Therapy For Me - Psychology / CBT

24/04/2026

Many people believe that feeling guilty means they are being responsible.

But guilt and responsibility are not the same thing.

Guilt often sounds like:
• “I’m a bad person”
• “I’ve done something wrong”
• “I need to fix this immediately”

Responsibility sounds different:
• “What happened?”
• “What can I learn?”
• “What do I want to do next?”

Guilt focuses on your identity.

Responsibility focuses on your actions.

You don’t need guilt to reflect, repair, or grow.

Learning this difference can reduce anxiety, self-criticism and overthinking.

Follow for more insights on anxiety, OCD and emotional patterns.

I am Idyli, CBT psychotherapist, and I help adults who are ready for change manage anxiety and OCD. I am based in Morden, South West London, but I also offer sessions online.

If you would like to book a FREE 10-minute consultation with me to explore ways I can help you achieve your therapy goals, you can choose the day and time that works for you on my website.

21/04/2026

In therapy, many people treat guilt as a reliable signal that they’ve done something wrong.

But guilt isn’t always accurate.

For people with anxiety or OCD, guilt can be triggered by:
• uncertainty
• ambiguity
• emotional discomfort

It can act as a way to try to create control.

But over time, this can lead to rigid thinking, self-doubt, and suppression of emotions.

A key part of therapy is learning to question guilt rather than automatically believing it.

I am Idyli, CBT psychotherapist, and I help adults who are ready for change manage anxiety and OCD. I am based in Morden, South West London, but I also offer sessions online.

If you would like to book a FREE 10-minute consultation with me to explore ways I can help you achieve your therapy goals, you can choose the day and time that works for you on my website.

19/04/2026

When guilt shows up, the response you choose matters.

Many people automatically go into self-blame:

• “I did something wrong”
• “I shouldn’t feel this way”
• “I need to fix this”

This often leads to overthinking, self-criticism and feeling stuck.

But there is another option.

A more helpful response is self-compassion:

• “This is hard”
• “I feel uncomfortable right now”
• “It makes sense this is affecting me”

Instead of trying to eliminate the feeling, you learn to support yourself through it.

This doesn’t mean avoiding responsibility.

It means responding with care rather than fear.

Follow for more insights on anxiety, OCD and emotional regulation.

I am Idyli, CBT psychotherapist, and I help adults who are ready for change manage anxiety and OCD. I am based in Morden, South West London, but I also offer sessions online.

If you would like to book a FREE 10-minute consultation with me to explore ways I can help you achieve your therapy goals, you can choose the day and time that works for you on my website.

14/04/2026

Do you remember much from your childhood? Many people feel worried or confused when they realise they don’t remember much about their childhood.

In therapy, we often explore early experiences and family relationships to understand patterns that may still affect us today.

But sometimes people notice that their memories from that time feel blurry, distant or incomplete.

This can happen for many reasons.

One possibility is that the brain creates distance from experiences that felt painful, overwhelming or emotionally unsafe.

It can be a protective response.

Therapy often becomes a gradual process of making sense of your experiences at a pace that feels safe and supportive.

I am Idyli, CBT psychotherapist, and I help adults who are ready for change manage anxiety and OCD. I am based in Morden, South West London, but I also offer sessions online.

If you would like to book a FREE 10-minute consultation with me to explore ways I can help you achieve your therapy goals, you can choose the day and time that works for you on my website.

09/04/2026

07/04/2026

A lot of people come to therapy with the goal of becoming more confident.

They imagine a process where they first build confidence…

and then they go after what matters to them.

They’ll apply for the job once they feel confident.
They’ll set boundaries once they feel confident.
They’ll try something new once they feel confident.

But confidence rarely comes first.

Confidence usually develops after you take action, step outside your comfort zone, and face uncertainty.

It grows from experience, not from waiting.

This is why therapy often focuses on helping people take small meaningful steps, even when confidence hasn’t arrived yet.

Because confidence is not the starting point.

It’s the outcome of doing the thing.

Follow for more insights on anxiety, OCD, and building confidence through action.

I am Idyli, CBT psychotherapist, and I help adults who are ready for change manage anxiety and OCD. I am based in Morden, South West London, but I also offer sessions online.

If you would like to book a FREE 10-minute consultation with me to explore ways I can help you achieve your therapy goals, you can choose the day and time that works for you on my website.

02/04/2026

Do you ask for reassurance when you are anxious?

When anxiety shows up, many people reach for reassurance.

They ask questions like:

“Are you sure everything will be okay?”
“Do you think I did something wrong?”
“Can you promise this won’t happen?”

Reassurance tries to remove uncertainty.

But emotional support does something different.

Emotional support might sound like:

• “I’m feeling really anxious right now.”
• “Can you stay with me while this passes?”
• “I just need someone to listen.”

Reassurance asks someone to solve the fear.

Emotional support asks someone to support you while you face it.

That difference matters.

Because learning to tolerate uncertainty—while still feeling supported—builds real confidence over time.

Follow for more insights on anxiety, OCD, reassurance seeking, and therapy tools.

I am Idyli, CBT psychotherapist, and I help adults who are ready for change manage anxiety and OCD. I am based in Morden, South West London, but I also offer sessions online.

If you would like to book a FREE 10-minute consultation with me to explore ways I can help you achieve your therapy goals, you can choose the day and time that works for you on my website.

31/03/2026

Many people live by an unspoken rule:

“I need to make the most of this. I should be happy.”

But this rule often increases pressure, disappointment and frustration.
When we believe we must enjoy something, we stop being present and start monitoring our emotions.

As a CBT therapist, I see how this leads to:

• Suppressed emotions
• Less self-care
• Feeling like you’ve failed if enjoyment isn’t 100%
• More anxiety and self-criticism

You don’t need to control your feelings to look after yourself.
You need to notice and accept them.

Challenge rules about how you should feel.
Presence matters more than forced happiness.

I am Idyli, CBT psychotherapist, and I help adults who are ready for change manage anxiety and OCD. I am based in Morden, South West London, but I also offer sessions online.

If you would like to book a FREE 10-minute consultation with me to explore ways I can help you achieve your therapy goals, you can choose the day and time that works for you on my website.

26/03/2026

What is something you frequently ask reassurance about? 👇

Reassurance can feel incredibly calming when anxiety shows up.

You might ask someone:
• “Are you sure everything will be okay?”
• “Do you think I did something wrong?”
• “What if something bad happens?”

And when someone reassures you, your anxiety drops.

But here’s the problem.

Each time you rely on reassurance, your brain learns that you can’t handle uncertainty on your own.

So the next time anxiety appears, you feel like you need reassurance again.

Over time this can increase:
• anxiety
• fear of uncertainty
• dependence on others for certainty
• self-doubt

Therapy often focuses on something different:
learning how to tolerate uncertainty and trust your ability to cope, even without guarantees.

That’s where real confidence grows.

Follow for more insights on anxiety, OCD, and evidence-based therapy tools.

25/03/2026

Self-doubt can feel like caution, but it often becomes a cycle that keeps you stuck. 💭

In this guest post, we explore how CBT helps with overcoming self-doubt by looking at the patterns behind overthinking, hesitation, reassurance-seeking, and fear of getting things wrong. Instead of chasing perfect confidence, the focus is on building steadier self-trust through small, practical changes. 🧠✨

Inside the blog:

🔹 What self-doubt looks like in everyday life
 How second-guessing, comparison, and holding back can become a pattern.

🔹 What triggers self-doubt
 Fear of mistakes, judgement, and uncertainty.

🔹 What keeps the cycle going
 Overthinking, reassurance, avoidance, and perfectionism.

🔹 How CBT understands self-doubt
 Why the mind keeps making negative predictions.

🔹 CBT for overcoming self-doubt in practice
 How small behavioural experiments can help you trust yourself more.

🔹 A real-world case study
 An anonymised example of how CBT helped a client step out of the loop.

Read the full blog here: https://therapyforme.co.uk/cbt-for-overcoming-self-doubt-guide/

24/03/2026

Would you like your therapist to give more advice? Many people expect therapy to give them clear advice or the “right decision.”

But therapy usually focuses on something deeper.

Advice can reduce anxiety temporarily because it removes uncertainty.

The problem is that life keeps creating new situations where there is no perfect answer.

If therapy only gave advice, you would need someone else to decide for you every time things felt uncertain.

Instead, therapy helps you build the capacity to:
• tolerate uncertainty
• trust your own judgment
• make decisions without guarantees

That’s where real confidence comes from.

Follow for more therapy insights, anxiety education, and psychology explanations.

20/03/2026

🫴Thank you and Molly Lipson for inviting me to contribute to an article on OCD.

✨️Speading awareness and talking more about OCD and mental health is so meaningful and so much needed.