, wellbeing teacher and journalist, with over 23 years of yoga, meditation and mindfulness experience (I started young, at 12) and strive to bring my personal experience of the transformative and healing effects of these practices to others. My aim is to better enable you to navigate this challenging modern world. My yoga approach is body positive; I want students to feel empowered to find what works best for them and strive for function over aesthetics. I hold a core belief that yoga is for everyone, and much of my work involves communities and charities, including The Refugee Council and Crisis. (FYI, if you're a charity I would love to hear from you!) More than anything I believe the real yoga happens off the mat - who really gives a sh*t if you can put your foot behind your head!? In coaching my aim is to enable clients to better connect with themselves (and those around them), access their core priorities, let go of negative patterns and motivate themselves for any changes, or difficulties, that may lie ahead. As a journalist, I frequently write and comment on yoga, body image, social media, mental health, and wellbeing, and have been featured in Women's Health, Vogue, The Guardian, iD, and Dazed Beauty. I am also Head of Yoga & Wellbeing at Raw Press, run regular panel talks for Soho House and host a monthly self-help book club, Books To Change Your Life. Before all this I spent 10 years working as a fashion and arts journalist, and still enjoy a high heel now and then.