Applying Psychology to the Workplace, Cambridge University
FHEQ Level 4. Philosophy of Mind, Oxford University
Postgraduate Cert.Ed.
Psychotherapist & Supervisor (UKCP, MBACP & UPCA)
Owner of award winning health & wellbeing clinic - The Mowbray Clinic
Endorsed by Her Grace the Duchess of Rutland
Voted one of the leading inspirational thought leaders in the UK (Source TV) Specialisms:
Life crises and insecurity of the self, DID and dissociative conditions, historical and developmental trauma, complex grief, death anxiety, social anxiety and general anxiety disorders. Physical health psychology - ME/CFS, Fibromyalgia, Long Covid, Functional Neurological conditions, end of life situations, bereavement and loss.
Other areas: abuse, negative and challenging behaviours, communication, depression, eating disorders, emotions, goals, motivation, self esteem, OCD, phobias, relationships and couples, self harm, shame and self criticism, stress, substance misuse, unhelpful thinking styles. Current Doctoral Research:
Dissociative Identity Disorder, Complex dissociation, De-personalisation, De-realisation, Fragmentation of self, Ontological Insecurity, Existential therapeutic approaches, Phenomenology of therapist/client relationship
Research and clinical supervisors:
Dr Susan Iacovou
Dr Simon Cassar
Qualifications:
MA, Existential Psychotherapy & Counselling, Middlesex University
Postgraduate Dip Existential Psychotherapy & Counselling, Middlesex University
Transactional Analysis (Official TA 101), The Berne Institute
Cert. Further and Adult Education, Clarendon College, Nottingham
BA(Hons) Design including Critical Studies, Nottingham Trent University
Accreditations and Memberships Registered MBACP, UPCA, Society for Existential Analysis (SEA), Oxford Philosophical Society
Consultations in person and online
17/03/2026
Thank you to for a fab Soulful Sunday and for a lovely end to the evening eating her lovely dhaal.
We all received these lovely flowers and a message so I’ve been reflecting on what being radiant means to me right now.
I feel that this is a reminder to stay light and bright amidst change and busyness.
Energetically, a lighter vibe helps smooth transitions in the waves of life. Protecting time and energy helps to avoid overextending and dimming a persons radiance.
What does being radiant mean to you?
15/03/2026
On Mother’s Day let’s talk about mothering in a different way than the usual nurturing and caring.
Mothering can be mature, fiery, feminine energy. Mothering can be confident, driven and inspiring. Mothering can be motivating, encouraging and brave, building confidence, and encouraging growth.
Mothering can be adventurous and creative.
Mothering can be being bold, displaying a “reach for the stars,” attitude, cultivating strong self-belief and independence.
Mothering YOURSELF can also mean parenting yourself with courage and enthusiasm: backing your own ideas, reminding yourself to take up space, and following your passions instead of shrinking.
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31/12/2025
At the end of 2025, it’s not things that are important to me, it’s the people who stand by me that make the year worth remembering. Its about honesty, loyalty, and the people that show up, the ones who turn the quiet moments into lasting memories.
Here’s to conversation, inside jokes, hugs after a long year, and the unwavering realness that keeps me grounded as we step into a fresh chapter.
I’m grateful for people who’ve seen me at my best and my messy moments, who celebrate the wins and lift me through the rest. May the new year bring more laughter, more truth, and more moments shared with the people who matter most. Happy New Year to my people and my little insta tribe—you are the spark that lights me up. Xx
10/12/2025
Christmas is a time of connection, memory, ritual, generosity, and sometimes heightened emotional triggers. It can magnify both joy and pain.
People who have experienced trauma, look for safety, predictable routines, boundaries and grounding.
Here are some slow, manageable steps toward healing and stability:
Firstly try to see the festive season as an opportunity for new beginnings, concentrate on grounding, and set the seeds of taking practical action and a fresh start to support safety, stability, and gradual healing.
* Set up a cosy, low-stimulus space for 15–30 minutes daily (include soft lighting, your comfort item, a warm drink).
* Choose 2–3 meaningful traditions to be involved in. Allow yourself to opt out of others without guilt. (Have a polite exit plan if a situation becomes overwhelming.)
* Stabilise the basics (sleep routine, meals, hydration). Add a 5-minute grounding exercise each day.
* Create a simple safety plan for events (a signal to take a break, a trusted person to check in with).
* Reflect and adjust. Note what felt grounding, what didn’t, and refine your boundaries for future festivities.
01/11/2025
The sense of “the self” is mediated by perception, emotion, and memory. Healing and growth happen in small, tangible actions as we acknowledge that the self isn’t a fixed container we can fully grasp. We can only work with what we can observe, i.e things like habits, sensations and thoughts; whilst staying compassionate toward the mystery of the self. Self-knowledge is a practice, not a possession.
Healing trauma means taking small steps to trust in the body and mind through manageable tasks; and starting only where you are right now. Acknowledge the non-linearity and interpretive nature of self-perception.
Think of one tiny step you’ll try today, maybe a boundary you will set, or a moment you can simply observe today.
26/10/2025
Awareness is incredible. Not just because we have a sense of who we are but also what we are not. For example, you are not your emotions. You are not anger or fear. Standing back objectively shows you this. We can’t be something that we are observing. We might say ‘I’m angry’ but we don’t need to identify with this as who we are. Awareness gives us a deeper sense of self. Emotions are real and valuable signals, yet they are not the full story of who we are.
The self includes our values, choices, and the awareness that we are the observer of our experience.
Next time you start to identify with an emotion, name it, notice its duration, and connect it to a value or boundary you hold dear. Transform what is a transitory feeling into meaning.
Imagine a vortex to deepen this understanding. If you were standing outside a vortex’s pull, you might witness emotions swirl around the centre of your awareness. You’re positioned at the edge, not in the swirl, so you can watch without being dragged inward.
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03/09/2025
Here’s an excerpt from an interview with Yahoo UK that I did recently about planning for your death, in light of Davina McCall’s terror at having brain surgery:
“Death is something that touches everyone, whether through our own experience or through the loss of someone we love. Lisa Gates, a BACP-registered therapist specialising in bereavement and complex grief, says confronting mortality can be an important and healthy step.
“Most people live life in a way that is in denial of death until they’re faced with it. It’s a human condition that we go around thinking, ‘Oh, that’s in the future. We don’t have to think about it,’” she tells Yahoo UK.
“But my approach is that actually confronting this gives people a deeper sense of self-awareness. If you confront your mortality, you can create more meaning in your life.”
You can read the full article here: https://uk.style.yahoo.com/davina-mccall-plan-death-family-brain-tumour-185842730.html
13/08/2025
“The time will come when,
with elation
you will greet yourself arriving…
in your own mirror
and each will smile at the others welcome.”
This excerpt of a poem by Derek Walcott made me think about self-acceptance as foundation for celebration.
The moment you truly accept yourself and parts of yourself—flaws, strengths, and all—becomes the moment you can celebrate. The mirror in this poem is a symbol of integration. Gazing at yourself and smiling back is a sign of inner alignment and new confidence.
My tips:
Mirror exercise: Spend a few minutes each day looking in the mirror and naming three things you genuinely appreciate about yourself. End with a smile.
Create a small celebration: Mark a milestone with a ritual—candles, a favorite meal, or a gathering with a trusted circle, expressing gratitude.
Inner-to-outer alignment: Align daily actions with your true self in the mirror (eg, your choices, boundaries, routines) so your external life reflects the inner harmony.
Comment below about how you get on! 🪞😀
13/07/2025
I AM ENOUGH
That’s a powerful affirmation isn’t it?
Say it loud and proud.
It suggests:
Self-empowerment: Recognising your inherent worth and mental strength.
Clarity of purpose: Affirming that you have the mental clarity and truth within yourself.
Start to say this as a new beginning to embrace
fresh ideas or perspectives, confident in your sufficiency.
Remember your mental resilience, and trust in your ability to overcome challenges with honesty.
01/07/2025
HOW TO CULTIVATE YOUR INNER EMOTIONAL STRENGTH TO ACHIEVE YOUR POTENTIAL.
Emotional Mastery involves embracing the qualities of deep empathy, patience, and understanding.
Intuitive Growth means trusting your intuition and inner guidance.
Nurturing your own Self-Development is to look after yourself emotionally, practicing self-compassion, and creating a supportive environment for growth.
Combining Balance and Compassion places the emphasis on ambition with empathy, ensuring your pursuit of your potential is compassionate to yourself and others.
Practical tips:
Reflect on your emotional needs and how they influence your goals.
Cultivate self-awareness through meditation or journaling.
Practice empathy in your interactions to build stronger relationships that support your growth.
Trust your intuition when making decisions related to your personal development.
21/05/2025
World Meditation Day is today and is dedicated to promoting meditation for mental, emotional, and physical well-being. It’s a day to pause, reflect, and embrace the benefits of mindfulness, both individually and collectively.
I encourage you to connect with yourself using compassion, self-care, and maybe something greater—like the collective consciousness.
Focus on releasing emotional burdens, and accessing deep states of peace and inspiration.
Allow yourself to feel and process emotions gently.
Journal or reflect on your insights and intuition.
18/05/2025
Let’s consider a broader sense of prosperity today, things such as emotional richness, fulfillment, and gratitude for what you have. Abundance is about appreciating all forms of wealth, including health, joy, and opportunities, not just money.
When was the last time you:
• Celebrated your victories and recognised your worth?
• Embraced an abundant mindset to attract more success and prosperity?
• Shared your achievements with others?
• Felt confident and proud of your progress while staying humble?
I encourage you to acknowledge your accomplishments, maintain gratitude, and open yourself to having even greater abundance in life.
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Specialisms: Existential, Psychodynamic and Integrative
Specialisms include existential (life) crisis and ontological (self) insecurity, somatic and dissociative conditions, chronic pain and fatigue, historical and developmental trauma, complex grief, end of life situations, death anxiety, social anxiety and general anxiety disorders.
My work places emphasis on the human condition as a whole. I use a positive approach that applauds human capacities and aspirations while simultaneously acknowledging an individuals limitations. I encourage people to address the emotional issues they face through full engagement and responsibility. I guide the person to accept their fears and give them the skills necessary to overcome them through action. This creates a sense of liberation and a feeling of letting go of the despair associated with insignificance and meaningless. It creates a feeling of growth and the promotes the embracing of life and to exist with wonder and curiosity.
