Crown Counselling

18/03/2026

Reassurance feels good in the moment… but it quietly keeps anxiety stuck 🔄

Every time you ask “am I okay?” and get a comforting answer, your brain learns:
👉 “I can’t handle this on my own.”
👉 “I need someone else to feel safe.”

So the relief fades… and the urge to check comes back stronger.

That’s the reassurance cycle:
Anxiety → seek reassurance → short-term relief → more anxiety → repeat.

Real change happens when you gently resist the urge to check, and show your brain:
“I can sit with this. I can cope.”

It’s uncomfortable at first, but that’s where confidence grows 💛

If you’re stuck in this cycle, you’re not broken, it’s just a pattern your brain has learned. And patterns can be unlearned.

anxietyhelp

09/01/2026

Another lovely testimony from one of my courageous clients! It’s always so rewarding to see people experience life change in our work together 🥰

12/12/2025

Christmas can feel overwhelming when you’re living with anxiety. Reducing expectations, setting boundaries, accepting your feelings and practising self-compassion can make the season feel lighter. You’re allowed to take things at your own pace, and you can still have a meaningful Christmas, even with anxiety alongside you. 🎄

04/12/2025

How I help…

14/11/2025

Work on trusting yourself!

So often worst case scenario thoughts are not about the actual event you’re fearing, but about the feeling that you may not survive or cope if you were faced with it.

For example, ‘what if I lose my job?’ Yes the thought of losing your job is scary but even more scary is the thoughts of - what if I fall apart what if I can’t find anything else? What if I end up unemployed forever?

if you have trust in yourself to overcome whatever life throws at you there’s no need to fear it! BUT in order to trust ourselves we need to work with evidence. Where is the evidence that you have overcome difficult things in the past? or where you found solutions to things that seemed impossible? If you look hard enough, you will find plenty.

Try using this next time you’re thinking of those worst case scenarios - you are way more resilient than you think!

18/09/2025

Just a friendly reminder.

I know it sucks, I know it feels scary, but remember it’s an emotion, it’s your brain trying to keep you safe and it can’t hurt you.

18/07/2025

A beautiful testimony of healing - finding self belief, confidence and self-compassion. It was such a privilege to walk alongside this client on their journey and see the most amazing outcome for them! It took real courage and vulnerability to do this work and I’m an honoured that they felt safe enough to go there with me. 🥰

16/07/2025

15/07/2025

Check out my latest blog post - how to stop fearing anxiety and perhaps let it help you?!

As a therapeutic counsellor specialising in anxiety here in Milton Keynes, I often meet clients who feel trapped in a cycle of fighting their anxious thoughts and bodily sensations. It’s understandable: anxiety can feel frightening, overwhelming, and sometimes completely out of proportion to the s...

15/07/2025