Clear Water Therapy

22/11/2025

Functional freeze, a reality that we rarely recognise yet life for so many.

Dissociation keeps us safe, we perform when we need to, we switch off to the pain but that also turns off joy. We show up and on the surface look like we have it all together, until we don't

19/11/2025

"We accept the love we think We deserve."
Stephen Chbosky

When we allow ourself to be seen fully we become vulnerable to the possibility of pain, yet without doing so we can't love completely. Unconsciously we perpetuate our own wounds, the very wounds our barriers intended to protect us from.

Often the human mind makes sense of what happens in order to feel safe enough, this is its attempt for homeostasis yet this natural survival instinct can leave us locked into old patterns and relation dis-ease. Mistreatment becomes normal and in many cases sets the standard of what we believe we deserve.

When healthy relationships come along they feel unsafe, alien. You wait for the other foot to drop. You mirror old ways of coping when there is no threat. Your state of survival arousal increases and you believe this will be the moment it all changes. But it doesn't. Every moment of consistency, every act of kindness, compassion, validation and safety begins to challenge your unsupported distortions in your belief system about yourself, others and the world.

"People are afraid to heal because their entire identity is centered around the trauma they've experienced. They have no idea who they are outside of trauma and that unknown is terrifying." Ebonee Davis

But just like a cut on your skin will heal itself under the right conditions so does the mind. We are relational beings and like broken arms sometimes need support so does the mind.

For some people the first 'safe' relationship they will experience will be with their therapist. Therapists facilitate the right conditions for your inner system to shift but you heal yourself.

However you can't heal in isolation forever, regulation happens in relationships and change happens in discomfort. So lean into it, trust as your old patterns break down that your self worth with increase and the people and boundaries you hold will change in reflection of this.

18/11/2025

Often when we reach the point of wanting to grow, to learn and deeply connect to ourselves the innate pull is to open up to the world around us and reach out to others on the same deeper level.

Sometimes lessons come from the deepest of pain, sometimes the lessons come from reaching crisis and other times the journey itself can feel like the most challenging aspect of growth.

As a therapist I'm powerless in the knowledge that my journey, my lessons will last a lifetime. Sharing these by reaching out to offer support to others on their own journey is my purpose.

Author Unknown

14/11/2025

11/11/2025

Perfection is an illusion, the blink of an eye, a moment in time. Perfection isn’t something to be sustained - sustained perfection is stagnation.

"I think perfection is ugly.
Somewhere in the things humans make, I want to see scars, failure, disorder, distortion."
Yohji' Yamamoto

If your moving forward, living and growing then your failing, and trying, and learning, and loving, and hurting. Your disorganised, your getting back up and your trying again. Each fall, every scar shapes you, redirects you and builds on your purpose.

You need it all.

11/11/2025

A poppy will grow where ever it lands, in the cracks on the pavement, at the side of the road, in poor soil and difficult environments. Let it remind you of hope.

11:11

07/11/2025

The road to recovery can look a lot like this. When we commit to a therapeutic journey with ourself we quickly learn that there is no ‘quick fix’.

When goals are worth time we must lean into working with them, even when they feel hard or at times impossible.

Don’t forget to look back often, progress is made in the baby steps.

06/11/2025

s t r e s s • a w a r e n e s s

Stress and having times of feeling under pressure is a normal part of life. It can help us to take action, feel more energised and get results. But when we feel overwhelmed by stress our body is telling us enough is enough, it's these feelings that could start to be a problem. Recognising the signs is something we can all learn to do.

If your unsure if something is a problem for you ask yourself is this having any negative impact on my day to day life.

The signs are different for all of us and may change depending what else is going on. You may notice that you begin to feel more tired, find it difficult to sleep, have headaches or experience stomach problems.

Becoming physically unwell creates anxiety and more stress.

We are all able to cope, perform and thrive with stress in small amounts, however in a society where chronic stress is considered a normal part of life we may have forgotten to listen to our bodies, recognise the signs or even know how to exist any other way.

Isn't is scary to think that we have become so accustomed to stress that sometimes our mind creates more of it for us thinking we need the stress to stay safe... this is anxiety's job.

Chronic stress releases hormones called cortisol and adrenaline. This is the body's automatic way of preparing to respond to a threat, sometimes called the 'fight, flight, freeze, fawn' response. If you're often stressed then you're probably producing high levels of these hormones all the time, which can make you feel physically unwell and could affect your health in the longer term.

Chronic stress = inflammation.

Therefore it's no surprise more of us are experiencing complications with our physical health and a decline in our emotional and mental wellbeing.

l used to think I needed to be stressed, I told myself it was good for me, it was my driver, it made me successful and although that can be true the long term high levels of stress I put my body through ultimately resulted in burnout; a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

It was only here at my rock bottom that I found a better way, a happier way to live. But you don't need to hit rock bottom if you can learn to identify the signs of stress and choose to find new ways to achieve balance.

Take some pressure off yourself, what can you let go?