Bearsted Counselling & Psychotherapy

02/05/2026

21/04/2026

Not all abuse is physical ❤️

If you’ve ever thought, “Is it really abuse if it’s not physical?” this might change everything. 🧩

Many survivors say the first time they saw the Power and Control Wheel, what they were living through finally made sense. It lays out the common tactics abusers use to gain and keep dominance—like isolating someone, minimizing harm, twisting reality, or making big promises that “it’ll never happen again.”

What felt confusing or deeply personal starts to look like a pattern—and that realization can be both heartbreaking and empowering. It’s not a misunderstanding. It’s a system built around control.

Have you ever seen a resource that put words to something you couldn’t explain before? Share in the comments—or pass this along to someone who might need it. 💜

🔗 https://zpr.io/4yPAKQMmbsz5

07/04/2026

Some of the things that have brought me joy this spring 🌿

21/03/2026

This time next week - looking forward to my first dadspaceuk session 💫

13/03/2026

Your therapy session with me doesn’t have to include a cat but there is often one (or two) available if cat therapy is your thing ✨

06/03/2026

I wanted to share some moments I’ve had recently; many in local places, with local people or from local businesses. All that have provided wonderful pockets of joy, moments of calm, healing and community support 💫

1. A beautiful bearded reedling we spotted on our walk around - Elmley is magical and although it’s less than 30 minutes from home it feels like a different world

2. An early morning walk around Bearsted - this is my favourite tree

3. An invigorating sauna & cold plunge under the full moon in Faversham

4. I had a wonderful morning with Karen, the mums & little ones at - this is such a fabulous local resource that I wish existed when I was a new mother

5. Jo is an incredibly intuitive osteopath with actual healing hands - I feel so much more aligned and grounded after a session with .sheppard.osteo

6. A lovely local Sunday walk with a pit stop at for divine coffee (and cinnamon bun!)

7. Stunning sunset & skies on Folkestone beach

8. Breakfast delivered by train .newenden - we had to book in advance to enjoy this one!

9. Getting creative without having to clean up the mess

10. An evening walk around - I always feel blessed to live so close to this park

11. Bookings open for the session where we’ll be exploring how embracing failure as a Dad can actually enhance the relationship you have with your children

12. And a nod to my very lovely and very talented photographer friend who took the photo of me used in the flyer - as well as family photography, Claire also offers business photoshoots & delivers a monthly get-together for local Mums in business ❤️

04/03/2026

Very excited to join dadspaceuk session later this month at the Loddington Tap 💫

DADSPACE MAIDSTONE — HOW TO FAIL BETTER AS A DAD

We’re launching Loddington Tap as an additional DadSpace venue in Maidstone — and we’re starting with an important focus on MEN’S MENTAL HEALTH.

Fatherhood isn’t about getting it right all the time.
It’s about showing up, learning, and repairing when things don’t go to plan.

We’re pleased to welcome special guest speaker Collette Lambert, Psychotherapist, who’ll be exploring:

• How reframing success and failure can positively shape your approach to fatherhood
• The pitfalls of perfectionism
• Why getting it wrong helps both you and your children
• The power of rupture and repair in relationships

Our ‘Talking Piece’ session from 10am also gives dads space to share, reflect and connect in a supportive, pressure-free environment.

📅 Saturday 28th March
⏰ 10am–12pm
📍 Loddington Tap
Loddington Lane, Linton, Maidstone, Kent ME17 4AG

🎟️ Free tickets:
https://www.dadspace.co.uk/event-details/dadspace-maidstone-guest-speaker-1
(Instagram - follow link in bio)

Let’s normalise real fatherhood. Not perfect fatherhood.

03/03/2026

It was so lovely to spend the morning with this wonderful group of Mums Mum Hub Kent talking all things motherhood & identity 💕

27/02/2026

Therapy isn’t about rescuing.
But it also isn’t about leaving someone to struggle alone.

21/02/2026

On the first anniversary of Dad’s death I went for a walk around Tonge, just outside Sittingbourne where Dad grew up. Dad loved nature and he told us how he would often bunk off school & go bird watching on the marshes around Tonge.

During the walk this feather caught my eye. A few days later I was having a session with the lovely .sheppard.osteo and I noticed the vase of bird feathers in her therapy room.

Jo explained to me that different feathers are said to have different meanings.

Later that day I sent her a photo of the feather and she identified it as a curlew - she also sent me a description of what a curlew symbolises:

✨ the curlew’s call is said to be a mixture of intense sorrow and joy and the fragility of life

✨ the curlew’s spiritual meaning blends themes of melancholy, a deep connection to nature and the liminal space between the living and the spiritual world