Sarah Thomson Therapy

08/01/2026

11/12/2025

Most of our suffering comes not from events themselves, but from our resistance to them. We replay conversations, worry about outcomes, try to manage people’s behavior, and exhaust ourselves trying to fix things that were never ours to fix.

Life will happen.
People will do and say what they want.
Situations will unfold in ways you did not plan.
And no amount of worry will change any of it.

Peace begins when you shift your focus inward.
You can control your actions, not the results.
You can control your boundaries, not how others respond.
You can control your attitude, not the world around you.

This is exactly what Buddhism teaches through the principle of non-attachment.
When you cling to expectations, you suffer.
When you try to control the uncontrollable, you create inner conflict.
But when you let go, accept reality as it is, and stop fighting the flow of life, your mind becomes lighter and calmer.

The Buddha taught that true freedom comes from mastering your own mind, not the world.
When you release the need to manage everything outside you, clarity returns.
When you stop forcing life, life opens for you.

Focus on what you can change.
Let the rest be.
This is where peace begins.

08/12/2025

30/11/2025

That calmer, wiser, grounded version of you never disappeared, you just drifted from it while trying to “fix” symptoms and survive each day.

Recovery isn’t a battle.
It’s a homecoming, and you’re slowly coming back home.

23/11/2025

Courage isn’t a fixed trait; it’s a muscle that strengthens with practice.
You don't need to feel brave to be brave; action comes first, feeling follows.

Courage isn’t dramatic. It’s the quiet, repeated acts that help us lift what life puts in front of us, even when we don’t feel ready.

23/11/2025

Have you ever noticed how your child can go from calm to explosive in seconds? Dan Siegel’s Upstairs / Downstairs Brain is a simple way to understand why.

The 'downstairs brain' is in charge of big emotions, survival instincts and staying safe. It reacts quickly – think fight, flight, freeze.

The 'upstairs brain' is where problem-solving, empathy, and reasoning live. It helps children make good choices, manage feelings, and connect with others.

But here’s the catch: children’s upstairs brains are still under construction. That means when emotions overwhelm, their downstairs brain often takes over.

This isn’t 'bad behaviour' – it’s biology. When we see it this way, we can respond with compassion, co-regulation, and strategies that help a young person move from downstairs to upstairs.
Resources to support educating a child around this model are available in our Resource Store.
EMOTIONS and MY BRAIN
This extensive resource pack based on Dan Siegel’s Upstairs and Downstairs Brain
helps and educates children and young people on the concept of the upstairs and downstairs brain can help them recognise how their own brain functions and develop strategies for self-regulation and emotional intelligence.
The pack comprises explainers, emotions scale resources, practical activities including upstairs and downstairs brain choices (behaviours), stress response, amygdala hijack, explainers for both adults and young people and activities to consolidate learning around parts of the brain and functions. Also includes 5 skin tone range of emotions.

Varying resources to suit ages 6-16yrs. Now also available as an 8 week intervention.
Electronic download available at link in comments or via our Linktree Shop in Bio.

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