Better Me Better Us

16/09/2025

"Parental alienation, far from a buzz word, needs to be a discussion too..."

16/09/2025

👂 EARS – a simple but powerful tool from Solution Focused Brief Therapy.

✨ Elicit – ask what’s better
✨ Amplify – explore the details
✨ Reflect – play back their strengths
✨ Start again – keep the positives flowing
Teachers, social workers, and professionals can use EARS to help children and young people notice progress, build confidence, and see their own solutions.

Sometimes the smallest questions spark the biggest change.

16/09/2025

By Professor Keith Moultrie Most children who are the subject of a special guardianship order (SGO) or are adopted do well, with families able to promote their children’s wellbeing, emotional development and achievement with or without support from professionals. However, this is not always the ca...

13/09/2025

💫 NEW PODCAST EPISODE OUT NOW 💫

Episode 28 - Violence Against Women and Girls
This month’s podcast is all about Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG).

It’s a tough but really important conversation. We chat about how this issue shows up in the lives of children and young people, especially in schools and online, and why it matters so much for those of us working with or parenting children and young people.

It’s not about policy or box-ticking, it’s about the real impact, the human side, and what we can do to make sure kids feel safe, supported and believed.

🎧 https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-adoption-and-fostering-podcast/id1164600703?i=1000725656104

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12/09/2025

When we think about children with a background of trauma, it’s important to remember:

🗣️Trauma is often their loudest voice.

The behaviours we see on the outside – anger, withdrawal, defiance, perfectionism, are not the whole story.

They’re survival strategies.

Ways of communicating pain, fear, and unmet needs.

When we shift our lens from “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”, we begin to hear beyond the noise of trauma and connect with the child underneath.

11/09/2025

What’s the real story? 🧠 This week’s guide investigates the online spread of conspiracy theories, the safeguarding harms they pose, and how to help young people steer clear of harmful beliefs and misinformation.

Download your FREE copy here 👉 https://vist.ly/469kj

11/09/2025

Children can get a lot of mixed messages about online safety in school and at home, and sometimes it can be confusing for them if they see adults around them following different advice.

Here are some things you can do to set a good example 👇

For more support and advice see: https://bit.ly/3KnIl27

10/09/2025

https://bettermebetterus.co.uk/su***de-prevention-month-the-language-we-use/

September is su***de prevention month so it has made us stop and think about the language we use when it comes to su***de. Su***de can be an uncomfortable subject to talk about for a lot of people. It can be hard to

05/09/2025

Only 3 Weeks Left! Get Your Tickets & Join the Fun! 🎟️

Our first BIG family event (https://fb.me/e/6H04xLr1X) is just three weeks away, and trust us, you don't want to miss this! We have so much lined up for an incredible day:

🎈Entertainment: Don't miss the amazing Magician and Balloon Act from 3:15 PM - 4:15 PM!

🍭 Activities: Enjoy crafts, temporary tattoos, the popular "Holly's Lolly's" stall, an outside play park, and giant games.

🧁 Food & Drink: We'll have plenty of refreshments and cake available.

🐼 Raffle Prizes: We have some fantastic raffle prizes to be won!

😍 Community: This is a great chance to meet other families and build connections.

Free Ticket Giveaway! 🎁
We're giving away a set of tickets for one lucky family (2 adults and 2 children) to attend for free! To enter the random draw, simply comment below and tell us what you enjoy most in your family life.

Please help us spread the word! Share this post with any adoptive families you know who would love a day out like this! This event is for ALL adoptive families.

See you in 3 weeks!

05/09/2025

Traumatised children won’t always trust your words, they’ll be watching your actions.

You can say “you’re safe here” or “I’m a safe Mummy/Daddy” but if your behaviour doesn’t consistently match those words, trust won’t grow.

For children who have experienced trauma, safety is felt in what you do. It’s about showing up, keeping boundaries, being predictable, consistent and proving with your actions that you mean what you say.

Trust is built slowly, through consistency and care, not promises and words alone!