17/06/2020
i-SKY Solstice Update June 2020
This is the first update of 2020 - but, as you may have noticed, there has been a lot going on...
The purpose of these updates is, of course, to let folks know what is going on in and around i-SKY but one of the features of life at the moment is the spectacular uncertainty about whatever is going to happen next. Uncertainty is encoded into the DNA of life but, as we try to plan our next steps, some times and situations present as more uncertain than others. The one thing I am confident in asserting is that whatever does come next - we will all begin in broad disagreement about it. Some will advocate responding to whatever presents in the "obvious" way, whilst others will strongly oppose this course as being exactly what should not be done. Our collective response begins as a three way split - for, against and with the remaining folks ignoring, or just not noticing, the challenge/opportunity. How it ends depends on how willing we each are to engage with opposing views - to influence and be influenced - to come to a common understanding - to make the journey from "me to we."
The yogi sits at the confluence of divergent viewpoints aware of each and attached to none.This does not mean s/he is indifferent, the yogi lights the way, s/he is a pathfinder, sitting at the point from which unified action can commence (or not).
UPCOMING THIS WEEKEND
DON'T MISS SOLSTICE RETREAT THIS WEEKEND (on a device near you).
Covid-19 restrictions mean we cannot offer our popular early summer event at Ufton Court in this year so instead our graduating students are offering a virtual event to the world - and it will be FREE (charitable donations suggested). The drop in program has something for everyone (including solstice sunrise from StoneHenge). Further information from: Reveal Your Radiance (please note pre-registration is required) https://i-sky.net/events/reveal. See also: Facebook https://www.facebook.com/revealyourradianceretreat/ & Instagram https://www.instagram.com/revealyourradianceretreat/
CONCERNS
Serious historical concerns about the conduct of Yogi Bhajan raised this year led to an ongoing investigation in the USA. The i-SKY response is detailed at i-SKY.net/concerns where the outcome of the investigation will also be published. https://i-sky.net/concerns On 25 May the scope of the page was widened to include the unrelated concerns raised by the movement engendered by the death of George Floyd, an African American man killed by police during an arrest in Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA. Learn Support Donate https://i-sky.net/concerns
SELF AWARENESS
It would not be an i-SKY update without a little timeless wisdom from "A Short Guide to Self Awareness" by Judy Fraser - on this occasion addressing both Fear and Denial:
Fear
It is often said that fear is a built-in defence mechanism, deliberately designed by the Creator. If we had no fear of crossing the road, for instance, we might misjudge the speed or distance of an oncoming car and get badly hurt. Despite the fact that fear can sometimes be helpful, we are trained to think of it as a negative emotion. As young children we are constantly told: “There is nothing to be afraid of” while being expected to embrace fearlessly every new experience or concept immediately. Fear, we soon come to realise, is not something to be readily admitted, rather it should be denied or hidden. Little boys are taught to puff out their chests and boast about not being afraid of anything. Girls perhaps have a little more leeway, they at least are allowed to cry! As adults, if we can view fear as an often helpful and natural control mechanism, we might learn how to work with it and perhaps even be grateful to it as a signal which warns us against overextending ourselves. Most of us become nervous, fearful or anxious when we are endeavouring to learn a new skill and similarly notice that as we become more adept and familiar, fear subsides. When this happens, as it almost constantly does when we are young and everything is new, adults will unwittingly try to divert or suppress our fear. This is another example of a case where we absorb negative vibrations. Though the adult is trying to be helpful this negative reaction to a child’s fear can be very counter-productive. It does not actually work with the fear, bring it out into the open or help the child accept it, let alone overcome it. This is what we are left to work with, as adults, both in ourselves and with our children. We must first acknowledge and accept that we (or they) are experiencing fear before we can overcome it. If our own childhood fears have been suppressed, or if we have not been in an atmosphere where it was safe to express fear, we need to re-learn our creative expression and communication. Upon acceptance, fear becomes an aid to our progress and expansion, rather than a paralysing, anxiety-producing nuisance. As we learn more about our inner working, we open to new levels of confidence and understanding. When we know more about what to expect we reduce the incidence of the unexpected having the power to bowl us over and we are more prepared to deal with unpleasant occurrences when they do arise. Ironically, when we consciously engage in self-discovery fears may seem more real, vivid and BIGGER than ever, so enormous and so plentiful that we think they can’t possibly be diluted, let alone dissolved never to return. It seems a vicious circle. We often think it better to ignore or suppress our fears (as our parents taught us), out of the fear (there it is again) that we might inadvertently be feeding fear by acknowledging it at all. Where to begin? What we must understand is that the same energy which fed rather than dispelled our fears can be used now to disperse them and rectify the imbalance. First, accept rather than deny that your fears exist. Talk about them. If you actively seek counselling, information and guidance, there will be so many of your own resources for you to process and examine, so much for you to synthesise and think about that you will notice your fears diminish as they become transformed into food for further expansion.
Denial: Facing Change
From the time we are small we are told about the world, told who we are, what we should be, what is or isn’t good for us. Especially when we are youngsters, we actively express a willingness to experience – sometimes in an open challenge, or rebellion against what has been told to us by others. We are not afraid of change; we are afraid not to change. When we are discouraged by our elders from experiencing things for ourselves, we often respond to their advice with the challenge “Who is to say that what is correct for you will be the same for me? I am not afraid to learn for myself!” It is only later, perhaps as a result of negative experiences, that we become afraid of and resistant to change. All our lives, we question the rules and regulations imposed upon us. Many of us recognise that rules – since they were supposedly designed to aid us – should be flexible. They should, ideally, be adaptable to change, as we must be, to survive the variable and complex stages of life. There is a time to question and a time to accept. When, for example, a loved person or way of life outlives its usefulness or becomes destructive to us, we need to know how to deal with the situation and that we can help ourselves to create the space to move on. When we forget that we are in the cradle of Mother Nature our reaction is one of denial. We can’t accept the change becoming apparent in our lives, yet we can’t deny it either. An internal conflict can arise, where we feel we must move on and expand, yet we are afraid of change, fearful of hurting someone (or being hurt ourselves), afraid of letting go, unsure of what may follow. We might even feel that life has suddenly lost all meaning. Shadows of the past emerge; we are uncertain and a great chasm of loneliness, perhaps inertia, overwhelms us. When we have finished a chapter in our lives we can learn to be willing to leave it. We can give ourselves permission to remove ourselves from the experience or place or person that has, in effect, died. Some of us are now reaching that stage in our awareness where we realise that many of the rules by which we have allowed ourselves (or not) to be moulded and guided have become crystallised and outdated. We see that we must establish new guidelines, perhaps even belief systems, which will further and nurture personal – and collective – growth. Looking at it from another point of view, it is much harder to see that we also impose our beliefs and projections on others. Good intentions exist on both “sides” but it is just as intolerable to impose our conditions on others as it is to have theirs imposed upon us! Again, adaptability, flexibility and open-mindedness are essential. There is no real security in the cloak of concepts and projections that many of us wear. Whether it is of our creation or others, the protection that such a cloak affords is of the flimsiest kind. Eventually we must all become free of that outer layer of conditioning, and move on and into deeper aspects of the self.
Extracted from a Short Guide to Self Awareness by Judy Fraser Click here to download a copy of A Short Guide to Self Awareness https://i-sky.net/now/faq
Those of you wishing to read more about Judy - her life and her work outside of i-SKY - can find her books published by Landraagon http://www.landraagon.com/landraagon-publishing - read her i-SKY Blogs https://i-sky.net/now/blog - or enjoy the Spiritual Psychotherapy video chats Judy recorded with Ash https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6Ijnob1LBZlqao2vbYamWB_6n3al6xzK
UPCOMING EVENTS
In these uncertain times our courses may start, continue or finish online.
Please visit i-SKY.net/events https://i-sky.net/events and KundaliniMedicine https://kundalinimedicine.com/ for the latest information.
ONLINE:
Every Wednesday The Light of Kundalini - a 2 hour online practice with Guru Dharam (London UK time) email :gdappt@i-sky.net for more info.
Every Saturday: Kundalini Cave - a 2 hour online practice with Guru Dharam (New York USA time) https://dreamhivenyc.com/dream-hive-virtual-studio
From 10 July K1 Level 1 Kundalini Yoga Teacher Training with BenJahmin (Liverpool UK time) https://i-sky.net/events/level-1-kundalini-yoga-instructors-course-north-liverpool-2020
From 10 July K2 Level 2 Conscious Communication with Guru Dharam & Darryl (Reading UK time) https://i-sky.net/events/level-2-teacher-training-conscious-communication-2020
24-26 July Rebirthing with Andrea & Michael (Cologne Germany time) https://www.i-sky.de
27 July - 2 August K2 LifeCycles & LifeStyles with Guru Dharam (Cologne Germany time) https://www.i-sky.de
18-23 August Yoga Therapy Training The Healing Field with Guru Dharam (New York USA time) https://dreamhivenyc.com/ytmodule6
25-30 August Yoga Therapy Training The Twisted Hair with Guru Dharam (Stockholm Sweden time) https://yogadimensions.se/portfolio/kundalini-yoga-therapy-training-2020
22-27 September Level 2 Conscious Communication with Darryl (Warsaw Poland time) https://www.facebook.com/events/224733645243075/
From 9 October K1 Level 1 Kundalini Yoga Teacher Training with Darryl & Livtar (Reading UK time) https://i-sky.net/teacher-training/k1