Lesley Nance Therapy

27/01/2026

Are you holding back from changing because you're afraid of what people will say?

Here's the thing, if they're pointing out that 'you're different now'-first of all... good! That shows that you are. But also, they're right. You ARE different.

And that's the point.

The version of you they're comfortable with would say yes when YOU didn't actually want to.

Of course they liked that version, because it was easier for them.
But they were benefitting from you staying the same.

THEIR preference is disrupting YOUR growth.

And truly, so what if they have opinions?! They will anyway - people are people. Let them.

You want to change for YOU, not them, because staying as you are is TOO uncomfortable!

The right people won't be threatened by this.

You're allowed to change. Even if they don't like it. 💚

26/01/2026

Me: I have a nugget of wisdom for you… What you resist, persists.

You: Sounds kinda crap, Lesley.

Me: I know 😅! It really does. But hear me out.

When we try to push something away - a feeling, a thought, a situation - it has a habit of popping back up again. Usually louder and more persistent.

Yes, we can ignore it, distract ourselves, or shove it under the carpet… and yes, that CAN work short-term.

But it doesn't ACTUALLY go anywhere.

I see this most with emotions. We spend so much energy trying NOT to feel something, or think about something, or not face something - and it ends up taking up MORE space than if we'd just dealt with it.

I know, it's easier said than done.

But when we learn HOW to face the stuff that's going on now, we get to enjoy life much more going forward.

So… what are you resisting right now? 💚

23/01/2026

I've always called myself a runner ever since the first time I went out, and realised that this was IT for me!

That was about 20 years ago and I've had lots of stops and starts in that time, but it's something that I keep going back to.

After a few years off from maintaining it, I'm more determined than ever to keep this up now.

I'm aware that it's not for everyone and many don't understand the ‘rush’ from it, but for me it's the ultimate stress release and for someone who (usually) has a lot of excess energy, it's a great way to use that up.

So well done me for pursuing my passion, and taking that action to become her!🩷

22/01/2026

Come on... I can't be the only one?!🤔😆

21/01/2026

A morning walk in my favourite place always sets me up for the day.

I found out recently that trees give off something called 'phytoncides' that actually help us feel relaxed... who knew?! No wonder I feel so good after being here.

If you get there early enough, there's a chance of spotting deer. In the 17 years I've been walking here, I've only ever seen them twice! Clearly not an early bird.

19/01/2026

Why do I often do the opposite of what I say I want?

Its easy to say its because ‘I am sabotaging myself’ but that's not the answer.

It’s because i'm allowing who I used to be, to run the show.

We humans automatically and unconsciously choose what feels familiar (think of habits) because it feels natural.

So if you ever notice yourself beating yourself up over ‘getting it wrong AGAIN’

Have a look at where your choices are coming from.

Are you choosing it because it’s familiar, or because it GENUINELY fits who you are now or who you WANT to be?

It's not as hard as you may think to make that switch into thinking differently.

Try not to worry about the mechanics of HOW to be different, that's WAY too much effort!

Just get curious.

That will trigger the change that you want!

Im wondering what's one choice you've been making on autopilot that you're ready to get curious about?

17/01/2026

Happy Saturday!

Christmas feels SO far behind me now, and I COULD hold onto it, kicking and screaming, resisting getting back into normality... or I could say stuff it and let it happen gracefully! 🤣

Despite what my inner child may want, I know it's only going to serve me better and make it easier to accept the inevitable!

To make it easier, I'm treating myself to redecorating.

Girl's gotta have treats! 💁‍♀️✨

Check the comments for the 'after' pic!✨

15/01/2026

Do you ever feel stuck, like you don’t know where you’re going?

Most people are following an internal map they never chose, shaped by past experiences and other people’s expectations.

And if you keep using a map that wasn’t designed for YOUR life, then it would make sense that you feel stuck.

Change starts when you stop following it and start trusting YOUR own direction.

Self-esteem isn’t about feeling better - it’s about trusting yourself enough to know and to decide what fits YOU and YOUR life now.

If you’re ready to create your own direction, this is where my work begins.

Let me know how I can help you get there.

14/01/2026

Wednesday Reset🩷

If you spoke to yourself the way you speak to your best friend, what would change?

And if we spoke to our friends the way we do to ourselves, would we actually HAVE any friends??!😱

It's SO common for us to talk negatively to and about ourselves, but that doesn't make it right.

Sadly, we can't drop ourselves... or can we?

Our self-worth doesn't disappear completely - I guess you could say it goes into hiding (coping mechanisms!).

BUT... the good news is that it's absolutely possible to turn it around and coax it back out.

It all begins with being aware of what we're saying and when we're saying it.

What's one thing you've caught yourself saying to yourself lately that you'd never say to a friend?

13/01/2026

I wish this for everybody.

And its easier than you think.

Start by keeping the small promises you make to yourself.

Thats all there is to it, its so simple.

If you say you're going to do something,then do it.

Show yourself you mean it, then watch what happens!

~May you trust yourself🦅🦅🦅