05/09/2025
Here’s an eye-opener for anyone going through abuse, bullying, or dealing with a narcissist…
🌸 Smear Campaigns & Flying Monkeys… all because you chose to walk away. 🌸
You always have the right to decide who and what is right for you.
Sometimes that decision comes early.
Sometimes it takes a year.
Sometimes it takes years.
Whenever it comes, it’s enough. It’s your decision, and that is your right.
When a hurt, lying, narcissistic person loses control, you’ll often encounter a smear campaign.
It usually begins with backlash: a victim mentality, “feel sorry for me” behaviour, or suddenly turning abusive.
If you feel unsafe or threatened, call the police and prioritise your safety.
If it isn’t direct abuse—and you don’t take the bait—you’ll likely face another tactic: their words filtered through others. Friends. Family. Colleagues. People they’ve pulled into their game.
This can show up in two ways:
😠 Angry words hurled directly at you by someone they’ve spoken to.
🙄 Or whispers, judgments, and gossip spread through what’s known as a smear campaign.
Their aim? To twist the story until you’re the villain.
“How could they possibly be treated this way?”
“Who does she think she is to block/ignore them?”
Here’s the truth:
They rope others in through triangulation, choosing people they believe can be manipulated or who will do their dirty work. These enablers are often called flying monkeys—helping the abuser carry out their campaign.
When this happens, pause and ask yourself:
👉 Are these flying monkeys really part of your life?
True friends and family will see through the bu****it. They’ll tell you the truth, not just the abuser’s version. They’ll also likely to tell the abuser too.
❓Does it hurt to be the target of their smear campaign? If it does, seek help and support. If it doesn’t, carry on. Their pain lies in the fact that you’re no longer bothered. They may escalate, but remember—they thrive on drama. You thrive on silence.
Stand in your own knowledge. Your truth. Your experience.
You lived what you lived. Let them say whatever they want, to whoever they want.
Not every woman recognises narcissistic behaviour at first. Not every woman feels strong enough to stand tall the first time she encounters it.
But when the threats start—“I’ll hurt myself” or “I’ll hurt you”—clarity comes. And in that moment, she knows she made the right decision to walk away. 🌸
