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02/09/2024

She sat there in her nightdress
at the cafe down the street.
A blanket around her shoulders,
the same day on repeat.

They knew just where to find her,
everytime that she was lost.
The assistant served her tea
regardless of the cost.

Her children stood and watched
but they let her eat her bun,
as she reminisced about her life
and her days of fun.

In her mind she was still twenty,
at least she was today.
But dementia has the power,
to take our moments away.

Mary never forgot the cafe
where she had met her true sweetheart.
The father of the children
that she forgot at each days start.

Her sweetheart long gone now,
but not in Mary's mind,
she went back to the places
in the hope for him she'd find.

Her children were so caring,
and approached their mum with care,
they asked if she minded,
if they sat upon the chair.

Mary shook her head.
Her thoughts had now moved on.
The couple looked familiar,
but where had her sweetheart gone?

She then looked at her Son
and when he asked to take her home.
She looked at him and smiled,
and knew she was not alone.

Author Joanne Boyle Heartfelt
The artist is Steffi Krenzek

💙💙💙
24/03/2024

💙💙💙

Loss is an inevitable part of life. And with it of course, comes grief.

Grief can feel like a deep, dark hole that we will never climb out of, but when it all feels hopeless,
I like to remember that it works just like love.

Because, when we first fall in love, it is intense.
It is overwhelming and consuming and loud. We cannot think of anything else, and we constantly crave the one we love.

After a while it becomes less intense, but it grows.
It grows deeper, more comfortable. It settles down and settles in for the long haul, knowing that it is not fleeting or superficial. It is less consuming. Quieter. An undercurrent of our every day without overwhelming our every thought.

Sometimes something will happen to bring that overwhelming love back to the surface; moments of pride or surprise or nostalgia that remind us just how much we love someone. Moments where our love is once again intense and loud.

And then it settles back into our heart where it knows it will stay.

Grief is the same.

At first it is loud and consuming, intense and overwhelming.
We constantly crave the one we grieve.

Then it becomes less intense, less consuming. An undercurrent of our every day without overwhelming our every thought.

And sometimes something will happen to bring our grief bubbling right back to the surface. Moments where our grief is once again intense and loud.

And then it settles back into our heart where it knows it will stay.
Because great grief is born of great love.

So where grief remains, where grief rests,
it often helps to remember that love is there too.

Sitting with her arm around grief
and holding it tight.

*****

Becky Hemsley 2023
Artwork by Annie Hamman Art

'Holding on' is from Letters from Life https://a.co/d/9ULJjlF

14/03/2024

When you look up to the moon tonight, you may only see a small crescent of it. The shape a child draws when they add the moon to their pictures and paintings.

You will look up and see only a tiny part of the moon,
but you will not think less of it.

You will not think it isn’t trying hard enough.
You will not assume it is being lazy.
You will not find it any less beautiful.

You will know that it is simply going through a phase and that one day soon
it will be full again.

Well, sometimes we are like the moon.

Sometimes we go through phases where we are full.
And sometimes we go through phases where we can only give others
a tiny part of us.

And if that's you right now, remember...

You are not being lazy.
You are still beautiful.
You are enough.

This is just a phase you're going through,
that's all.

Just a phase.

*******

Becky Hemsley 2023
Beautiful artwork by kenzistudioco

'Just a Phase' is from 'Letters from Life': https://a.co/d/dHnUoIl

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14/03/2024

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When I am gone, do not fear my memory.

Do not be afraid to speak my name or look through old photographs.

Do not be scared to play old videos so that you might hear my voice and see me laughing.

Do not be wary of visiting my favourite places or eating my favourite foods or singing along to my favourite songs.

I know it will hurt. Those memories will remind you that I am gone.

They will stab at you like a knife in an open, gaping wound. Raw, excruciating pain.

But after a while the knife will become less sharp, the wound will become less open and the pain will become less raw.

And those memories will remind you that I was here.

That I lived.

Do not reduce my life to my death.

Speak my name, hear my voice, sing my favourite songs and visit my favourite places.

Because that’s how I can stay alive a little.

Right here with you 🧡

******

Becky Hemsley 2022
Artwork by the incredible Amanda Cass

'When I Am Gone' is from the book of the same name
https://a.co/d/8R8rlinh

12/03/2024

What if the mermaids are all of the women
Cast overboard ‘cause of old superstition
Drowning beneath the waves, gasping for breath
Then forging a tail with the strength they have left?

And what if the dragons, with their breath ablaze
Were once little lizards all thrown to the flames
Choking on smoke and then swallowing flares
Then rising up, claiming that power as theirs?

And maybe the vampires favour the night
‘Cause they’ve been kept in the dark most of their lives
Starved of companions, affection and love
‘Til they have no choice but to feed on our blood

Yes, what if these creatures of magic and myth
Are those who’ve known darkness but chosen to live
Chosen to breathe and to rise and survive
To harness adversity, hoping they’ll thrive?

And what if you too have been thrown to the waves,
Befriended the night and encountered the flames
And so you’ve assumed that you’re destined to burn,
To drown in the darkness -

But what if you learned…

That maybe your story is not over yet
That there are still pages that need to be read
Pages of oceans that you’re yet to swim,
Fiery chapters for you to breathe in

Lines built on words that are so full of light
Of such warmth and strength, they inspire you to write
And what if you choose now to pick up a pen
And write through the night ‘til you come to the end?

And what if you read it back?
Well, then you’ll find
That your story has always held magic inside

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Becky Hemsley 2022
absolutely gorgeous artwork by Demelsa Haughton Illustration

‘What if?’ is from What the Wild Replied https://a.co/d/5L8rtGJ

09/03/2024

"I'm kind."
Are you really?

"I'm compassionate."
Are you truly?

"I'm gentle."
Are you actually?

Are you truly all those things with everyone that matters in your life?

Now, I'm sure you'll say yes.

But are you truly all those things with everyone that matters in your life,
including yourself?

Do you speak kindly to yourself?
Do you treat yourself with compassion?
Are you gentle with yourself when life is tough?

Because I know you're all those things to everyone else.

You shower them with kindness,
grant them compassion
and you recognise when they need you to be gentle.

But you need those things too.
From yourself as much as any one else.

Because I know you might have forgotten this,
but they're not the only ones that matter.

You matter too.

******

Becky Hemsley 2023
Beautiful artwork by Olya Yatsenko

A little reminder for anyone who has forgotten how much they matter today ❤

This poem is in my fourth collection, 'Letters from Life' https://amzn.eu/d/2ejGd7n

03/03/2024

I can’t say I loved you. I just can’t

Because it makes it sound as if my love is past tense. Gone, finished, ended.

And that is so far from the truth.

My love is not in the past. It will never be gone.

I love you now. Still.

You didn’t take all this love away with you. It stays. It lingers.

Some days it jumps up and hits me in the face just to remind me that it is still here. Still persevering.

Some days it nudges me. Challenges me to keep going. Daring me to find the strength to get through the day.

But mostly, it just resonates inside of me with everything I do. With every step forward and every glance back. Every close of my eyes. Every breath.

My love is not dependent on you being here.

There is nowhere far enough,
and nothing permanent enough
to stop me from loving you.

So I will not say I loved you.

Because I love you.

Still.

*****

Becky Hemsley 2023
Beautiful artwork by .little.design on Instagram (littleoceanbluestudio.com)

'Still' is from When I Am Gone - poems for grief and loss https://a.co/d/8BTEgA7

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14/01/2024

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Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that
doing nothing is doing nothing
for you.

That being unproductive is unproductive
for you.

We’ve gotten so used to being busy,
so used to doing things with visible results,
so used to tracking our steps and logging our activity and ticking things off our to-do list,
that we’ve forgotten the importance of rest.

‘Doing nothing’ and being ‘unproductive’ are actually doing something productive.

They are helping you recharge.
Recoup.

Reading a magazine or having a bath or sitting in the garden with a cup of coffee are not a waste of time.

Time spent rested is not time wasted.

We are not machines.
We are not robots.
We are not here to
constantly work and move and do.

We are human beings.

And sometimes we just need to be.

******

Becky Hemsley 2023
Artwork by the fabulous Giselle Oliveira ( on Instagram)

From my most recent collection: https://amzn.eu/d/73Jq568

20/08/2023

"I'm kind."
Are you really?

"I'm compassionate."
Are you truly?

"I'm gentle."
Are you actually?

Are you truly all those things with everyone that matters in your life?

Now, I'm sure you'll say yes.

But are you truly all those things with everyone that matters in your life,
including yourself?

Do you speak kindly to yourself?
Do you treat yourself with compassion?
Are you gentle with yourself when life is tough?

Because I know you're all those things to everyone else.

You shower them with kindness,
grant them compassion
and you recognise when they need you to be gentle.

But you need those things too.
From yourself as much as any one else.

Because I know you might have forgotten this,
but they're not the only ones that matter.

You matter too.

******

Becky Hemsley 2023
Artwork created with Dall-E

A little reminder for anyone who has forgotten how much they matter today ❤

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