02/11/2025
Somewhat vulnerable (/long!) post here... I recently found this photo of me and my firstborn. Looking at us back then I so wish I could share the things I know now about motherhood. The new mama in this photo was struggling to hold it all... The weight of responsibility for this little life that was now so completely dependent on me. The identity shift which felt so overwhelming. Not having emotional capacity or the time I felt I needed to process the traumatic birth we'd been through - I was suffering with post-traumatic stress and didn't have a framework for processing this or even correctly identifying it.
I was doing my absolute best in the strength that I had, and with support from caring family and friends... But it wasn't enough. I now recognise that in part I felt isolated because I didn't actually have a consistent group of women around me who understood in their own immediate experience what I was going through. What I really needed was not just ad hoc visits to see family, but a village of other mums who would be there, week in, week out in an honest and meaningful way, in a space where I felt safe and held.
has been such a turning point for me. The songs are vehicles for connection and healing. The concept of having a group centred on *mums* - not just another space for entertaining babies - is so simple and so needed.
If you think you know a mum (or if you are that mum) who would find this space valuable, please tell her! Sponsor a term of Singing Mamas as a baby shower gift for her. Offer to drive her to her local group. This space is so needed... My hope is that EVERY new mama will one day have access to a Singing Mamas group. That every new mum would feel supported and held by a village.