14/02/2021
Here are some tips on how to improve the Parent-Teen Relationship.
1. Remember that you are the parent.
Your job is to make your child become a self-governing, fully functioning adult. Being a clear-sighted, kind mentor is way more important than being your teen's friend.
2. Remain calm in the winds of change.
Nothing gets resolved when you're too stressed to think. if you can't respond rationally to something your teen did, take a break until you can.
3. Talk less and listen more.
Just like us fully-formed humans, teens want to be listened to with respect. Always be a "safe" and available person for your child to talk to.
4. Respect boundaries.
It's often a challenge for parents to grant their teens increasingly more privacy and autonomy. But in order to develop good judgment, they need lots of opportunities to make mistakes and learn from them.
5. They're always watching.
You want your child to be trustworthy, responsible, honest, resilient, and good-hearted. Make sure you're modeling those values in your own life. And while you're at it, talk about the walk as you're walking it.
6. Make your expectations clear.
When kids know your core values, have bought into the family rules, and are aware of the consequences for breaking them, they're more likely to make healthier choices online and off. No guarantees, but your voice will be in the mix.
7. Catch your child in the act of doing something right.
Teens struggle with self-confidence. When they aren't dumping on themselves, their peers may do it for them.
8. Be real.
Father/mother does not always know best. Admit your own confusion and mistakes. Apologize when appropriate. Show your kids that just like them, you too are also "a work in progress."
9. Schedule regular unplugged time to enjoy being a family.
Cook. Eat. Walk. Bike. Bowl. Whatever. The point is: Relaxing together without screens in the way is a gift with long-lasting benefits.
10. Lighten up!
Humor is a great de-stressor. Remember, no one stays a teen (or the parent of one) forever!
source: https://www.huffpost.com/