30/06/2023
Many people strggle with this - our phones and app developers are taking advantage of our ancestral instincts for dopamine responses.
here's something to try - I've done this for myself and the difference is HUGE!
In my early 20's, before I even owned a mobile phone, I was out for a wonderful day of escape exploring rural Northumberland with my boyfriend at the time. It was a day where we could forget about work, about the humdrum of life, about anything else but what was important for us right now - simply spending time in each others company.
He had recently opted into mobile phone ownership - the old Nokia kind with the little green screen where you had to get a repetitive strain injury in the fingers to simply type a text.
During this countryside exploration and escape his phone rang - it was work. Now bear in mind that answerting phones which weren't plugged in or sat at a desk or under the stairs was home. If you weren't hom, you weren't home. You simply missed the call and the person left a message or called back later.
As he answered this work call I felt a discomfort inside. What was this feeling? Why was my reaction so strong? It felt like a warm cocooning velvet cloak of our time and curious exploration had been pulled off by the tinny sound of a digital tune played badly.
This was my first experience of this kind of technology pulling me out of the beautiful present and into a not so useful state.
How little I knew then about just how much us humans would soon begin to live more inside our phones and less in the presence of the present.
A few weeks ago swept along with technology, algorhythms and all the ways social media hypnotises us, and I just wanted to put it down - but the lure of its bright colourful promise of escape kept luring me in. I don't want that for me - and I don't want that for my family either. Enough! Ironically Facebook deliverered something usefully timely...
..a link instructing me how to turn my phone screen to black and white. I did it, I've done it for a few days now and the contrast is stark!
When working with NLP & hypnotherapy, we sometimes use shifts like this (ie: turning a visually remembered difficult memory to black and white can change the structure of the way the memory is held and therefore make it feel more comfortable to recall or process it completely).
turns out the emotional charge or attachment is removed when I turn my iphone screen to black and white.
My phone now bores me.
I use it only for the functional things.
I'm reclaiming my time, sense of wonderment and presence not only within my life as an individual, but also as a family too. And it feels wonderful!
So, if you too are fed up of being a slave t your phone, have a go for yourself and notice the difference for you.
https://betterhumans.pub/how-to-make-your-iphone-black-and-white-and-why-you-should-42e70deb92c7
Thank you Slater - Well Woman Therapies for first posting this for me to discover - it's gold and as you said yourself, a game changer!