10/11/2025
When we talk about retirement, it can often bring to mind a sense of freedom and we can lots of ideas and plans of what retirement may look like.
However retirement can be a real challenge. For many women, especially those who’ve spent decades caring, working, or holding families together, retirement can bring something unexpected: a loss of identity.
For years, your worth may have been tied to your role, productivity, to being useful, to being needed. Then one day, that role stops and this can feel like a huge loss in many different ways.
This can be a time when women can start to question who they are, what is their purpose and can feel lost.
Our roles can shape how we see ourselves. When those roles change whether it’s through retirement, the end of caregiving, or children leaving home our sense of purpose can change.
To make it harder, society doesn’t really prepare us for this. The message is that retirement should be blissful, that you should feel grateful. So when you don’t, shame and even guilt can creep in.
If you’re struggling with the transition, let us know in the comments, has anything helped?