Rising Phoenix Counselling

26/01/2026

It's okay if today is about just getting through, not 'thriving'. Survival is still a victory. Be proud of yourself.

12/01/2026

Healing doesn't mean forgetting. It means reclaiming. Your story is still yours, and so is your future.

05/01/2026

You don't have to start this week 'strong', just start. Small steps count, breathing counts, you count. There's no need to rush. Move at your own pace, celebrate the small wins, and be gentle with yourself.

01/01/2026

22/12/2025

However this week looks for you, allow yourself to move through it without judgement. You're allowed to change plans, shift energy and listen to your limits. Wishing you the comfort and kindness you deserve this festive period.

15/12/2025

This time of year can feel loud on the outside and quiet on the inside. Both can be heavy. Take things slowly and give yourself permission to withdraw when you need to.

23/11/2025

23/11/2025

We live in a world that refuses to see pain; it denies it, challenges us to smile, pull our socks up, get over it, man up, stop being a drama queen, attention seeker...to think positive...all the whilst denying our truth, reality and silencing our emotions.

Don't cry, don't expess anger, don't be scared...

It starts as early as childhood. Don't be naughty (have needs, a voice, express self), be good (blind obedience, conformity, people please...).

Then we continue to label those lost to us via su***de, pathologise pain; what's wrong with them? just junkies, anti-social, hot headed, weak, not right in the head....

As a survivor of trauma you not only learn that compassion wasn't found in who hurt you but in the world that allow it and created (conditioned and allowed them) the person or people who hurt you.

The world feels scary because you learn to feel alone in your pain and in feeling the world isn't on your side. Nobody understands and nobody will protect you. Not the system, not the culture and not those around you.

One feels defeated for these reasons.

23/11/2025

Being super independent comes from being abandoned (does not have to be physical) and betrayed at the most vulnerable time(s) in ones life by the very person/people who were meant to be there for you.

This also applies to not letting others in and building walls that others can't always see.

16/11/2025

People pleasing isn't just self abandonment and self-betrayal but the erasure of self and authenticity.

16/11/2025

When you're starving for connection beware of settling for attention.

14/11/2025

The hardest thing with relational trauma is not being able to live and hide in isolation and having to some extent rely on and depend on others for support. When nobody feels safe and trustworthy or that they will stay or really understands you or emotionally intelligent and so many haven't done work on themselves, any form of relationship or interaction seems so empty, unsafe and uncomfortable. It's not about not asking for help or not wanting help, it's about feeling alone, unable to trust and being let down too many times.