Heather Garbutt Love & Relationship Coach

03/03/2026

A wonderful day at West Berkshire Athena networking group. These are wonderful women doing great things in the world and supporting each other tremendously. This was for International Women’s Day and the theme was giving. Such hearts!! HxXx

26/02/2026

As February comes to a close, I want to name this gently.

If dating has felt confusing, heavy or more draining than you expected this month, you’re not alone. It doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

Often, what’s missing isn’t effort or strategy, but a clear internal anchor. A sense of what you’re available for now, what truly matters to you and what you no longer want to compromise on.

That’s why I created Dating with Clarity. Not as something to fix you and not as a set of rules, but as a way to slow things down and come back to yourself.

Inside the guide, we start with your values and intentions, then look at how to approach dating apps with more discernment, how to recognise emotional availability earlier and how to stop second-guessing yourself after dates.

If you’d like support continuing this work, Dating with Clarity is available until the end of February for £7.

You can access it via my website https://heathergarbutt.com/dating-with-clarity/

25/02/2026

After a session like the Live Love Visioning, something often lingers.

It isn’t always dramatic. It can feel like a subtle internal shift. A steadiness that wasn’t quite there before. Or a tenderness that asks to be handled gently.

That in-between space matters.

The real work isn’t only what happens in the session itself, but how you stay connected to what surfaced in the days that follow. Whether you override it, or whether you allow it to deepen quietly.

If you weren’t able to join live, or you’d like to revisit the experience at your own pace, I’m sharing the audio visioning replay by email. You can request it via my website and I’ll send it directly to you.
https://heathergarbutt.com/

And if you feel ready for something more structured to support this integration, the Dating With Clarity guide is available throughout February for £7. It’s there to help you translate insight into steadier choices.

There’s no rush. Just an invitation to continue, in a way that feels intentional and supported.

20/02/2026

I recently had Lisa Hawkins on my podcast and we spoke about something I see again and again in my work, the part of us that does the choosing.

Lisa calls it the “picker”. The often unconscious part that feels drawn to someone before our steadier adult self has had a say.

What we explored is how chemistry can sometimes be familiarity rather than compatibility. How intensity can feel like alignment and how, without realising it, we can keep choosing from an old blueprint while telling ourselves we just need to try harder.

This is why I care so much about internal clarity and steadiness before dating. If your inner compass feels shaky, it doesn’t matter how many profiles you scroll through. You’ll still be choosing from the same place.

The Dating With Clarity guides were created to support exactly this shift. Not to make you more strategic or guarded, but to help you feel anchored enough inside yourself that you can recognise what is actually right for you.

They’re available throughout February for £7 if this feels like the right next step and you can listen to the podcast on my website here: https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/understanding-your-picker-lisa-hawkins/

18/02/2026

18/02/2026

One of the most common misunderstandings about inner work is the idea that once something shifts, it shouldn’t resurface.

In reality, old patterns often reappear briefly as we integrate new awareness. The difference is how we meet them.

Do we judge ourselves and tighten up, or do we stay curious and steady with a loving presence?

My Dating with Clarity guide was created for exactly this phase. It supports you in staying connected to yourself, your boundaries and your intentions without pressure.

The guide is available throughout February for £7, and you can access it via my website here: https://heathergarbutt.com/dating-with-clarity/

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16/02/2026

Whether you joined the Live Love Visioning yesterday or not, this moment afterwards matters.

Often, it’s not only the session itself that creates the deepest change, but what happens in the days that follow. The way you continue the conversation with yourself. The way you stay connected to what you felt or noticed.

For those who want support with that integration, I’ve created a Dating With Clarity Guide, available throughout February for £7.

It’s designed to help you ground what you experienced, or to begin this work in your own time if today wasn’t the right moment to join live.

You can access an audio visioning recording of the Live Love Visioning and the £7 guide via my website. https://heathergarbutt.com/dating-with-clarity/

There is no rush here. Just an invitation to keep walking the path, in a way that feels steady and supported.

13/02/2026

Sometimes the most significant shifts don’t begin with meeting someone new.

They begin with realising there are things you couldn’t see clearly on your own.

When Shilleen first came to this work, it wasn’t because she hadn’t reflected or grown. It was because something still wasn’t landing in her love life in the way she wanted it to. The patterns felt familiar. The insight was there. But the shift hadn’t fully happened.

One of the things I care deeply about in this work is helping women see what they couldn’t see alone, not through fixing or forcing, but through careful, attuned questioning and emotional safety.

As she described it, light began to shine where it was needed.

That internal clarity created what she called “quantum leaps forward”. Not because she tried harder, but because she stopped overriding herself.

This is the foundation of the Live Love Visioning I’m hosting on Sunday at 3pm GMT. It’s a guided session designed to help you slow down, feel steadier internally, and gently see what may not be fully visible yet.

If you feel you’ve done a lot of inner work, but something still isn’t quite shifting, this may be a supportive place to begin.

You can sign up at my website here: https://heathergarbutt.com/live-love-visioning/
The replay will be available if you can’t attend live.

12/02/2026

Are you fed up of dodgem dating?

The kind where you keep bumping into people who bounce off just as quickly. Or the ones who corner you in ways that don’t feel good. You try to steer, but it still feels chaotic.

What if dating didn’t feel like that?

What if it felt more like that other image I described, two people riding the Big Dipper, arms around each other, laughing. Safe. Joyful. In harmony. Enjoying the ride rather than bracing for impact.

That kind of relationship doesn’t begin with luck. It begins with clarity. With knowing who you are, what you want, and how you want to feel in love.

On Sunday 15 February at 3pm GMT, I’m hosting a Live Love Visioning on Zoom. It’s a guided session where you’ll explore who you want, who you’re becoming, and what you’re ready to experience in your next relationship.

You don’t need to speak or share unless you want to. The session is gently held, and a replay will be sent if you can’t attend live.

If you’re ready to move away from dodgems and towards something steadier and more joyful, you’re very welcome to join us.

You’ll find the sign-up page on my website here: https://heathergarbutt.com/live-love-visioning/

11/02/2026

A few years ago, I found myself alone on Valentine’s Day, and I made a decision.

Not to settle, not to give up, but to open the door to love again, intentionally and wholeheartedly.

That decision became the beginning of Calling in the One, and it’s the year I met my partner.

This isn’t theory. It’s lived experience. What mattered wasn’t rushing or forcing an outcome. It was choosing to relate to love differently, from a place of openness and self-trust.

Your story isn’t over. And love isn’t a race you’re behind in. It’s a path you can choose to walk from exactly where you are.

I’ll be guiding a Live Love Visioning on Sunday 15 February at 3pm, supporting others to make that same internal shift.

You can sign up via my website here: https://heathergarbutt.com/live-love-visioning/
My audio visioning guide recording is included.
HxXx

09/02/2026

The women who come to this work are rarely closed to love.

More often, they are capable, self-aware women who have done a lot of inner work and are quietly exhausted from trying to stay hopeful on their own.

One client described it as finally feeling “safe enough to stop holding everything together”. From that place, everything began to shift, not just externally, but in how she related to herself, her boundaries, and what she allowed in.

This is why I don’t teach effort or fixing. I focus on safety, because when the nervous system settles, openness returns naturally.

This is the foundation of the Live Love Visioning I’ll be hosting on Sunday 15 February at 3pm. It’s a guided, live session focused on internal steadiness and openness, with an audio replay included.

I’ll be sharing more about it over the coming days.

08/02/2026

I want to be clear about what this work actually is, because clarity creates safety.

On Sunday 15 February, 3–4.30pm GMT, I’ll be hosting a Live Love Visioning. It’s a guided, live session focused on helping your internal system feel safer being open to love, without forcing, fixing, or performing positivity.

This isn’t about manifesting harder or visualising a particular outcome. It doesn’t ask you to override what you’re feeling or push past your own signals.

Instead, we work gently with emotional safety and attunement. When that safety is there, connection no longer feels like something you have to manage or strive for. Openness becomes more natural, and relationships feel less effortful.

I’ll be sharing more details about the Live Love Visioning, and how it works, by email over the coming days.