Minding Me Psychologists

08/11/2025

✨Every Day is a New Day ✨

No matter what happened yesterday. the things you said, didn’t say, did, or didn’t do, today is a new opportunity to begin again.

🌤 Have a lovely day

07/11/2025

How good are you at forgiving yourself?

We had such a brilliant time in England seeing family, full of laughter, connection, and fun being surrounded by the people I love. But once again, the experience was tinged by the challenges that come with disability.

When I’m away from my own space, the impact of MS becomes even more evident. The loss of control, the physical limitations, the dependence on others, all of it seems magnified. And when that happens, I can’t help but be flooded with difficult emotions. Sadness. Grief for what I can no longer do. And, this time, a deep and overwhelming sense of despair.

It’s the first time in twenty years of living with MS that I’ve felt guilt and despair so profoundly. I’ve always been proud of how resilient I am-how well I’ve managed to stay positive despite the challenges. But last week, I found myself feeling guilty that I hadn’t done enough to look after myself since diagnosis.

That I hadn’t always eaten as healthily as I could.
That I hadn’t always prioritised rest.
That I hadn’t exercised enough.

Knowing that while I can’t cure MS, I might be able to make small improvements through my choices, yet not always being able to live that out perfectly. I found myself thinking:

Maybe if I’d been more consistent, I’d be able to stand and hug Danny and the kids without falling over.
Maybe I’d be able to walk into the kitchen without holding onto the furniture for balance.
Maybe my legs wouldn’t tremble so badly when I stand that I end up on the floor.

Those thoughts were heavy. They took me to a place of self-blame and regret that I hadn’t experienced before. But as I sat with those feelings, I realised that I needed to dig deep — to remind myself that none of this is my fault.

Yes, I could have made different choices. We all could have. But regret and despair don’t heal; they keep us stuck. Forgiveness, on the other hand, gives us a way forward.

I’m now on day six of sticking to healthy eating again, and I can already see the smallest signs of progress — being able to take a few steps with crutches, feeling a little more steady, a little more hopeful. Who knows how long it will last this time.

Forgiving myself for what I didn’t do in the past has allowed me to focus on what I can do now. And that shift, from guilt to compassion, is everything.

So I’ll leave you with this question:
Has anything happened in your life where guilt made it hard to forgive yourself?

Because forgiveness doesn’t erase pain or undo the past — but it does open the door to healing. It’s the bridge between who we were and who we’re still becoming. And sometimes, the most powerful act of strength is learning to offer that forgiveness to ourselves.

21/10/2025

I’ve lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” — Mark Twain

This quote has always struck a chord with me.
So often, our minds create pain from worries that havent happened. We replay events, imagine worst-case scenarios, and our bodies react as if it’s all real.

Yet sometimes the “terrible things” do happen.
Recently, there’s been tragedy and such deep sadness in our community, young lives lost too soon, families and friends left heartbroken.

It’s a reminder that while our thoughts can hurt us, life can too, and that’s why kindness, connection and compassion matter more than ever. Kindness and compassion for other people, AND for ourselves!

So please, be gentle with yourself and others. Reach out. Check in.
And when your mind starts spinning stories, take a breath and come back to now.

Right now, you are here. And that matters. ❤️

16/10/2025

People often want to get rid of uncomfortable feelings, anxiety, sadness, guilt, frustration.

The goal isn’t to erase these emotions. It’s to understand them.

To learn what they’re trying to tell us.

Emotions are messengers.

Anxiety can highlight where we feel uncertain or unsafe.
Anger can show us when our boundaries have been crossed.
Sadness reminds us what (or who) matters.

When we stop fighting our feelings and start listening to them, we open the door to real self-awareness and change.

You don’t have to control every emotion, you just have to get curious about them. 💛

15/10/2025

Useful advice for all of us ❤️

You can’t stop it — minds are judgment machines. But you can choose how to relate to it. When self-criticism shows up, pause and notice: “There’s my mind, doing what minds do.” You don’t have to fight it, and you don’t have to buy into it. Imagine carrying your thoughts on a tray instead of swallowing them whole. That space gives you freedom to act on what matters, not what your mind shouts.
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09/10/2025

Even after 21 years of having these scans, I still get a knot in my stomach. Usually, I take them in my stride, but today, I can’t help feeling a bit anxious. I know it’ll be a while before I get the results, but of course, I’m hoping there’s no sign of disease progression or new lesions.

Moments like this really remind me what my clients go through when they’re dealing with anxiety. It’s one thing to teach coping strategies, and another to really feel them in action.

So today I’m practising what I preach, using CBT and ACT techniques to stay grounded and focused on the present.

Wish me luck 🤞🏻🤍

06/10/2025

Beautiful card and flowers received from a happy client. They are feeling content, less anxious and more at ease after our sessions ❤️

23/12/2024

❤️Wishing you a peaceful Christmas and New Year. While many will be celebrating, I know it can be a hard time for some, if you do need help, please reach out x❤️

21/12/2024

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12/09/2024

It was nice to read this story about Bon Jovi helping a woman in distress this week. He took the time to stop and talk to her. We don’t know what he said, but talking probably helped save her life.

Unfortunately two young people I know of died by su***de this week. One was a cousin of my good friend. The effect on his family and friends is devastating.

Tuesday was World Su***de Prevention Day 2024. ***dePreventionDay2024
Su***de is something we should always be mindful of. We often don’t get a chance to impact on people’s lives the way Bon Jovi did, but keep talking and reminding people they are loved and they are not alone. Remind them there is no shame in having problems. Please ask for help❤️



Jon Bon Jovi praised for talking woman off bridge

The US singer was in the Nashville area shooting a music video on the pedestrian bridge.

28/08/2024

A lovely card and gift voucher for Friels bar and restaurant from one of my amazing clients after our last session. It has been an absolute pleasure working with you. I know you will continue to flourish ❤️

24/07/2024

Hi Sarah, hope you are well, just wanted to drop you a message to say that I’m doing really really well. I’ve moved into my new house and I’m just back from a break in Donegal with the family. I really feel in a completely different place from when I reached out to you in January, so thank you so much for that. For all your tips, listening ears and helpful advice I will honestly never forget it. Thank you ever so much for all of your work and support with me the past 6 months 🩷

C, Solicitor