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Counselling services in the Manchester area. I offer a safe environment for you to be listened to without judgement.

I am an Integrative Person Centred Counsellor. I also have a diploma in Mindfulness and have done training in su***de, sexual abuse, anxiety, depression, mind-body illnesses and Psycho-Social Psychology. I am qualified in L5 CBT and I currently facilitate a personal development group for L4 therapeutic Counselling diploma students. I believe in a more mindful way of healing and alleviating mental stress. I believe we all have the answers inside us and once we hear our own voice, we can begin to move forward and find our real selves and in turn become our own internal therapist. Repression and rumination can cause many of the mental illnesses, including physical illnesses too. I want to help people to be able to recognise their negative thoughts and root causes and find a way forward and I fully support a psycho-social approach. I am a member of the BACP and I comply with their rules regarding confidentiality and their ethical framework which you can learn more about here.. (www.bacp.co.uk/ethical_framework/)

I offer you a nurturing, safe environment to explore your problems. I understand that starting therapy is very daunting and I endeavor to help make you to feel at ease. The therapeutic relationship is built on trust and honesty and my priority is to enable you to feel heard and understood without judgement. This in itself can help you to feel less alone and that someone is finally hearing you and this can bring lots of comfort and relief and a feeling of being less burdoned. Therapy can help you to develop a better understanding of yourself and your problems, can build your confidence and help you to make better choices to enhance your life.

28/04/2025

Perhaps our “life's purpose” has nothing to do with what job we will find, what new thing we will manifest or attract for ourselves, or what mythical awakening journey we will complete. Perhaps the purpose of our life is to fully live, finally, to touch each here and now moment with our presence and with the gift of our one, wild heart.
And to do whatever we can to help others, to hold them when they are hurting, to listen carefully to their stories and the ways they are attempting to make sense of a world that has gone a bit mad.
To speak kind words and not forget the erupting miracle of the other as it appears in front of us. Perhaps this is the most radical gift that we can all give.

Matt Licata 🌼

Artist Credit: Lore Pemberton

24/04/2025

Instead of saying, "I know what it feels like", let's say "I cannot imagine your heartbreak".
Instead of saying, "You're strong, you'll get through this, let's say " You'll hurt, and I'll be here.
Instead of saying, "You look like you're doing well, Let's say, "How are you holding up today?"
Instead of saying, "Healing takes time", let's say "Healing has no timeline".
Instead of saying, "Everything happens for a reason, let's say "This must feel so terribly senseless right now".
And when there are no words to say at all, you don't need to try and find some. Love speaks in silences too.
~ 'Words' by Ullie-Kaye
~ Art by Jennifer Yoswa

02/09/2024

A client said, “I’m really hard on myself.”

I said, “Talk to me as if I am you. BE hard on me.”

Why did I ask them to do this? Because I wanted to know what they actually experienced - what voice and attitude lived inside them.

She said, “You’re a loser, no one will ever love you.”

No one will ever love you - that’s REALLY HARD, REALLY PAINFUL, I thought.

Why isn’t she saying, “The violence that lives inside of me is devastating, I can hardly get out of bed living this way.”

I’ll tell you why:

She didn’t have a compassionate witness when people were hard on her in the past and now there is no inner witness, no self-compassion. So now she just thinks, “I’m really hard on myself.”

Much inner criticism is actually inner abuse that mirrors earlier abuse or internalized oppression. When we don’t see it or “hear” it clearly, it eats away at us, eroding our esteem, our energy, and our voice.

Many of us have awakened to the prevalence of early abuse and trauma. We need that same awakening about how that is internalized, lives inside of us, keeping us locked in that early abuse over and over.

David Bedrick

30/03/2024

Did you know that dissociation was the KEY to working with trauma?

No, not because we have to 'deal with' and 'overcome' dissociation.

Not because dissociation is a hindrance to further healing.

Because ALL trauma arises from a system overload and when our system is overloaded our natural organic and response is to dissociate.

Dissociation creates space from the traumatic event; it gives us distance, a sense of 'remove' or detachment.

And, here's the best part of our ingenious dissociative response: IF WE ALLOW DISSOCIATION TO GO FAR ENOUGH, IF WE ALLOW OUR BODY AND PSYCHE TO GET ALL THE SPACE IT REALLY NEEDS, OUR EYES CAN BEGIN TO SEE, TO BEAR WITNESS.

If we don't connect with these WITNESSING EYES, our trauma work will simply keep up spinning, cycling around and around.

In short, we won't have enough self-awareness and self-love to bring healing to our trauma. WE WILL SIMPLY TRY TO HEAL IT FROM INSIDE IT - THAT LEADS TO RETRAUMATIZATION.

So what do we do? We allow dissociation to take us far away - as far away as you can imagine being. Some folks go to the ocean, to the mountains, to their grandmother's house, even to the moon or stars.

Then we look back at the traumatic event BEFORE WE GO INTO THE TRAUMATIC EVENT OR STORY, BEFORE WE WORK WITH OUR SOMATIC RESPONSES EMBEDDED IN THE TRAUMA.

David Bedrick

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Blackley
Manchester

Website

http://ferntreecounselling.co.uk/

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I am an Integrative Person Centred Counsellor and Clinical Supervisor. I have done training in Existentialism, trauma, su***de, sexual abuse, anxiety, depression, mind-body illnesses and Psycho-Social Psychology. I am also qualified in L5 CBT, and post grad level 7 in Attachment and I have recently facilitated a personal development group for L4 therapeutic Counselling diploma students. I believe in a more mindful way of healing and alleviating mental stress. I believe we all have the answers inside us and once we hear our own voice, we can begin to move forward and in turn become our own internal therapist. Repression and rumination can prolong many of the mental health issues we face, and influence physical illnesses too. I want to help people to be able to recognise their negative thoughts and root causes and find a way forward and I fully support a psycho-social approach. I am a registered member of the BACP and I comply with their rules regarding confidentiality and their ethical framework which you can learn more about here.. (www.bacp.co.uk/ethical_framework/)

I am fully insured with The Psychologists Protection Society. I offer you a nurturing, safe environment to explore your feelings. I understand that starting therapy is very daunting and I endeavor to help make you to feel at ease. The therapeutic relationship is built on trust and honesty and my priority is to enable you to feel heard and understood without judgement. This in itself can help you to feel less alone and that someone is finally hearing you and this can bring lots of comfort and relief and a feeling of being less burdoned. Therapy can help you to develop a better understanding of yourself and your problems, can build your confidence and help you to make better choices to enhance your life.