La Vie de Clauds

La Vie de Clauds Award-winning Culture & Engagement Specialist based in Middlesbrough, using lived experience to drive meaningful social change. Home of Inspirational Voices.

The System-Mind Method™️ Consultant

Neurodiversity | Disability | Trauma | Social Mobility

I've created a metaphore to explain my work. I'm sharing this first draft because it also shows how I work 😂 This is how...
29/05/2026

I've created a metaphore to explain my work. I'm sharing this first draft because it also shows how I work 😂

This is how I come at what I do, from a System-Mind approach.

We're using a battlefield and army battle structure chart (I'm not sure what this is called) to correspond to the different issues in society.

Basically, my view is that if you get caught up in the individual issues (the soldiers: e.g. focusing on Charlie Kirk's death instead of the systemic issues he represents - misogyny, religious extremism, education etc), you're wasting your time.

Focusing on Charlie Kirk, Andrew Tate, or any other individual problem is like trying to stop a war by shooting one foot soldier.

When one falls, another appears, because the command structure (dominance‑based patriarchy) keeps producing replacements.

This is the root cause of all of society's current culture issues, in my opinion. Everything boils down to sexism (test me on it, it genuinely tracks). It harms both men and women, just in different ways.

This dominance based structure feeds into all of our systemic factions (the army 'big wigs': representing education, economic systems etc).

The battlefield represents things like public discourse, social media, and culture wars.

The civilians harmed in crossfire are the minority groups within society. All intersectional; all impacted by the battle in different ways.

If you want actual change, if you don't want to continue living in a battle field, we need to tackle the systemic issues at play. We need to completely overhaul the patriarchy 😅

Real people - both men and women - are suffering. Life is harder than it has to be for most of us these days.

It does feel like a war is coming: politically or culturally, I don't know. It just feels like we're living through a period in history that will be forever marked in the history books.

I wanna be on the right side of history. I feel like the best way for me to do that is to not focus on the individual effects of war, but instead to focus on the system that is driving those things.

Does that make any sense at all?

I'm working on it. It will make sense and I'll create some pretty graphics to package it all up neatly. But this is where I'm at. Let me know your thoughts 😂

Day onehundred&fortynine - day one of Boppit coming back into work 🐴 I had a chilled start to the day, with a coffee in ...
29/05/2026

Day onehundred&fortynine - day one of Boppit coming back into work 🐴

I had a chilled start to the day, with a coffee in the sunshine before taking Jonny back home. I wrapped up the morning by ticking off my daily bits and bobs, and getting the dogs out for a windy walk 💨 god knows how we came back with the same tennis ball today. I thought it was a goner for sure!😂🐾

I've felt a bit lost all afternoon, if I'm honest. My laptop has stopped charging properly - I need to check my protection to see how I go about getting it fixed - so I can't do much 'work'. I mean, I can. I can do most of it on my phone, and often start with pen and paper anyway, but I'm carrying some residual shame rooted in toxic workplace culture. I'm dealing with a thing where it feels like if I don't work on my laptop, it doesn't count as work. It's a huge mental battle, as daft as it sounds, and feeds into why leaving the house feels impossible at the moment. Everything is always connected 😅

Nonetheless, I've got some work done (fleshing out a metaphore, I'll share soon) and I've had a gorgeous early-evening at the stables, so I'm ending the day on a positive!

Pic of: Belle after being the most super good girl for her first ride back in work with Sam tonight! They had a nice, steady potter in the outdoor, making sure all the buttons are working and that Belle's happy with everything. It was a resounding success from start to finish!

Hopefully this is the start of a happy new chapter for Bops🩷

You are so much stronger than you think 🩷
29/05/2026

You are so much stronger than you think 🩷

Day onehundred&fortyeight - "I've been in two of your pictures this year!"🩷Today got off to a bit of a chaotic start, bu...
28/05/2026

Day onehundred&fortyeight - "I've been in two of your pictures this year!"🩷

Today got off to a bit of a chaotic start, but soon perked up once I got to the farm for morning checks🐴

Then it was over to the FABULOUS Senses Wellbeing Centre CIC to spend a couple of hours volunteering with their big move. Karen's vision is phenomenal, and if there's any woman that can pull it off, it's her! I'm super excited to see how it all comes together😁

Since getting home, I've pottered and caught up on a few bits whilst enjoying another glorious evening of summer sun☀️

Pic of: Me, Karen, and Gazza this afternoon! It's great that Take That understand the importance of Corporate Responsibility, but it's got to be said that he didn't pull his weight!

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade 🍋🩷
28/05/2026

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade 🍋🩷

Day onehundred&fortyseven - a rare total day off 🩷I've been absolutely shattered all day, after a few full-on days. I've...
27/05/2026

Day onehundred&fortyseven - a rare total day off 🩷

I've been absolutely shattered all day, after a few full-on days. I've had a mint long weekend, but today I needed to rest 😴

I've pottered, cleaned, done everything that needed doing, done some light admin, and made a start on workbook two: Redesigning Your System. Just a nice, slow, relaxed day doing life 😊

Pic of: it was gonna be "enjoying the last of the sun with an ice cold milkshake", but when I loaded up my gallery I saw this of me and Lola earlier this evening and it's too accidentally cute not to share 😂

Belle update: it's been a while! | BLOGIt's been an age since I gave a Belle update. She's happy enough, just plodding o...
27/05/2026

Belle update: it's been a while! | BLOG

It's been an age since I gave a Belle update.

She's happy enough, just plodding on. I've buddied up with one of the girls up there, allowing me to take a bit of a step back to focus on getting my life back under control. It's been a life saver; I really can't thank her enough!

I've not been in a financial position to do more than the basics for a little while now, and Belle's been having some time off anyway from being slightly lame.

She is a surprisingly high-needs horse.

I think, in the equestrian world, we don't talk enough about the realities of horse ownership. Very few horses are bought for a single life-long home. No judgement - we all have horses in our lives for different reasons. But, it's created a culture where we rarely talk about the realities of the not-ideal times.

She's been on and off lame behind since she was about 18 months old.

I bought Belle as a foal, knowing full well the commitment I was making. She is with me for life, whatever happens. That will never be up for negotiation - whatever happens, we'll make it work. She's got a home for life, however long we're blessed for that to be.

I bought Belle with no expectations, no goals; simply just a lost girl trying to fill a horse shaped hole in her heart.

When I got Belle, I wasn't expecting to get divorced a few years later and end up in a really crappy position. That doesn't erase the responsibility I have to her though.

So, we're making it work. I know I'm not giving her everything I want to be at this moment, but hopefully we'll have another good 25+ years of living our best lives, when I'm finally back on my feet.

Life's tough, having a horse is tough, and sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

So, where are we:

In mid Feb time, Belle went off behind. She has struggled with intermittent lameness behind for years now, so it's a relatively routine part of her management.

She has *something* going on with her stifles, and this seems to impact the SI. It's all connected, and is why she needs sedating for the farrier 🙃

But there's nothing actually going on. And she's only ever slightly short, like 1/10th lame on a trot up.

I am fortunate to have some very knowledgeable people involved in Belle's care. She has had countless workups and consults over the years. I am *that* owner, I ask all the questions; the vets are on speed dial 😂 She has had countless scans, tests, and x-rays. There is nothing structurally wrong. She's just... Very sensitive.

When she's in full, consistent work, and she has the strength and stability behind, she's grand. Phenomenal, even. It wears off as she warms up; she just pops and clicks a little at first. And honestly? Relatable AF mate. Same.

Now, the other thing is that she's also a cob. She struggles with her weight. I swear that girl is worse than me: sniff a lettuce and the weight goes on 🤦‍♀️ I have to monitor her weight closely. When she's overweight, her stifles play up and she goes off. But, she also has CPL, so I need her out and moving as much as possible. But, she also gets ulcers, so she can't go hungry.

Yes, it's a bit sh*t that I've got a 5 year old with health issues, but it is what it is. Being a Horse-Girl™️ means that the horse you've got is your dream horse. Belle is Belle, and she is my baby girl. We sometimes get it wrong, we sometimes have to make do, but that's okay. She's with me for life and I'm forever grateful for that fact.

When she's going well, she is truly one in a million. A friend rode her and said "I didn't know it was possible to have that much fun in walk!". She is mega. She just needs consistency to keep everything in check.

Unfortunately, consistency is the one thing I cannot give her at the moment.

It's worked out okay because we both needed the time off, and we've now been given the go ahead for ridden work from the vet.

It's a funny one, because like where do you draw the line? Obviously, you don't ride an injured horse. You don't "just push through" without involving the vet. But, some horses are just a bit wonky. Just as some people are a bit wonky.

That probably skews my perspective, coming at this as an owner who herself is disabled.

But if you know there's some kind of limitation, you've done what you can to get an answer, and overall the horse is happy and healthy, there's nothing wrong with treating the horse in front of you.

We only ever go at Belle's pace; she's the first to tell you if she's not happy about something! Because she knows that she's always listened to.

So, the plan going forward, is to work her through it and see how she goes.

She's going to be brought back in to work - light hacking a few times a week - to build her strength and evaluate how she is after a summer of straight lines and hills.

I would die for that horse. I'd never do anything to risk our future together, but over a (hopefully) 30 year commitment, there's gonna be peaks and troughs. Unfortunately for us, right now is one of the troughs.

Nonetheless, she's happy, healthy, and very much loved. We'll get back there soon 🩷

Make time each day to do something that brings you joy 🩷
27/05/2026

Make time each day to do something that brings you joy 🩷

Day onehundred&fortysix - celebrating Jonny's birthday with another BBQ 🔥 Today's been good, another belter with beautif...
26/05/2026

Day onehundred&fortysix - celebrating Jonny's birthday with another BBQ 🔥

Today's been good, another belter with beautiful weather. A very lucky start, managing to squeeze Belle in with my oldddd farrier! Had a lovely visit from mum this afternoon, before a gorgeous afternoon in the sun for a birthday BBQ😋

I'm loving this sun ☀️

Pic of: food this aft! Ngl today's barbie was banging💯

Keep going: your breakthrough is closer than you think 🩷
26/05/2026

Keep going: your breakthrough is closer than you think 🩷

Day onehundred&fortyfive - a BEAUTIFUL bank holiday ☀️ I feel like I've hardly stopped the last few days! Today started ...
25/05/2026

Day onehundred&fortyfive - a BEAUTIFUL bank holiday ☀️

I feel like I've hardly stopped the last few days! Today started with an early morning dog walk before the heat really set in, then morning checks to get the girls in out of the sun for a few hours, a trip to B&Q, then onto Lidl. This afternoon, I've been getting BBQ ready before heading back up to the farm.

Now, it's time to party 🥳 well, maybe not party, persay, but ngl I'm sooo excited for an evening of food, fire, and copious amounts of alcohol, catching up with a great friend. What more can a girl ask for?

Hope everyone else is having a mega bank holiday, however you're spending it. Let me know in the comments what you've been getting up to today!

Pic of: enjoying a Pimm's in the sunshine this afternoon🍹

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