The Loud Quiet

28/10/2025

Social media can make you feel like you’re not as evolved as a person, or your healing journey isn’t as meaningful, if you haven’t taken a faraway trip or travelled around to find yourself. 🌍

In fact, healing is just as possible and, actually, inevitable, for anyone who seeks it. Travel is a privilege, whereas loving ourselves is a birthright.

The real work is here inside your own heart and your own body. You are going to be in relationship with yourself throughout your whole life, whether you do The Work in an ashram in India, your bedroom down the road in Manchester, your local community centre, therapist’s office or online. Because wherever you go, there you are. 🫶

What really matters is the amount of openness and curiosity you can bring to loving yourself, peeling back the layers, continuously exploring all the parts of you that hold you back. These parts show you your biggest opportunities to find more freedom. ⭐

It’s wonderful to feel united in your human experience with people from across the globe, of course it is. There’s enough division. I can attest to how powerful it is to have the refreshed perspective that can come from travel.

But with a lot of the wellness and healing content we see online, there can be a mistaken emphasis on how things look, rather than how things feel.

I am saying this as someone who loves and has trained on healing retreats; the growth that can happen there is immense. (Also, there aren’t many photos of those experiences, as they’re often beautifully messy and raw.) ❤️

I’m so grateful for the people I’ve met on those trips and the friends I now have around the world. That unforgettable connection, those authentic moments of joining in deep trust to work through all of our sh*t (😂), are ultimately the point.

And also, I have seen the same levels of healing and connection closer to home. It’s always down to the space holder and the amount of inner work they’ve done before supporting others. When people are supported so compassionately and consciously, they can break the cycles of lifetimes of pain.

However you get there, wherever you are, you will always find the way home to yourself if you keep your eye on the road. 🏡

27/10/2025

Would you like to be guided in slowing down to reflect on the year and connect with yourself, before the busy festive period begins? ✨ Join me at my next Permission to Pause retreat day in Didsbury, on Saturday 15th November 🧘

It takes place at The Didsbury Parsonage from 2-6pm. This time, I'm supported by my good friend Andrew Blakemore, joining us from Liverpool. He has undertaken the same training with me over the last few years, as a somatic practitioner and breathwork facilitator. An incredibly compassionate, authentic space holder who has been on a profound personal journey 💛

Enjoy conscious breathwork, meditation, somatic practices, connection with nature, therapeutic drawing and themes informed by my current online course, Come to Life. We'll take a tea break too, for gentle socialising or time to yourself, your choice 🫶

Low income: £40
General admission: £55

Book below or feel free to comment/email me with any questions: hello@theloudquiet.co.uk 🙏

Becky x

🌼 Permission to Pause: The Retreat Day for Deep Self-Connection is Back ✨ Saturday 15th November | 2-6pm 🌳Didsbury Parsonage Places limited 🐦

24/10/2025

I’ve loved leading practices on the rich and so so human topic of emotions this week, in my online course. Specifically, the theme of Hearing What Your Emotions Are Telling You ❤️

Supporting people in doing the vital emotional work is so rewarding for me. Because I’ve known how it feels to struggle with connecting to your emotions. It also shows me where I can still change, and therefore still have growth available to me.

We don’t do this to optimise or fix ourselves. Ultimately, it’s so that we can get to know and love ourselves even more. And then we have more capacity to love others, too.

And yes, it’s hard. It’s not supposed to be easy. We can’t skip to the ‘good’ bits, chasing emotions that feel more welcome or palatable. Because what we resist, persists. Those parts we ignore are our biggest opportunities for healing and greater inner freedom.

And just because we know better, doesn’t always mean we do better. So be kind to yourself. Even after years of doing this work, I still question my emotions sometimes, despite knowing they don’t need a reason for existing. Or I notice that urge to stuff them down when they feel inconvenient or unwelcome.

And yet when I just let myself feel emotions, it always feels SO much better. I promise you, it’s the resistance, or the thoughts we cling onto about our emotions, which make them feel worse than just being with them.

There’s no judgement if it feels like we’re disconnected from our emotions, no shaming ourselves for feeling certain ones. Anger, jealousy, resentment, you name it - it doesn’t matter what we feel, there’s always something to learn from it and a shift that occurs inside us when we soften into it. ⭐

Sharing my reflections about emotions has nothing to do with how I look, so I’m resisting the urge to be vain and stress about looking tired 😅🫣

I would rather post something authentic that I really meant in the moment, than wait until I have makeup on then find it harder to say something that feels real 🫶

How present are you feeling to your emotions today? Can you spare a few minutes to check in with yourself and just notice what you feel? Breathe into the centre of it and trust what arises 💆🏻

23/10/2025

On those days you feel like it’s impossible to stop what you’re doing, even as you know you’re neglecting yourself, maybe even causing yourself pain or illness; that’s when you most need to pause and be with yourself. ❤️

It’s not easy, because pushing ourselves to keep striving and achieving is highly celebrated. But when we can create more space to just be with our human experience, we remember how to feel again.

The theme of my online course this week has been Hearing What Your Emotions Are Telling You. Our emotions live in the body, and they guide us to what’s really important.

Even if you don’t have the time or space to fully rest yet when things feel pressured, you can connect with your body and emotions in just a few minutes. 👇

Put your hand on your heart, breathe into your centre, and gently inquire. Your body always knows the answers, so trust what you instinctively notice as you feel into these 3 questions:

✨What do I need right now?

✨What is most important in this moment?

✨How can I be kinder to myself here?

Whatever you feel is valid. And you’re allowed to prioritise yourself. The world needs you to do so, in fact.

From that place of loving awareness and being empowered to meet our own needs, we can make more conscious choices.

We can live with intention and self-compassion, rather than feeling overwhelmed by daily life and berating ourselves for not doing better.

Start small. Find any time you can to create more bodily awareness and listen more deeply, cultivating mindfulness to hear your deepest wisdom.

From even the smallest starting point, you’re already taking powerful steps to loving yourself more, exactly as you are ❤️

21/10/2025

There’s no need to rush your emotional healing. You might have a desire for positive change, yet still feel disconnected or numb at times. You’re allowed to take things at your pace.

When things feel hard, can you just breathe into that resistance, softening the edges of tension and doubt? Allow things to just be as they are, instead of thinking you’re doing it wrong.

It’s OK to feel scared of finding out what you may hold inside. Fear is an emotion that can be validated in itself. Just becoming aware of what you may be avoiding is a huge step. Take it slow and be compassionate with yourself if you resist the unfamiliar.

It’s undoubtedly life-changing learning how to support ourselves, process our emotions and create more internal freedom to feel deeply alive.

At the same time, inner work is a process and healing isn’t a trend, or a quick fix. Healing *does* feel hard, there’s no sugar coating it. So be gentle on yourself; don’t shame yourself into thinking it should look or feel a certain way.

Meet yourself where you’re at and honour your process. Acknowledge with compassion how much you’ve carried, how far you’ve already come; that you’re still here, trying to love yourself the best way you know how.

It’s the most beautiful thing you can ever do, to commit to loving yourself more, overcoming pain and living the life you deserve.

That doesn’t mean it won’t look and feel messy at times. It doesn’t mean we’re trying to be perfect. We’re learning what it means to be human. We soften into discomfort and give ourselves grace for those parts that feel flawed.

By learning to listen to your body and allowing what it wants to feel, you can eventually start giving safe passage to emotions. When you become more embodied, you become present to your human experience, rather than feeling stuck in your head, attached to thoughts and detached from yourself.

Then you can make space for more of yourself to come through, loving all parts of your being. ⭐

If you’d like to be supported in connecting with your body and emotions, I’m running another free online workshop next month (see image 👆).

It’s on Tuesday 11th November, 7-8.30pm. Sign up in the link below 🫶

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/how-to-come-back-to-yourself-when-you-feel-lost-tickets-1828422503929?aff=oddtdtcreator

20/10/2025

Would you like to be supported in intentional rest and somatic processing this Friday? My conscious connected breathwork class continues at The Didsbury Parsonage on 24th October: 12.30-1.30pm. 💛

Connect with your body and release stress, while nurturing physical health and softening into your emotions. You'll be welcomed into a calming community environment within beautiful award-winning gardens. 🌳

🎟 Tickets £13 / £10 low income
(no booking fees through my website)

🫁 General admission:
https://theloudquiet.as.me/schedule/df9160fc/appointment/83139010/calendar/10830483

🫁 Low income:
https://theloudquiet.as.me/schedule/df9160fc/appointment/83189456/calendar/10830483

There are just a handful of places left; hope to see you there. 🫶

Any questions, feel free to email me: hello@theloudquiet.co.uk. 📧

Becky x

17/10/2025

At my last retreat day in September, one of the lovely attendees took some time to herself over the break to write. ✍️

We had just finished our mindful walk around the gardens , following the creative drawing exercise, and she noticed a fallen tree she felt inspired to reflect on 🌳

Here is the excellent poem I was overjoyed to receive over email that evening (shared with permission) 🥹

The Tree 🌲

Tall, strong and broad with branches one.
Those branches stretching towards the sun.
The canopy of colour changing leaves,
Offering protection and shelter from storms;
Until it no longer can.

Diseases damage; storms ravage.
The tree can no longer stay.
Snaps, bends and breaks are all it takes.
Connection broken, sudden motion,
Disconnection from the ground.

But the tree doesn’t rot or fade away.
The tree is a tree, it knows no other.
The tree replans, reroots, reshoots, regrows.
Old ways reduce; new ways produce.
New life, re-life, just laying on the ground.

The tree, now long and strong.
Has more roots than ever.
Its life expands across the ground.
Bolder, stronger and greener too.
In ways unexpected the tree will weather. 🤎

~

If you’re interested in attending, the early bird price on my next retreat day, Permission to Pause, ends this Sunday. 🐦

I’ll be joined this time by my good friend Andrew Blakemore, who I can personally attest to being an incredible space holder and somatic practitioner ❤️

It takes place at once again, on Saturday 15th November, 2-6pm. ✨

Visit https://www.theloudquiet.co.uk/events/permissiontopauseretreatday-nov25

Or email: hello@theloudquiet.co.uk 🫶

16/10/2025

Here’s a short somatic practice you can do at any time, when you feel anxious, overwhelmed or disconnected from yourself. ♥️

I talk here about the week one theme of my online course, Come to Life; self-acceptance. Looking at those places where we’re still ‘at war with ourselves’, in the words of the brilliant author, meditation teacher and psychologist, Tara Brach ✨

I’ve loved exploring this theme with my participants, guiding them in meditation, somatic inquiry practices and conscious breathwork, and hearing what they had to share on the topic.

Meeting resistance in the body is absolutely key to finding more self-acceptance. We can do all the mindset work we like to start building in healthier habits and creating positive change, but it has to be paired with creating more internal safety and befriending our nervous systems.

Somatic work helps us witness and soften into those challenging parts, feel our deeper emotions underneath the patterns and behaviours, and allow ourselves to show up more fully.

That doesn’t mean as a shiny, all-improved version of ourselves. It means showing up in all of our humanness, with more capacity for joy, love and contentment on the other side of pain 🫶

See more at theloudquiet.co.uk/

15/10/2025

📣 Exciting news about my November retreat day 📣

I’m so happy that wonderful space holder and brilliant human, Andrew Blakemore, has agreed to join me as support 🥹

✨ Saturday 15th November, 2-6pm
🫁 The Didsbury Parsonage

Andy was my peer partner from day one of breathwork facilitator training. Here we are pictured at our graduation retreat in Spain, 2023 ❤️

We then went on to continue training together as somatic practitioners, in our recent year-long somatic inquiry course. Our lives have both been changed by the powerful, world-class teachings of The Other Side of Average 🫶

I can’t say enough about what a beautiful person Andy is, the incredible support and compassionate presence he offers to his community and family in Liverpool.

I’m proud to call him my friend, he never fails to make me smile and I can’t wait for you to meet him. 🥰

You have a few days left to secure the early bird price for the retreat day - it ends this Sunday.

Everyone welcome - my events are attended by many different people of all genders, ages, backgrounds and experience levels 👥

See my previous post for what my attendees said after the last retreat day. ✨

🎟️ Book below:
theloudquiet.co.uk/events/permissiontopauseretreatday-nov25

📧 Any questions, feel free to email me on hello@theloudquiet.co.uk

Becky x

13/10/2025

I’m running my Permission to Pause retreat day again next month, at The Didsbury Parsonage✨💆🏻‍♀️

It’s on Saturday 15th November, 2-6pm. I can’t wait 🫶 🌟

Early bird tickets are £45 EXTENDED until this Sunday 19th October, when they’ll increase to £55. 🎟️

It was so lovely having this day with everyone in September. There were some powerful shares from attendees during the practices, and lots of heartwarming social connection. 👥

I’m really looking forward to coming together again and holding space in this beautiful corner of the world 🌳🐦

Conscious breathwork, meditation, somatic practices, written inquiry, (short) mindful walking in the gardens, heart-opening drawing, and gentle socialising over tea and snacks. All designed for intentional rest, emotional processing and deep self-connection, together 🫶

We’ll be reflecting on the year as 2025 starts to draw to a close, during this lovely quiet phase before the festive season gets into full swing. 🌠

❤️ Feedback from the last retreat day included:

⭐ “It was a great experience and one I felt I really needed...I have had a lot of upset around me and my experience was very profound. The clarity it has given me has been reassuring so I thank you.”

⭐️ “Just wanted to thank you so much for today. I really appreciated the safe space and being supported to be calm and relax.”

⭐️ “I really wanted to say I so enjoyed your session. I had never done anything like that before, I really embraced every moment and am trying to use some of the breathwork techniques I learnt from you. It was lovely to do this with such lovely people. And credit to you for the way you engage with everyone, and your caring, encouraging nature. I hope to be back at another session soon.”

All led by me, a practitioner in somatic inquiry and conscious connected breathwork. I love to help people reconnect to their bodies and emotions, hear their inner voice again and love themselves more. 🧡

Book on The Loud Quiet website to join us in this beautifully restorative, picturesque and peaceful venue 🌲🌝

https://www.theloudquiet.co.uk/events/permissiontopauseretreatday-nov25

Feel free to email me with any questions: hello@theloudquiet.co.uk 💌

Becky x

10/10/2025

Want to ease into winter feeling more alive and self-connected? Doors close soon on my online course - we start in 3 days 🫶🕺

Come to Life, The Breathwork Course that Brings Your Spark Back, runs on Zoom from Monday 13th October until Wednesday 26th November ⭐

(Monday and Friday mornings, and Wednesday evenings - all recorded, so you can watch the replays if you can’t make any sessions live) 🫁✨

With compassionate support and conscious community, learn tools for living that will support long-term positive change and navigating challenges. Including conscious connected breathwork, somatic inquiry and meditation 🧘

The theme I’ll be taking everyone through in week one of the course is Accepting Yourself Just As You Are. ❤️

Read more or book your space to join us next week: https://www.theloudquiet.co.uk/events/come-to-life-the-breathwork-course-that-brings-your-spark-back

I can’t wait to get started. Feel free to DM me if you have any questions 😘

Becky x

09/10/2025

Our emotions aren’t a burden, no matter how messy they may seem. It might feel like they’re inconvenient; and validating our own emotions doesn’t always have to mean fully expressing them.

While it’s powerful to fully let out what we feel, we can acknowledge our emotions at any time, as we move through our day. Ignoring our emotions altogether, meanwhile, keeps us stuck. 💔

It also isn’t wrong or shameful to feel disconnected from emotions. Sometimes our bodies, our nervous systems, stop us from feeling emotions, so they can protect us from certain experiences until we’re ready to process them.

These coping mechanisms of detachment and numbness serve a purpose, to a point. They also stop us feeling really alive and becoming who we know we can be. ✨

So we have to be able to create capacity and safety in the body to let our emotions move through us, without feeling like it’s all too much. Without feeling dysregulated or traumatised. It’s not easy, but it’s so worth it.

It can be a gradual process of learning to listen to ourselves, getting comfortable with accepting whatever comes up. Sometimes we need someone to support us in that process, as we navigate what comes up in our bodies.

Take the definition of trauma, for example. It’s what happens inside of us in the absence of an empathetic witness (Peter Levine); therefore, healing can’t happen in isolation.

We need someone to be that empathetic witness. Maybe it feels too scary or risky to revisit those messy parts of us alone, those points of pain that we haven’t felt resourced to revisit before.

When we can unravel our deepest emotions, we can heal old wounds, break limiting patterns and form new beliefs. Ones that feel more productive, loving, and informed by truth, rather than fear. ❤️

Want to be part of something that supports your emotional awakening and inner freedom? 🫶

My Come to Life online course does exactly that. It starts Monday, for 6 weeks, all on Zoom 🥳

I’ll provide you with practical tools and compassionate support to become more embodied and emotionally aware, get your spark back and move towards the end of the year feeling renewed. 🌟

Link below or DM me with any questions ☺️🫶

https://www.theloudquiet.co.uk/events/come-to-life-the-breathwork-course-that-brings-your-spark-back

Email me on: hello@theloudquiet.co.uk 💌