Clear Water Therapy

16/02/2026

It doesn't change what's happened, it might not completely shift the ache but healing means letting go to create something beautiful inspite of it all.

14/02/2026

Self-care is: caring for ourselves. Anything that we deliberately do (or refrain from doing) with our own well-being in mind.

It means giving ourselves the same grace, compassion, and care that we give to others.

Self-care can be found in how something makes us feel not the task itself. If your drawn to slow down and connect inward you might take a bath for example, it’s not the act of washing that’s the self-care, it’s what you enjoy about it. The sensation of the warm water on your skin, the scents of the oils you use in the water, the warm silence when you close your eyes...

We spend our whole life with ourself yet we schedule time in our diary to speak with family, to meet friends for coffee, drinks and dinner, go a walk. We schedule time in to connect with other people but neglect to put effort into ourself because we “don’t have the time”.

Self-care is about scheduling time in to connect with yourself and making that a priority. To become your own friend. To love and appreciate your needs, and to listen to what they are and act accordingly.

Self-care is more than pampering ourselves: self-care requires work that looks a little different for everyone.

It might mean admitting that you can’t heal alone and allowing yourself to accept help. It might mean setting boundaries, and learning that it’s okay to say no to requests you aren’t comfortable with, or it might mean saying yes to new experiences and expanding your comfort zone. It might mean replacing toxic habits with healthier coping mechanisms, like meditation or exercise, or it might mean letting yourself indulge for a short time.

Self-care is fluid and what it looks and feels like each day might change.

So on this valentines how will you show yourself love and connection?

11/02/2026

Six uncomfortable lessons we all need to learn.

1. Your self love must be stronger than your desire to be loved.

2. You are always responsible for your emotional reactions.

3. Don't feed your problems with thoughts, starve them with action.

4. Your life will be defined by your ability to handle uncertainty.

5. If your goal is to have a healthier mind, start by removing all the junk from your diet.

6. Your 'best life' won't seek validation, but insecurity will.


Buddhism

07/02/2026

Sometimes people don't have the capacity to love us in the way we need to be loved.

For survivors of relational trauma this can make us question whether we are useful or helpful enough, if we add value. Because our experiences have taught us that we aren't valuable or wanted unless we have something extra to give.

That means people will leave us, reject us or abandon us.

Recovery comes from creating a home. A place to be accepted, not unfairly judged, forgiven for being human. A place where we aren't lied to or abandoned.

This starts within, from a home we build for ourselves, one we carry with us wherever we go. A place of love, forgiveness and acceptance.

This changes who we let onto our world. And when we have safety, stability, acceptance we heal.

I've tried something different the past couple of weeks with

This was out of my comfort zone and as I heal from injury

Something that challenged me both physically and mentally.

I found that I both enjoy and get peace from each class. I'm strengthening my core, stabilising myself and building on my strength.

Thank you for welcoming me into your class Lisa.

07/02/2026

06/02/2026

Why We Go to Therapy

The real work doesn't happen in answers, or explanations, or insight.

It happens in the spaces between words: in discomfort, in noticing, in hearing ourselves think, in choosing not to believe every story we tell.

We talk to ourselves more than anyone else ever will, and so often what we say isn't kind, helpful, or even true.

When we can name the hurt, loosen the grip, accept what is, and choose differently at a familiar intersection that is when the cycle breaks.

~ Kaylin Weir

05/02/2026

Life is what we create and not something that happens to us.

It is in all that we experience, in the very moment we are in right now and all the moments in between. In the ordinary, the extraordinary and the mundane. It isn’t waiting, it won’t start when…

A journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved, its only certainty is that nothing is permanent and this too shall pass.

03/02/2026

‘Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace’ Jonathan Lockwood Huie

The gift of forgiveness isn’t a gift for someone who’s wronged you but actually one of the greatest gifts you can ever give to yourself.

Anger and hate are natural human reactions to being wronged, it’s ok to accept them for what they are and to feel them deeply. Only then can you allow them to lead you to what’s truly important.

Use your values and principles to guide you into something lighter, paving the way forward. Avoid acting in the darkness of these emotions because hate alone is counterproductive.

Forgiveness, I know, isn’t always easy. And it’s important to realise that forgiveness isn’t always necessary either.

Remember even if you can understand the actions of someone who has caused you pain it doesn’t make their behaviour excusable. Ultimately they are accountable, you can only work on your own reactions, boundaries and worth.

Acknowledging and validating your own feelings without reacting immediately will lead you to what’s important.

Love.

What you practice grows.

“𝐻𝒶𝓉𝑒 𝒸𝒶𝓃’𝓉 𝒹𝓇𝒾𝓋𝑒 𝑜𝓊𝓉 𝒽𝒶𝓉𝑒; 𝑜𝓃𝓁𝓎 𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒 𝒸𝒶𝓃” 𝑀𝒶𝓇𝓉𝒾𝓃 𝐿𝓊𝓉𝒽𝑒𝓇 𝒦𝒾𝓃𝑔

02/02/2026

The healing power of a hug 🫂❤️

“Sends cues of safety to your nervous system
Softens feelings of loneliness
Releases serotonin and dopamine, boosting happiness
Helps bring feelings of trust and security
Releases oxytocin which deepens connection
Brings ease and feelings of comfort
Reduces stress and anxiety.
Helps alleviate pain
Brings support and feelings of being understood
Helps us feel that we are loved
Conveys feelings beyond words”

The intamacy of a hug can feel vulnerable, if your defences are up you can instinctively feel the urge to break free. But if you feel safe enough with the person try leaning into that, hold past any discomfort. See if you can let go.

It’s in that moment that all these wonderful chemicals will be released, allowing you to feel better and more grounded.

A hug is a medicine, given with love and compassion it has the power to heal the sadness, the fear and everything else that’s spilling over from being pushed down.

Quote .e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e

01/02/2026

“Sometimes clarity comes later. Sometimes pain isn't felt until the harm is over. Sometimes we don't know something is a problem until we experience something new or different.

So many of us spent our childhoods enduring, which means that we likely didn't get to see what a healthy relationship looks like. And if we were busy tolerating our environment, we likely didn't recognize all the ways that what we were feeling just wasn't right. If all we've known is harmful, unhealthy relationships, then we are unlikely to see the relational problems that exist in our current connections.

It can be really eye-opening when someone treats you differently than you've ever been treated. Grief can immediately feel present when someone is soft with you in places others have always been hard. We may feel flooded with recognition of our trauma if someone responds to us in a reasonable way following a lifetime of people under and over-reacting.

We might feel caught off-guard by kindness. We might feel shocked when an exchange is honest and easy. We might feel overwhelmed by our awareness that things didn't have to be the way they always have been.

Trauma doesn't have to be the norm. Pain doesn't have to exist everywhere. Your guard doesn't always have to be up.

To those of you learning what trauma looks and feels like in your relationships, I see you.”

Quote and caption written by Danica Harris


Only yesterday I found myself having a casual conversation over coffee about just this.

I reflected on my own experience of how this feels. I remembered some really big emotions that I experienced as I result, and from where I stand today I was able to look back and recognise how this alone helped me to grow. How being met with something different helped me to move out of what is both comfort of old patterns and discomfort of the pain associated to the same.

It may have been my first step towards recognising that relationships should feel both safe and reciprocal.

People confuse trauma as an event but trauma is not the thing that happens, it’s what happens within us as a result.

31/01/2026

We all have attachment styles, they show up in our friendships, in our relationships and in all other areas of our interpersonal connections.

Some areas may be impacted more than others, when triggered these can prompt unhelpful thinking patterns, or behaviour that results in disconnection. Secure attachment however can prompt healthier boundaries, deeper connection and intamacy and increase reciprocal relationship dynamics.

Learning to identify and understand your own attachment style, and in many cases that of your partner, can help to nurture and improve communication, reduce misunderstandings and help you to grow closer.

You can begin to recognise that more often than not perceived problems stem from a projection of our own inner fears and maladaptive coping.

When we understand what we need and learn to communicate this in healthy ways we foster opportunities to see where others are able to meet us where we need and deserve them to. It can highlight where some relationships are limited and let us make decisions on what and who we chose to share our energy with. It also allows us to grow and stop limiting ourselves in what we can give and receive in our relationships.