Dr Melita Ash - Percuro Psychology

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Consultant Clinical Psychologist

💫 Specialist in anxiety & school avoidance in teens | Parenting support | Assessments | Therapy | Workshops
👤 Derbyshire & online
👇 Parent webinars

Email admin@percuropsychology.co.uk
Tel 07754 439891

Teen: “It’s not that deep.”Me, internally: This is an attack on my love language.This morning I made eggs on toast.He go...
18/12/2025

Teen: “It’s not that deep.”
Me, internally: This is an attack on my love language.

This morning I made eggs on toast.

He got up late. Didn’t eat them.

“It’s not that deep,” he said.

I felt the surge rise… and then replied:

“Say that to the chickens who worked hard to lay those eggs.”
We both collapsed laughing.

Tension gone. Connection restored.

Parenting teens is a daily practice in choosing your response.

Sometimes it is that deep.
Sometimes humour saves everyone’s nervous system.

If you’re parenting a teen and finding yourself oscillating between frustration and laughter then welcome. You’re in good company.

(And yes, the eggs were eventually eaten. Just not by him 😉)

’sNotThatDeep FamilyLife

If you grew up being “a bit quirky” and it was tolerated, you’re not imagining the shift.Many schools now speak the lang...
16/12/2025

If you grew up being “a bit quirky” and it was tolerated, you’re not imagining the shift.

Many schools now speak the language of neurodiversity - sensory needs, emotional regulation, social communication — yet the systems themselves are louder, faster, more pressured and less flexible than ever.

So when children struggle, the burden of adjustment still sits with them.

Try harder. Cope better. Regulate yourself.

From a clinical perspective, what’s often being called “over-diagnosis” is better understood as misalignment: neurodivergent profiles becoming distressed in environments that don’t flex to meet them.

Understanding without accommodation isn’t inclusion.
If your child is struggling, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed or that they’re broken.

Sometimes the system needs to change, not the child.
🤍

When you’re parenting a teen with big emotions or anxiety,it can feel like you’re constantly monitoring yourself.What yo...
13/12/2025

When you’re parenting a teen with big emotions or anxiety,

it can feel like you’re constantly monitoring yourself.
What you say.
How you say it.
When you say it.

That level of vigilance takes a toll.

If you’re feeling exhausted, snappy, tearful, or numb,
that isn’t because you’re failing,
it’s because your nervous system has been working overtime.

Supporting your teen doesn’t mean abandoning yourself.

Regulation can’t be a one-way street.

Small moments of care matter:
stepping outside for air,
loosening your shoulders,
asking for support instead of pushing through.

You don’t need to be a perfect parent.
You need to be a supported one.

Save this for the days it feels heavy 💚

Avoidance is often a result of your teen’s alarm system trying to protect them. Anxiety wants to seek out safety. But av...
04/12/2025

Avoidance is often a result of your teen’s alarm system trying to protect them. Anxiety wants to seek out safety. But avoidance means losing opportunities for your teen’s brain goes to learn that they can cope, even when there are challenges.

Calming their nervous system is the first very important step in breaking the anxiety cycle.

Save this for when you need it 💚

When your teen faces a fear and the thing they were scared of actually happens, it doesn’t mean they’ve failed, it means...
03/12/2025

When your teen faces a fear and the thing they were scared of actually happens, it doesn’t mean they’ve failed, it means they’re learning they can cope.

That belief is what breaks the anxiety cycle.

One brave step at a time. 🤍

So many parents tell me, “I feel like we’re stuck in the same anxiety patterns every day.”There’s a reason.Anxiety runs ...
30/11/2025

So many parents tell me, “I feel like we’re stuck in the same anxiety patterns every day.”

There’s a reason.
Anxiety runs in cycles and certain habits (reassurance, avoidance, emotional storms) quietly keep it going.

None of this is your fault. Anxiety is powerful and make us as parents want to jump in and fix to protect.

But small, compassionate shifts can help your teen feel safer, braver, and more independent over time.

If you want more grounded, practical support, follow along. You’re not alone 💚

Maybe anxiety is a good thing.Hear me out…Anxiety’s job is to protect your teen.It alerts them to danger, helps them pau...
27/11/2025

Maybe anxiety is a good thing.
Hear me out…

Anxiety’s job is to protect your teen.

It alerts them to danger, helps them pause, and keeps them aware of risks.

It’s the same system that’s helped humans survive for thousands of years.

The problem isn’t that your teen feels anxious.

The problem is when that protective system gets stuck on high alert, even when they’re safe.

And that’s where the work begins, not in “getting rid” of anxiety, but in helping their brain learn new signals:

🟢 I can handle this.
🟢 I’m not in danger.
🟢 I’m allowed to take small steps.
🟢 I’m allowed to rest.

When you respond with calm, compassion, and steadiness, you’re not just soothing anxiety,
you’re helping your teen’s nervous system relearn what safety feels like.

So no, anxiety isn’t the enemy.

It’s an important safety system that needs guidance and keeping in check!

💚 Save this for the days you need a reminder that nothing is “wrong” with your teen - their brain is doing its best, and you’re helping it settle.

Ever had that thought you’d never say out loud…“Why can’t my child just be normal?”And then felt the shame hit instantly...
25/11/2025

Ever had that thought you’d never say out loud…

“Why can’t my child just be normal?”

And then felt the shame hit instantly?

You’re not a bad parent.
You’re not failing.
You’re not ungrateful.

You’re overwhelmed.

You’re tired of watching your child struggle.
You’re grieving the ease you imagined parenting might bring.

Every parent of a child who is struggling has had a version of this thought, because this is hard.

It means you’re human.

Take a breath today and tell yourself:

“I’m allowed to be human. And I’m doing my best.”

Save this for a day when the guilt creeps in. 💚




Are you sitting there blaming yourself because your teen is struggling?Before you spiral, pause.Step outside, feel the c...
20/11/2025

Are you sitting there blaming yourself because your teen is struggling?

Before you spiral, pause.
Step outside, feel the cold air on your face, hand on heart, and remind yourself:

“I am doing my best… and that is always enough.”
Your teen’s anxiety is not a verdict on your parenting.
It’s a sign they’re overwhelmed and you are still their safest person, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

When you come back inside, write down ONE thing you managed today.

Just one.
Small counts.
Small is strength.

You’re doing better than you think, and your steadiness matters more than you realise. 💚








A rainy weekend doesn’t have to be heavy or stressful.Sometimes the best thing you can do for both of you is slow right ...
15/11/2025

A rainy weekend doesn’t have to be heavy or stressful.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for both of you is slow right down, laugh at the chaos, and make peace with the “teen emerging only to forage for food” stage.

You’re doing brilliantly, even on the soggy days. 💚

When your teen isn’t in school, it’s easy to feel like you’re failing or that they are. But this isn’t a moment for puni...
11/11/2025

When your teen isn’t in school, it’s easy to feel like you’re failing or that they are. But this isn’t a moment for punishment or panic. It’s a moment for healing. 🕊️

Start with safety. Always. The learning will come later. 💚

When your teen feels anxious, their nervous system is in survival mode, and yours often follows.That’s why the real work...
06/11/2025

When your teen feels anxious, their nervous system is in survival mode, and yours often follows.

That’s why the real work of helping an anxious teen begins with co-regulation.

Your calm body helps their body remember safety.
Your steady tone helps their heart slow down.

Your presence helps their brain believe, “I’m not alone in this.”

You don’t have to get every response right.

You just have to stay connected enough to help their system borrow your calm. 💚

Save this post for the days when everything feels too much.

And follow for gentle, evidence-based support on co-regulation, connection, and parenting anxious teens. 🌿

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