Holistic Hands Wellness

12/02/2025

Different Paths, Not Different Worth

Misalignment is often mistaken for rejection. When someone’s priorities do not match another’s, it can feel personal—as if their choices are a direct reflection of their disapproval. But people are not against each other; they are simply moving toward different things.

Life does not unfold in one direction. Some chase stability, others seek adventure. Some prioritize career growth, while others focus on relationships. Some crave solitude, while others find purpose in connection. These differences are not barriers; they are reflections of individual needs, values, and experiences. No two people are built the same, and no two journeys are meant to look alike.

Yet, when someone’s path diverges, it is easy to assume distance means disapproval. The mind creates stories—If they cared, they would choose the same things I do. If they valued me, they would prioritize what I prioritize. But people do not make choices based on others; they make choices based on themselves.

The world does not divide into right and wrong paths, only different ones. Growth is not universal; it is personal. What fulfills one person may not fulfill another, and that is not a sign of incompatibility—it is a sign of individuality. Expecting everyone to value the same things is like expecting every flower to bloom in the same season.

Understanding this removes the need for validation. It shifts the focus from why aren’t they like me? to why should they be? It removes the pressure of fitting into someone else’s expectations and allows space for authentic connection—one that thrives not in sameness, but in mutual respect.

No one is falling behind. No one is ahead. People are simply aligned with what matters to them. Some will walk alongside each other, others will part ways. But none of it is personal. It is simply life, unfolding as it should...
Be kind, always...

14/01/2025

Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory? I’ll tell you friends the more I grow the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships.

This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people. But I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected.

Let them be upset.
Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them gossip about you,
Let them ignore you.
Let them be "right."
Let them doubt you.
Let them not like you.
Let them not speak to you.
Let them run your name in the ground.
Let them make you out to be the villain.
Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!
Kindly step aside and LET THEM.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. And they just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. And they did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel. The end. Let them go.

There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.

The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of acountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go.

Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go.

You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go.

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go.

It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.

If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people.

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.
Don’t you dare let them steal your light.
Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.
You are in control of that.

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.

Let them go...

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29/02/2024

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02/02/2024

Take a moment to truly appreciate your own strength. It's easy to forget that it was you who navigated through the toughest times. Think about those nights when tears were your only companion, and yet, it was you who wiped them away. You were the one who woke up each morning, putting one foot in front of the other, no matter how heavy your heart felt. Consider the simple acts of self-care you manage every day, from preparing meals to choosing your clothes. These aren't just mundane tasks; they're silent, powerful affirmations of your resilience.

You've been both the hands that have clapped in celebration and the arms that have wrapped around yourself in comfort. In the loneliest of times, you were the conversation in your head that said, 'We can do this, we can move forward.' It's remarkable, isn't it? How you've been your own anchor, your own motivational speaker, and your own quiet listener. The love you need doesn’t always come from the outside; it often emanates from within, from the very core of who you are.

So, next time you feel overwhelmed, remember this: Your heart, your mind, your very soul – they've been your most loyal companions. You're more than just surviving; you're a tapestry of strength, woven together with threads of your own compassion and courage. You are your own hero, and that’s something truly extraordinary 💖

28/01/2024

To All Women / Men 💕

You will never convince someone to love you..

Find someone who answers when you call and texts back within minutes rather than hours or days.

Find someone that gives you clear cut answers and doesn’t leave you wondering where you stand.

Find someone that wants to make you a part of their life rather than a chapter in their book.

Find someone that doesn’t take years and years to figure out what they want from you.

Find someone who respects, celebrates and encourages your individuality, your education, your spirituality, and your growth.

Find someone who is always honest with you even when the truth hurts.. remember, a single lie discovered is enough to create doubt in every truth expressed.

Remember It is never asking too much in a real relationship to be considered a priority.

Find someone is genuinely interested in you and pursues you on a daily basis.

Find someone wants you and asks you to go wherever they go and is proud to have you by their side.

Find someone that never let's you go to sleep at night wondering if you still matter.

Never chase someone because of their looks because one day those looks will eventually fade and what your left with is what's inside so don't be consumed by their physical traits.

Find someone who protects you and stands up for you even when you're not around.

Find someone who values you and who would never put themselves in a position to lose you.

Find someone wakes up everyday looking for new ways to love you.

Find someone that understands it's not about giving you the world but making you feel like you're the only one in it.

Remember your time is precious. Don't waste it on someone who doesn't realize you are too ❤️

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11/01/2024

Just in case you've forgotten:

* You matter.
* Not everything you want is meant for you.
* Actions speak louder than words.
* Your intuition is almost always right.
* The grass isn't always greener on the
other side.
* You can be a kind person and still say no.
* You've come too far to stop now.
* You deserve to take up space.
* The love you give yourself is just as
beautiful as the love you give to others.
* It's okay if you don't have all the answers.
* You are not your past nor your mistakes.
* Sometimes endings are the start of the
most breathtaking beginnings.
* Energy is contagious.
* NEVER EXCEPT LESS THAN YOU
DESERVE!
* The world is a better place because you're
in it... ❤️