Listening to Mums Saves Lives

15/05/2026

Losing a child changes your mind in ways nobody could ever prepare you for.

People see the tears, but they don’t see the constant battle going on inside your head every single day.

Since losing Pandora, my mind still searches for her everywhere.

A mother is supposed to hear her baby cry, pick her up, comfort her, protect her and watch her grow. That love and instinct doesn’t just disappear because your baby dies. If anything, it feels even stronger because all that love suddenly has nowhere to go.

I think that’s why I feel exhausted all the time.

Because even when I sleep, my mind still takes me back to the world where Pandora was here. In my dreams I still get to hold her, talk to her and be her mam without the heartbreak attached to it. For those few moments, everything feels normal again.

Then I wake up.

And for a split second, before reality fully hits, I forget she’s gone.

Then it comes crashing back into me all over again.

The silence.
The emptiness.
The unbearable truth that my daughter is no longer here with me physically.

People think grief is just sadness, but losing a child is deeper than sadness. It changes every part of who you are. It affects your body, your mind, your sleep, your ability to cope with everyday life. It’s like carrying pain inside your chest that never truly leaves.

I catch myself looking for Pandora without even realising.
In babies I pass.
In little outfits.
In quiet moments.
In dreams.
In everything.

And no matter how much time passes, there will always be a part of me wishing I could bring her back.

Some days I cope better than others.
Some days I can smile while talking about her.
Some days I can focus on the happy memories instead of the trauma.

But other days the grief completely consumes me, and all I can think about is how badly I miss my little girl.

I share this because I want people to understand the reality of child loss.

You don’t “move on” from losing your baby.
You learn to survive around the pain.
You carry them with you through every second of your life.

And I truly believe this with my whole heart now:

A mother never stops searching for her child 🤍

“People might think we’re weird but it was something we really needed to do."

14/05/2026

Today Pandora’s story has been shared by our first media page 🤍🕊️

This was never about attention — it has always been about love, grief, awareness and making sure our beautiful little girl is remembered 💔

Sharing our 12 precious days with Pandora has opened conversations around baby loss, cuddle cots and the importance of supporting bereaved families through unimaginable heartbreak.

If you could please give the article a like, share or kind comment, it would mean so much in helping us continue raising awareness and keeping Pandora’s memory alive 🤍

Thank you to everyone who has supported and loved our precious girl with us ✨ ###

“People might think we’re weird but it was something we really needed to do."

14/05/2026

12 days is all we got with you 💔
When it should have been a lifetime.

12 days of holding you.
12 days of loving you.
12 days of making memories we will cherish forever.

No amount of time would ever have been enough, Pandora 🤍🕊️

12/05/2026

Our beautiful Pandora 🤍🕊️

Although we never got the lifetime we dreamed of with you, we were blessed with precious moments that will stay in our hearts forever 💔

Pandora carried an extra chromosome — Trisomy 21 (Down syndrome) 💙💛 and through sharing her story we want to help raise awareness around baby loss, reduced movements in pregnancy and the importance of listening to mums when they feel something isn’t right.

Please always trust your instincts and seek advice if your baby’s movements change or reduce 🤍

Through our pain, we are choosing to spread love, awareness and support for other grieving families so they know they are not alone.

We are honestly so overwhelmed by the love, kindness and support we’ve already received for Pandora’s story 🤍 every message, comment, share and kind word means more to us than we could ever explain.

Please continue sharing our page and helping us spread awareness and support through ListeningToMumsSavesLives 🤍✨

Your little life mattered. Your story matters. And you will always be deeply loved, forever missed and forever remembered ✨

11/05/2026

Sharing this beautiful and honest memorial video created in honour of our precious Pandora 🤍🕊️

This video also gently explains the reality of baby loss, the precious time families get with their babies and how babies naturally change over time. These conversations may be difficult, but they are so important in helping people understand grief, cuddle cots and the heartbreak bereaved families face 💔

Thank you so much for speaking about Pandora with such compassion, dignity and kindness. It truly means more than words can explain 🤍

Forever our girl. Forever loved. Forever remembered ✨

09/05/2026

Just a little update from us 🤍

Our story about beautiful Pandora and our experience bringing her home is now starting to reach the news and bigger platforms. Honestly, I never expected our family’s heartbreak to touch so many people.

The love, support and shared stories from other bereaved parents have meant more than I could ever explain 🤍

One of the biggest reasons I chose to speak openly was to raise awareness around baby loss, cuddle cots and the support/options families may not even know exist until they sadly need them.

If our story helps even one family feel less alone, then Pandora’s little life is already making such a difference 🤍🕊️

Thank you all for the kindness, prayers and support you continue to show our family ###

07/05/2026

Today me and my husband went up to Cruze and Pandora’s grave 🤍

No matter how many times we walk that path, it never gets any easier. Sitting with our babies, talking to them and just being close to them brings a kind of comfort only grieving parents will understand 🤍

Forever loved, forever missed and forever part of our family 🤍🕊️

06/05/2026

Just a update

03/05/2026

I just want to take a moment to say thank you 🤍

The love, kindness and support I’ve received over the last few days has meant more to me than I can ever explain 🤍

I know what I’ve shared isn’t easy for everyone to see, and I truly respect that everyone feels differently 🤍

But this is my baby, and every moment I had with her means everything to me 🤍

Thank you for seeing her, loving her and supporting me 🤍