
12/09/2025
Both yoga and Buddhist philosophy tell us to be relentlessly selfish in our pursuit of our own happiness for the benefit of others.
Despite what social media might tell us, true self-care goes well beyond a bubble bath and face mask. Real self-care looks like daily check ins and brutally honest conversations with our nervous system.
Self-care feels terribly self-indulgent for someone like me who thrives on helping others and to be honest, can sometimes slip into the rescuer roll but right now, I can feel that I have been loading a little bit too much into my emotional backpack and need some space to heal. I need to take time so that I can show up better for my clients and yoga students.
Our bodies are living radars for all things emotional and I’m learning to listen to the little signs like tight shoulders, racing thoughts, forgetting what I went upstairs for and generally being a little more irritable than normal, to tell me it’s time to implement some rest and recouperation.
What that looks like for me will be different to what it looks like for you. As an introvert, I’m more likely to need solitude whereas an extravert will be more likely to crave group activities and company. Nothing is right or wrong and if we learn to listen to our nervous system’s clues, we can heal our own body and mind.
So this is me right now. Relentlessly selfish in my self-care so I can show up better for you.