
17/12/2024
As part of my practice, I access a variety of training and professional development. I usually search and find trainings that are of interest to me, also when my client work highlights a need or stirs a curiosity in me.
This week I completed training with Carolyn Spring about SHAME.
I've been working as a therapist for over 10 years now and shame continues to be a huge part of the process for many people I work with. It comes up in my clients, in comes up in me, and it comes up in relationships around me.
Shame, blame, and guilt comes up a lot! It's a huge part of our society and difficult to escape.
Quite simply, the antidote seems to be compassion from others, and compassion from self. But is it really as simple as that? Well, not always. It can be easier for some than others depending on the depths of their pain and suffering.
To be able to reach self-compassion we might have to acknowledge any responsibility, we might need to process grief and loss, and then we will hopefully be able to reach self-compassion, repair our relationships and sooth our wounds. It's not always easy. It's not always a quick process, it can often take time and can feel quite painful. It can also feel liberating and empowering.
With the help of a compassionate therapist who is calm, grounded, respectful, empathic and caring, you can work through your feelings of shame in a way that feels manageable. Co-regulation with a skilled therapist who can help you process trauma, grief, and ruptures to enable you to reach a place of repair can be lifechanging.