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My 1:1 Growth Mindset Mastery Programme is personalised to suit your specific needs and requirements. My six step framework is tailored just for you.

I help overachieving but under-fulfilled women move from feeling stuck and restless to aligned, driven, and unapologetically empowered, so they can confidently create a life full of purpose and meaning. I help ambitious female founders quickly create the necessary mindset and identity shifts to scale their business without sacrificing their wellbeing or relationships. The programme runs over 6 months so you can quickly create change and feel supported throughout the process. This programme is designed to help ambitious female founders build their resilience so they can be in the right frame of mind to scale their business. Whether seeking access to funding, attracting new clients or confidently growing your team, the programme will support you to do whatever it takes to get you there - without the self-doubt, overwhelm or feeling unworthy. Coming Soon...

My Group Programmes allow you to join our supportive collective designed to boost your motivation, increase accountability, develop a sense of community, build connections and foster personal growth in a safe and nurturing space.

26/01/2026

I didn’t realise how much I was carrying until I stopped.

For years, I thought I was just being considerate.

Keeping the peace.
Not rocking the boat.
Thinking about how others might react before I spoke.

It looked like emotional maturity.

But inside, I was exhausted.

I’d leave conversations replaying everything I’d said.
Second-guessing my tone.
Wondering if I’d upset someone.

Nothing dramatic had happened
but my nervous system was always on high alert.

Here’s what I’ve learned about this pattern:
1. Carrying other people’s emotions feels responsible — until it drains you
2. Being “the calm one” often means you’re doing invisible labour
3. Over time, this creates anxiety, not connection
4. Most people don’t realise they’re doing it
5. The cost shows up later — in overwhelm or resentment

Have you noticed yourself doing this in certain relationships?

23/01/2026

Ever notice how you edit yourself around certain people?

With some people, you soften your opinions.
With others, you try to sound intelligent.
Sometimes you aim to be easy-going.
Sometimes agreeable.
Sometimes funny.

You adjust without thinking.

You filter what you say.
You hold certain parts back.
You emphasise others.

Not because you’re fake
but because you’re reading the room.

Those filters usually formed in relationships
where being fully yourself felt risky, misunderstood, or costly.

Over time, switching between them becomes automatic.

And that’s when relationships start to feel draining.

Not because you’re doing anything wrong
but because constantly managing how you’re received takes energy.

Pay attention to who you become around different people.

22/01/2026

Why respect breaks relationships more than lack of love

Most relationships don’t fall apart because people stop caring.

They fall apart because respect starts to erode.

The driver who cuts you up.
The teenager who snaps back.
The comment that feels unnecessary.
The message that goes unanswered.

Different situations — same reaction.

“I don’t feel respected here.”

When respect feels thin, people go into defence.
They argue.
Withdraw.
Push back.
Or start keeping score.

In families.
In friendships.
At work.
In long-term relationships.

It’s rarely the absence of love that causes the breakdown.
It’s the feeling of being dismissed, overlooked, or taken for granted.

Once respect goes, everything else becomes charged.

This is often the part people miss.

21/01/2026

Why certain relationships quietly exhaust you...

Some relationships don’t blow up.
They don’t look dramatic from the outside.

They just leave you tired.

You walk away replaying what you said.
Wondering if you handled it right.
Thinking about how you could’ve worded it differently.

Often, it’s not the relationship itself that’s exhausting
it’s how much you’re carrying inside it.

The monitoring.
The adjusting.
The responsibility for keeping things steady.

Not because you’re doing anything wrong
but because you’ve taken on more than your share.

Notice which relationships feel like this for you.

12/01/2026

If boundaries feel hard, it’s not what you think.

Most women assume they struggle with boundaries because they’re too nice.
Too accommodating.
Too afraid of conflict.

But boundaries are rarely the real issue.

What usually sits underneath is something quieter:

👉 If I’m fully myself, I might lose the relationship.

So you adapt.

You stay quiet instead of speaking up.
You explain instead of holding the line.
You tolerate behaviour that doesn’t sit right.
You end up over-giving — in romantic relationships, friendships, family dynamics — and wondering why it keeps happening.

Not because you don’t know better.
But because connection feels more important than self-protection.

That same belief shapes:
• who you’re drawn to
• what you tolerate once you’re there
• why the same patterns repeat, even when you swear “this time will be different”

Until that belief is addressed, boundaries will always feel uncomfortable —
because they feel like a threat to belonging.

This year, I’m focusing more on the beliefs underneath relationship patterns — not just the behaviours on the surface.

If this resonates, stay close. I’ll be sharing more about this.

30/12/2025

I made a parenting mistake this week.

I let my 4- and 6-year-old watch The Lion King.

The 4-year-old was completely fine.
The 6-year-old… BROKEN! 😭

He couldn’t get to sleep.
Woke in the night.
And the next morning, it was the first thing he wanted to talk about.

He kept asking:
Why did the daddy have to die?
Why didn’t he come back?
Why did his brother want to hurt him?
Why was his uncle pretending to be nice?
Why did he run away and not tell his mummy?

You could almost see him trying to piece it all together — death, betrayal, danger, shame — and it was just too much for him.

Earlier in the holidays we watched Shrek, which, on the surface, felt a much easier watch.

But even then, there were still some strong messages underneath.
About how you’re supposed to look.
About being rescued.
About power and manipulation.

It got me thinking about the things I absorbed from films growing up too…

Smoking is cool → Grease
Bad boys are exciting → Dirty Dancing
Men with money will rescue you if you’re beautiful enough → Pretty Woman

Probably not the healthiest influences for a young, impressionable teen.

Not in a dramatic way.
Just quietly shaping ideas about love, worth, and what being “chosen” looks like.

I’m usually a bit more thoughtful about what I let the kids watch,
and I’ll probably pause a little longer before saying yes next time.

But the truth is, it’s hard to get it right every time.
We do our best.
We miss things.
We notice.
We adjust.

Anyone else clocked up a parenting fail this Christmas, or is it just me? 🤦‍♀️

26/12/2025

With Christmas behind us, this is often the point where thoughts turn to the year ahead.

Not in a “clean slate, new chapter” kind of way.

More quietly than that.

It’s less about becoming someone new,
and more about noticing what you’re tired of carrying.

The habits that drain you.
The patterns that cost more than they give back.
The expectations you keep meeting out of obligation rather than desire.

And alongside that, a gentler question starts to surface:
What do I actually want more of?

Not what you should want.
Not what looks good on paper.
Not what everyone else seems to be chasing.

Just what feels important enough to invest your energy in.

This kind of reflection doesn’t need pressure or urgency.
It doesn’t need a plan or a five-year vision.

Often it’s simply about:
letting go of the crap that no longer fits,
and bringing your attention back to what really matters —
with less force and more flow.

When we stop pushing for clarity,
it has a way of finding us.

If you’re noticing that pull right now —
towards simplicity, alignment, or just a different way of moving forward —
that’s worth listening to.

In January, I’ll be creating space for exactly this kind of reflection in a small, grounded workshop.

No pressure.
No forcing.
Just presence, clarity, and intention — without overriding yourself.

I’ll share more soon but keep Jan 24th at 11am free in your diary if this resonates...

24/12/2025

As we head into Christmas, I just want to wish you a calm and joyful few days.

This time of year can bring a lot with it.
Moments of connection.
Moments of reflection.
Gratitude — and sometimes tenderness alongside it.

However this season meets you, I hope there’s space for:
a little ease,
a little lightness,
and a few moments that feel genuinely good.

Not perfect.
Not curated.
Just real.

If you’re gathering with others, I hope there’s warmth and laughter.
If you’re keeping things quiet, I hope there’s rest and comfort.
And if this time of year feels complicated, I hope you’re gentle with yourself.

Wishing you a Christmas that feels steady, kind, and nourishing in whatever way you need most.
🎄✨

22/12/2025

If the Christmas build-up has already got your nervous system in overdrive, try this...

Kids off school.
More noise.
More squabbles.
More interruptions.
More expectations — spoken and unspoken.

Even if work has slowed down, your body hasn’t.

That tight, wired, snappy feeling isn’t a failure of patience or mindset.

It’s your nervous system doing exactly what it’s designed to do when demand stays high.

Neuroscience and trauma-informed psychology show that when the nervous system perceives ongoing pressure, it stays in a state of threat — even if nothing “bad” is happening.

And here’s the important part:
The nervous system doesn’t calm down because you tell it to.
It calms down when it receives signals of safety.

According to body-based trauma research (including polyvagal theory and somatic psychology), some of the fastest ways to support regulation are:
- Gentle interoceptive awareness (noticing sensation inside the body)
- Contained pressure or self-touch and
- removing urgency from the moment

So before you try to calm down, reframe, or be more patient — do this:

Put one hand on your chest.
One hand on your lower belly.

Don’t change your breathing.
Don’t slow it.
Don’t do it “properly”.

Just notice:
The contact of your hands
The warmth
The fact that you’re physically here, right now

Then, quietly say to yourself:
“Nothing else needs to happen right now.”

This works because your body responds faster to felt cues than to logic.

Pressure to relax keeps the system on alert.
Presence helps it stand down.

You can do this:
While the kettle boils
While breaking up another argument
While sitting in the car
While hiding in the bathroom for 30 seconds

You’re not trying to feel peaceful.
You’re reminding your nervous system that it’s safe enough to soften.

That’s where calm actually begins.

👉 If this helps even a little, that’s enough.
Regulation isn’t about doing more — it’s about interrupting the alarm.

19/12/2025

The chat at school drop-off this morning wasn’t about Christmas plans.

It was about the quiet fear of having the kids home for two whole weeks.

Not because we don’t love them.
Not because we don’t want to be with them.

But because the fairy-tale version of family life doesn’t actually exist.The one where everyone’s calm.
Grateful.
Connected.
Matching pyjamas.
No one losing their patience by 9am.

I’m yet to meet a single family where the Instagram version is the reality.

So instead of pretending otherwise, this is how I’m choosing to meet it.

I’m resetting my expectations — lower than I think they should be.
I’m reminding myself that perfect isn’t the goal; getting through with some warmth left is.
I’m grounding myself whenever I notice I’m bracing — feet on the floor, one deep breath, shoulders dropping.

And when things feel chaotic, I’m taking a moment to breathe deeply, not to calm myself down, but to stop piling pressure on top of the moment.

Nothing fancy.
Nothing revolutionary.

Just small ways of staying with reality instead of fighting it.

We all want the magic of the fairytale.
But real families are noisy, imperfect, loving, irritating, and tender — often all at once.

And if this season feels like a lot, it doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It just means you’re living in the real version.

16/12/2025

Last night my 4-year-old looked me dead in the eye and said:

“You’re not coming to my party.”

I can’t quite remember why.
Possibly because dinner was pasta and not fish fingers.

In that moment, she was utterly dissatisfied.
Put out.
Deeply wronged.

And that was her way of expressing it.

No filtering.
No diplomacy.
Just a clear message from her nervous system:
👉 “This does not feel safe or okay for me.”

It made me think about how we express our feelings as adults when our survival mode gets triggered.

Some of us lash out.
Some of us shut down.
Some of us go quiet and take it all inside.

Sometimes it’s small.
Sometimes it’s big.
But rarely is it actually about the pasta.

It’s about the belief underneath.
The story we’re telling ourselves.
The meaning we’ve attached in that moment.

When we start to notice why we react the way we do, we create space.
Space to slow down.
Space to listen to what’s really being asked for.
Space to respond from a more grounded, considered place — rather than reacting on autopilot.

And yes, for now, I’m back on the imaginary party invite list.

How long that lasts… who knows.

It’s a good reminder though:
Most reactions are just unmet needs looking for a voice.

15/12/2025

The one thing that made my ‘failed’ workshop a success…

Last week, I ran an online workshop.
Only one person came.

Old me would’ve turned that into evidence that I’d failed.
Instead, it showed me something important about how we interpret things that don’t go to plan.

Because that one woman got exactly what she needed — at exactly the right time.

Without a group to manage or surface-level content to get through, we could focus fully on her.
Her patterns.
Her overwhelm.
The familiar habit of saying yes too often — and paying for it later.

During the session, I shared a couple of reframes I use often in my work.

One was this:
every time you say no to something, you’re actually saying yes to yourself.

Another was thinking about energy like currency —
when you say yes to everything, it gets spread thin;
when you choose more intentionally, you get to show up with more presence and capacity.

They weren’t new ideas.
But they landed in a new way for her.

It was a clear reminder of something I see often in my work.

What we call “failure” is often just a moment we haven’t learned how to use yet.

I see this pattern everywhere.

A relationship ends — and instead of asking what was no longer right here?
you decide there must be something wrong with me.

A business idea doesn’t get funded — and instead of refining the strategy,
you make it mean you’re not cut out for this.

A plan falls through — and instead of adjusting,
you push harder, override yourself, and end up exhausted or burnt out.

This is how people end up collapsing rather than recalibrating.

Not because they failed —
but because they turned the moment into an identity.

When everything that doesn’t work out becomes proof you’re not enough,
your nervous system stays in survival mode.

You overwork.
You overthink.
You force things.
Until your body or your life eventually says “stop” for you.

But when you shift the interpretation —
from what does this say about me?
to what is this showing me?
something very different happens.

You stay in choice.
You stay resourced.
You adapt instead of burn out.
You respond instead of collapse.

That’s the difference between growth and self-abandonment.

And that’s the work I do.

Helping women change the way they speak to themselves
so setbacks stop becoming identities
and start becoming information they can actually use.

If you’re tired of turning every setback into self-judgement — and you’re ready to change that pattern at the nervous-system level — Reclaim & Rise opens again in January.
There’s a waitlist if that feels like your next step.

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Hi I'm Jessica, an Empowerment Coach and Hypnotherapist. I empower people to do what they resist doing so they get from where they are to where they want to be. I help my clients to identify what is not working for them and empower them to create the changes required so they can live their life in a more fulfilling and enjoyable way.

I am facinated by human conditioning and how our "story" dictates our experience of life. Through the use of various tools, techniques and modalities, which I continue to develop and add to over time, it is my mission to motivate & inspire personal growth, responsibility and a positive, solution-focused way forward for each of my clients. Empowering them to reach their full potential and achieve beyond expectation, whilst embracing life in a more positive and enjoyable way.

Working together I will help you to understand, challenge & break through your limiting beliefs so you can embrace your true identity; allowing you to create a new, more positive story and enabling you to fully enjoy all that life has to offer.

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