12/10/2025
The child who never causes any trouble can be the easiest to overlook - but sometimes ‘perfect’ behaviour is an actually sign of struggle.
When children are ALWAYS compliant, always agreeable, and never express their own needs or opinions, they may have learned that their authentic self isn’t safe to show.
They might be working incredibly hard to stay invisible, to keep everyone happy, or to avoid any conflict that feels dangerous.
These children need our attention just as much as those who act out - they just show their distress differently.
If you notice a child who seems “too good,” consider asking yourself: do they feel safe enough to disagree with me? To express frustration? To have their own preferences? Do they know they’re valued even when they’re not being perfect?
Creating school environments where all children - including the quiet, compliant ones - feel safe to be authentically themselves requires understanding and intentional practice. Our Emotionally Healthy Schools platform supports you to identify the children in your school who need support, and how to meet those needs:
https://clear-sky.org.uk/emotionally_healthy_schools/
