Dirk Plas Younicus

17/09/2024

Hey men!

Summer is almost over. How did you experience yourself in the last couple of months.

Were you present?
Connected to what was important to you?
Could you feel yourself?
Any issues in the bedroom?

We will start this season again with our free series of interactive webinars for men: ‘Returning Home’

Join us on the 9th of October for the first one:

Returning home: Embodying S3x

Hope to meet you there!

How can men be more empowered in life (and in the bedroom)?

29/08/2024

My body said YES!

Being able to discern what's right and follow that is part of Heartfelt Leadership. For me, it was right to follow that yes and get involved in co-leading this amazing retreat.

Can you understand the language of your body?

Are you ready to surrender?

Dharma

On 27 November 2023, Alanja Forsberg messaged me asking if I still cook for events. She was planning on going to Kenya for the first time to give her Avalon retreat and wanted a steady chef in the kitchen, someone she could trust, thus removing the worry of good nourishment.As some of you might have...

25/07/2024

Bullying hurts!

When bullied, it will have a major effect on the rest of your life.

I experienced bullying during my childhood, and I still notice the consequences of it in my behavior in groups, even after all my personal work. It is a deep, well-rooted effect that needs much self-love and attention to heal.

The body remembers being bullied and the strategy for surviving the impact. Understanding our bodies will allow us to provide true safety and overcome the patterns and old responses.

It is a sunny spring morning in 1981. I am 9 years old. I am walking to school, wearing my new glasses for the first time. I just got them yesterday, and I am proud as a peacock and happy as a dog with two tails.There is so much green around me that I am a little overwhelmed. I had no clue that the....

13/06/2024

𝗗𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗽𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲

𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘸𝘰𝘬𝘦 𝘶𝘱 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘳𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘗𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘣𝘪𝘳𝘥𝘴, 𝘐 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 5:30 𝘢.𝘮. 𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘴𝘰 𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺? 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘯, 𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵.

𝘈 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘥...

How is your smartphone entangled in your life?

Read how I discovered how mine is.

When I woke up this morning to the chirping iPhone birds, I looked at my phone, and it was 5:30 a.m. Why so early? Then, I remembered what happened last night. A crime was committed...We were having a drink outside a pub in Walthamstow. I met a colleague, and we were catching the last bit of sun tha...

15/05/2024

How quickly do you come?

Are men so result and performance driven?

I was really curious about this question and am wondering how you experience this as a man.

Also what the impact on the experience women is by the fact that average men reach their org@sm 3-4 times faster…

Welcome to my blog page, where we delve into the tapestry of life experiences, dissect current issues, and provide valuable insights to enrich your understanding of the world. Explore a diverse range of articles that offer a fresh perspective on everything from everyday encounters to pressing global...

20/03/2024

I was talking to someone yesterday, and we touched on the subject of seeking help.

It seems generally more challenging for men to ask for help than for women, but why is that?

One sure thing is that men want to develop personally, have a more purposeful life, experience more intimacy, a more profound connection in relationships, and be empowered.

Men 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 they need to do personal work to achieve that, so when talking to men, they are mostly willing to do the work.

What seems to happen in their body is a retraction when they think about seeking help, registering for a workshop, or seeking therapy. Their system does not want to be confronted with the pain that needs to be healed, to be vulnerable, or to potentially show emotion. So, our most available pattern kicks in: dissociation.

Of course, I speak out of experience (but this is confirmed by many men I spoke with). I felt precisely this during my 1.5 decade of personal development. An immense eagerness to grow but a lot of resistance to confront my shadows.

I am really curious, does this feel familiar to you?

15/03/2024

I just had an initial chat with a new client about anger.

I love anger and have been scared of it all my life.

And yes, sometimes I still am. Although, I discovered that fear is more about the unhealthy expression of anger. My system does not respond well to that.

Feeling and listening to our anger gives us so much information about what we need, value, and where our boundaries are...

Yes, expressing anger is risky sometimes. We trigger people. But it brings so much clarity when it happens in a clean and owned way.

How connected are you with the emotion of anger?

11/03/2024

Lessons from Loss

Our relationships with our parents can tell us a lot about how we show up in the world and who we are in relationships with others.

In this new blog, you can read about my experience with the impact of the shift in my relationship with my father.

You can also listen to the podcast I was interviewed on about this significant subject. It was about the loss of my mother but had a surprising twist. The link is at the end of the blog.

I wrote about my relationship with my mum and dad in previous blogs, but I must say. I can’t write enough about the significance of those relationships in our lives and how those relationships determine how we are in our current ones.Lessons of Loss podcastRachel Smith recently interviewed me for ...

08/03/2024

🚹 FREE webinar for Men! 🚹

Join Alex MacKain and me for the first of a series of FREE interactive webinars titled 'Returning Home.'

In these complementory sessions, we'll dive deep into topics that challenge us as men, hindering our ability to fully engage in relationships and society.

Our initial webinar kicks off next Wednesday, 13th March, at 7:30pm!

We'll be discussing the vital shift from toxic to healthy, integrated masculinity.

Don't miss out! Come along to explore how toxic masculinity impacts your life and discover constructive ways to navigate through it.

See you there Wednesday! 👊

Toxic masculinity. How does it influence your life and your relationships? How can we shift to healthy, integrated masculinity?

04/03/2024

🌟 Exciting News! 🌟

Are you looking to get in touch with your body again to explore your needs, boundaries, and values?
Are you done talking through conventional therapy?

I have a slot available fortnightly afternoon starting Friday 15 March.

🌳 Located at the tranquil Queens Wood Cabin in north London
⏰ Sessions typically last 1 hour, with the first session possibly longer
🧘‍♀️ Body-oriented approach incorporating physical and vocal expressions
💬 Bring any topic you wish to discuss, or let the session flow naturally

Secure the slot today by sending me a dm or contacting me through the link to my site in the comments.

After a first session, we will discuss if this approach works for you and what the path forward might involve.

See you soon!

02/06/2023

Why am I doing what I do?

It’s an evening in August 2017. The space is warm, the light is dim, and matrasses are positioned in a circle and form a star, within the middle, a beautiful bouquet of wildflowers. The smell of the lavender fills the room, where Lynn invites me and the others to lay down and surrender to the beautiful music… My body relaxes, and I feel the excitement. I don’t know yet that my experience tonight will forever change my life…

Why am I doing what I do?