30/01/2026
I’ve been thinking a lot about self-awareness lately.
Research suggests that around 90–95% of people believe they’re self-aware, but in reality, only 10–15% truly are, according to studies in organizational psychology.
I don’t claim to be part of that group — but I do make a conscious effort to self-reflect.
I often notice patterns: projections, blame, judgment — the loops we unconsciously play out. Once you see them, it’s hard to unsee.
Some traditions call this blindness Wetiko — a kind of psychic virus that feeds on disconnection and self-deception. You can see it everywhere: in systems, in relationships, and within yourself. What’s sad is the individuals affected often have very little insight into how their behaviours impact others and genuinely believe they are acting from love.
I used to feel strongly about holding others accountable, But over time, I’ve learned that not everyone has the capacity — neurologically or emotionally — to confront themselves.
Sometimes it’s easier to believe a convenient untruth than to face the discomfort of the truth.
It’s not always a moral failing; it’s about meeting people where they’re at — finding the balance between your sense of justice and protecting your own peace.
Some people welcome accountability and ask for it.
Others simply can’t — and that’s okay.
These days, I focus on self-awareness as a never ending process, not an identity. There’s no endpoint; we’re all constantly learning and growing.
Ultimately, it all comes back to self — finding the right balance, holding compassion without abandoning yourself, and choosing peace over the need to hold others to account, especially when they’ve shown they’re not ready to take responsibility.
It isn’t about letting people off the hook —
it’s about knowing when the cost to your own well-being is too high, and accepting that some lessons aren’t yours to teach.
Self-awareness isn’t about superiority —
it’s about seeing clearly, loving gently,
and staying true to yourself in a world that often isn’t.
