
25/06/2025
“This pain will never go away.”
I’ve heard that phrase so many times from clients. And to be honest, I’ve said similar things to myself too.
When you’ve been dealing with pain for weeks, months, or even years...
it can start to feel like it’s part of who you are.
Not just something happening in your body, but part of your identity.
It becomes “my bad back”... “my dodgy shoulder”... “this thing that just won’t go away.”
But here’s what I’ve come to realise, both from personal experience and years in clinic:
Pain is part of your story. But it doesn’t have to be the ending.
When I ruptured my Achilles, I wanted to bounce back fast. I was angry, frustrated, impatient.
And what made it worse? The thoughts that kept showing up:
“This is taking too long.”
“What if it never gets better?”
“I’m going backwards.”
These kinds of thoughts are what Dr. Amen calls ANTs; Automatic Negative Thoughts.
And just like real ants, they don’t usually show up alone. They bring friends.
And before you know it, they’ve taken over.
That’s why the way you talk to yourself matters just as much as the rehab, the massage, or the stretches.
Your mindset is the soil your recovery grows from.
If it's full of w**ds, it's harder to heal.
Now I pay attention.
When a negative thought pops up, I don’t ignore it, but I don’t feed it either.
I notice it, name it, and then I pick a better line.
Instead of “It’s taking too long,”
“Time is helping me heal and get stronger.”
Instead of “This isn’t working,”
“I’m figuring it out.”
That shift might seem small, but it’s powerful.
Because you’re not “the person with a bad back.”
You’re someone recovering... one step at a time.
So if you’re going through a flare-up, an injury, or a recovery phase that’s just dragging on...
Be gentle with your words.
They shape your experience more than you think.
And if you want support, not just for your muscles, but for your mindset too... we’re here.
💪Clinical Massage for pain + movement
🌿 Reiki for the emotional load that comes with it
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