Dirk Plas Younicus

27/02/2026

MEN

What are your deepest desires?

Put the numbers in a comment.

1. To feel alive again, not just functional
2. To wake up with a sense of direction, not just obligation
3. To feel at home in my body rather than trapped in my head
4. To know who I am and stand by it without constantly second-guessing myself
5, To feel confident without having to prove anything
6. To want s*x and intimacy without shame, pressure, or self-criticism
7. To be desired and met, not just relied upon
8. To feel emotionally open without losing strength or respect
9. To express anger, sadness, and longing without fear of falling apart
10. To stop repeating the same relationship patterns
11. To feel close to my partner again, or to know clearly if I should not
12. To feel proud of the man I have become
13. To live with fewer masks and less effort
14. To feel grounded, steady, and solid under pressure
15. To trust myself, my body, and my instincts
16. To feel that my life actually belongs to me
17. Something else, see comments...

26/02/2026

You might not call it loneliness...

A thoughtful look at why many men feel isolated and how that connects to rising su***de rates. And why many man don't know...

I reflect on surprising insights and personal reflections that might help start conversations.

Read more: https://wix.to/zdeZkfW

I read an article about the loneliness among men and its influence on the high su***de rate. In England and Wales, men account for roughly 75% of su***des.It is shocking how many men feel lonely these days, and, on top of that, how hard it is for many of them to reach out. Loneliness is consistently...

23/01/2026

You’re busy, productive, present on paper — but are you really living in your body?

In my latest blog post, I explore how many men move through life disconnected from their breath and physical presence, and offer simple ways to come back into yourself. Read: https://wix.to/KHNfDUG

Take 3 minutes to breathe differently today.

You are busy. Work is full. Family life is full. Your diary is full.Most days, you move from meeting to meeting, from task to task, from responsibility to responsibility. You get things done. You provide. You hold things together.And somewhere along the way, you stopped being here.Not mentally. You....

27/11/2025

When a man's body says, “We need to talk.”

Man-o-pause, is there such a thing?

17/09/2024

Hey men!

Summer is almost over. How did you experience yourself in the last couple of months.

Were you present?
Connected to what was important to you?
Could you feel yourself?
Any issues in the bedroom?

We will start this season again with our free series of interactive webinars for men: ‘Returning Home’

Join us on the 9th of October for the first one:

Returning home: Embodying S3x

Hope to meet you there!

How can men be more empowered in life (and in the bedroom)?

29/08/2024

My body said YES!

Being able to discern what's right and follow that is part of Heartfelt Leadership. For me, it was right to follow that yes and get involved in co-leading this amazing retreat.

Can you understand the language of your body?

Are you ready to surrender?

Dharma

On 27 November 2023, Alanja Forsberg messaged me asking if I still cook for events. She was planning on going to Kenya for the first time to give her Avalon retreat and wanted a steady chef in the kitchen, someone she could trust, thus removing the worry of good nourishment.As some of you might have...

25/07/2024

Bullying hurts!

When bullied, it will have a major effect on the rest of your life.

I experienced bullying during my childhood, and I still notice the consequences of it in my behavior in groups, even after all my personal work. It is a deep, well-rooted effect that needs much self-love and attention to heal.

The body remembers being bullied and the strategy for surviving the impact. Understanding our bodies will allow us to provide true safety and overcome the patterns and old responses.

It is a sunny spring morning in 1981. I am 9 years old. I am walking to school, wearing my new glasses for the first time. I just got them yesterday, and I am proud as a peacock and happy as a dog with two tails.There is so much green around me that I am a little overwhelmed. I had no clue that the....

13/06/2024

𝗗𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗽𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲

𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘸𝘰𝘬𝘦 𝘶𝘱 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘳𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘗𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘣𝘪𝘳𝘥𝘴, 𝘐 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 5:30 𝘢.𝘮. 𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘴𝘰 𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺? 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘯, 𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵.

𝘈 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘥...

How is your smartphone entangled in your life?

Read how I discovered how mine is.

When I woke up this morning to the chirping iPhone birds, I looked at my phone, and it was 5:30 a.m. Why so early? Then, I remembered what happened last night. A crime was committed...We were having a drink outside a pub in Walthamstow. I met a colleague, and we were catching the last bit of sun tha...

15/05/2024

How quickly do you come?

Are men so result and performance driven?

I was really curious about this question and am wondering how you experience this as a man.

Also what the impact on the experience women is by the fact that average men reach their org@sm 3-4 times faster…

Welcome to my blog page, where we delve into the tapestry of life experiences, dissect current issues, and provide valuable insights to enrich your understanding of the world. Explore a diverse range of articles that offer a fresh perspective on everything from everyday encounters to pressing global...

20/03/2024

I was talking to someone yesterday, and we touched on the subject of seeking help.

It seems generally more challenging for men to ask for help than for women, but why is that?

One sure thing is that men want to develop personally, have a more purposeful life, experience more intimacy, a more profound connection in relationships, and be empowered.

Men 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 they need to do personal work to achieve that, so when talking to men, they are mostly willing to do the work.

What seems to happen in their body is a retraction when they think about seeking help, registering for a workshop, or seeking therapy. Their system does not want to be confronted with the pain that needs to be healed, to be vulnerable, or to potentially show emotion. So, our most available pattern kicks in: dissociation.

Of course, I speak out of experience (but this is confirmed by many men I spoke with). I felt precisely this during my 1.5 decade of personal development. An immense eagerness to grow but a lot of resistance to confront my shadows.

I am really curious, does this feel familiar to you?

15/03/2024

I just had an initial chat with a new client about anger.

I love anger and have been scared of it all my life.

And yes, sometimes I still am. Although, I discovered that fear is more about the unhealthy expression of anger. My system does not respond well to that.

Feeling and listening to our anger gives us so much information about what we need, value, and where our boundaries are...

Yes, expressing anger is risky sometimes. We trigger people. But it brings so much clarity when it happens in a clean and owned way.

How connected are you with the emotion of anger?