31/03/2026
One thing I’ve been acknowleging and learning from recently is how easy it is to normalise things that actually weren’t healthy for us growing up.
When something is all you’ve known, you don’t question it you adapt to it.
But adaptation isn’t always the same as looking after your own wellbeing or others.
I’ve been doing a lot of work around understanding my own patterns, learning how to regulate my nervous system, and building a sense of self-worth that isn’t based on what I tolerate.
A big part of that has been learning to put boundaries in place not from a place of anger, but from a place of care.
Especially now I have children, I see things through a completely different lens.
I don’t expect everyone to understand it, and that’s okay.
But I know I’m committed to growing, healing, and doing things differently moving forward.
Taking part in different theraputical practices has definitly supported me on my journey.
I took part in a Newcastle Dance Collective workshop at the weekend shout out to Helen Whitehead holding space. Which was brill as always.
My therapist had given me homework to open space and put myself first without deflecting to 'I'm doing this really for others rather than myself' or feeling guilty for doing things for myself.
And I can tell you I feel great for it!
Yes it may bring up some situations I have been confronted with in my past that were unplesent to be polite about it, but I can then see it through new lenses, process it and learn a new way to look at such things.
I'm back in hospital soon for my 4th spinal procedure, 2nd this year and each time I can look back at the work I have been doing to support myself and see how I have stronger foundations.
Fingers crossed all goes well and thank you to my support network.
Peace and love x
Glynis
