04/03/2026
I remember standing in changing rooms and realising I wasn’t choosing clothes anymore.
I was just buying what fit.
It didn’t matter if I liked it.
If it suited me.
If it was what I’d have picked years earlier.
If it went on, it came home.
That purple T-shirt in the photo?
It was one of those outfits.
I didn’t choose it because I liked it.
I chose it because it fit.
And at over 20 stone, that felt like a win.
Looking back, there’s a bit of embarrassment there.
But there’s also a lot of empathy.
I wasn’t lazy.
I wasn’t careless.
I’d just drifted.
And when you drift long enough, you start telling yourself a story.
For me, it was this:
“That’s just who you are.
You’re the big guy.
This is your lane.”
The longer you repeat that, the more believable it becomes.
I’d tried to change before.
Started strong.
Relied on motivation.
Hoped this time would stick.
The real shift happened when I stopped trying to wing it.
When I put structure in place.
When I accepted that if nothing changed, nothing was going to change.
There’s a strange fear in changing.
If you’ve always been “the big guy/girl”,
who are you without that identity?
What if you lose it… and then slowly become it again?
That fear keeps a lot of people stuck.
Structure removed that uncertainty for me.
It made progress steady.
Predictable.
Sustainable.
And steady is what changed everything.
🧔🏻♂️ Simon Asquith
📍 Supporting slimmers across the UK
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