27/11/2023
It’s hard to imagine the pain of toxic family dynamics if you’ve never experienced them, but for those who have…the toxic awfulness feels NORMAL.
And you’re expected to put up with it, too.
It’s incredibly difficult to set healthy boundaries around toxic behaviors when your dysfunctional family system pressures you to never (ever) rock the boat.
Because in toxic family dynamics:
😵💫 Something’s wrong with you if you want to be treated with kindness.
😵💫 They are entitled to behave with cruelty and disrespect. It’s “their right” (because they’re family).
😵💫 YOU are the one hurting the family if you say you want to be treated differently.
😵💫 In fact, it’s *disrespectful* for you to ask for basic respect!
Toxic family dynamics flip healthy-relationship principles on their head.
(And they have no shame about it, either).
Your compliance with the toxic system is not just expected — it’s demanded.
And in the past, you likely didn’t have much choice other than to comply. 😣
And yet today…
Maybe you have choices now.
Maybe they just like to keep you thinking that you don’t.
Are you safe to consider some different options?
If the answer is yes, then that brings up more important questions (perhaps to journal, if you like):
✍️ Do you like their so-called “boundaries?”
✍️ How has living under the expectations of their toxic system been working out for you?
✍️ What’s been the (emotional, physical, financial, relational, psychological) cost to you?
These aren’t fun questions…but mannnn, are they ever helpful to consider.
By the way, no one is forcing change on you here.
You can keep complying with their toxic version of “boundaries” if you want to.
(They’d love it if you did).
❤️
Molly
Counselor-turned-boundaries-guide
⬇️ For those hungry for change, here is another thought to gently consider.
Playing by their rules is always going to result in your loss. ☹️
Because the game is rigged. (It always was, my friend). 💞
What’s the solution, then?
Ditching their game. 🔥
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I’d love to share with you the empowering, unique, and incredibly practical method I’ve found to ditch toxic crap and step into something new (and you can begin putting these tools to use right away).
Because there is a whole different way to live, and I believe our REAL (innate!) boundaries can show us HOW — in ways that feel GOOD to our loving compassionate hearts.
My Boundaries 101 class might be a wonderful (and inexpensive - cuz it’s on sale!) place to start.
If you resonate with my cartoons here, my guess is that you’ll probably LOVE it. 🥰
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